Is it necessary to be well-matched to make friends? Yes!

To make friends, you must be well-matched, right? Yes!

1.

The latest debate topic in "Qi Pa Shuo" is "Do you need to be well-matched to make friends?"

Oh leak. This is such a sad question.

My answer is, yes.

What is a good match? We need to be clear that being well-matched is not just about money.

Being well-matched is based on family background, education, and income. The combination of these three things basically determines your class.

Yes, there are hierarchies between people.

It doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist just because we pretend it doesn’t exist.

When making friends, our original intention is definitely not to find a match. Who the hell would look at a certificate first when making friends? Look at other people’s household registers, their graduation certificates, their pay stubs? I'm sick.

Our motivation is not to be a match, but that’s often the result. Friends who can stay with us for a long, long time are those who are of the same family and similar class to us.

Those who violate this rule will drift away over time.

2.

The little story on Zhihu is very interesting.

A reporter interviewed a child in a kindergarten. This child’s family was rich and he often brought many toys to school to play with. Other children always liked to ask this child for toys to play with.

When the reporter saw that the child was so popular, he asked the child: "You must be so popular, so you must have many friends."

The child said no, I only have one friend, and everyone else will only say "I want it" to me. Only he can take his own toy and say "I want it" to me.

The first principle of getting along with friends is exchange.

Whether it is exchanging feelings, exchanging interests, or exchanging opinions.

It cannot be a one-way output from one party to the other.

The second principle of getting along with friends is equality.

Equivalence in social resources, status, income, knowledge, vision and other aspects. Even equal in appearance.

It is difficult for a friendship that is too different to last long.

3.

It’s time to tell a story about me and my former wealthy friend.

A few years ago, I met a rich second-generation man through an interview, and we had a pretty heated fight for a while.

She talked about the children of relatives who went to work in a small African country for a higher salary.

She really didn’t understand. The original words were like this, just for an annual salary of 1 million, just 1 million.

I said, what the hell is a mere 1 million?

She said, of course, just 1 million. It’s not as much interest as the pocket money my dad gave me.

The interest on the pocket money...

I suffered ten thousand points of damage.

She was a civil servant. Once, someone wanted to give her a watch worth 100,000 yuan in order to entrust her with work.

She refused.

She secretly told me that I had never worn such a cheap watch. On my 18th birthday, the watch my dad gave me was a 280,000 yuan watch.

It took all my strength to stop myself from splashing her with water.

　4.

Once, her family went to the beach for vacation. It rained. They went to take shelter from the rain and found that the place where they took shelter was a real estate sales office.

Since they had nothing to do, they bought two houses.

When I heard about this, I was really heartbroken.

I know that you will definitely suspect that this is false.

I really hope it’s fake.

To say it from the bottom of my heart, the world of rich people is really too exaggerated. I like!

By the way, she not only has houses all over the country, but also bought houses in the United States, Dubai, and Japan.

She said buying a house is a good way to invest.

Then she asked me sincerely and innocently: Buying a house in the United States is really good, why don’t you buy one?

I said, because my bank card balance does not allow me to act like this.

It doesn’t matter that she is a rich person, the key is that she is still an elegant rich person.

When she invited me to watch the play for the eighth time, I really collapsed. To be honest, I sleep very soundly every time when I watch those niche dramas with her.

Go to dinner with her. She loves French food and I will never have enough. After coming out of the French restaurant, I turned around to eat spicy hotpot, and she bumped into me.

In fact, the biggest problem in making cross-class friends is that they are tired. Both parties have to accommodate each other's way of thinking and living habits.

Over time, friendships often end without illness.

5.

We always ask an eternal question: Why did friends who were once such good friends gradually drift away?

The truth is very realistic, because your class is different.

Every graduation is actually a class differentiation.

Realistically speaking, it is difficult for Tsinghua and Lanxiang to become close friends. One talks about drones and the other talks about excavators. It is impossible to chat happily.

Education and wealth will largely determine our circle of friends.

What if your current best friend has class differences with you?

You have two choices:

First, you can be yourself and let him go. Just like in "Good Will Hunting", Ben Affleck and Matt Damon are childhood sweethearts. Ben Affleck has a very classic line:

Every day I drive to your house I'll pick you up at the door and let's go out to drink and talk. It's really fun. But do you know which time I long for most every day? It was the 10 seconds when I got out of the car and walked to your door, longing for you to have already left home when I knocked on the door, leaving without even saying goodbye.

He hopes that one day, Matt Damon can chase his dreams and do what a genius should do. Even if the friendship is no longer.

Second, you keep working hard to reach the same height as him.

The highest state of a friend is, as Jiang Sida said, next to a better you, there is a better me.