The reality is more secular, and those women who live happily are "cruel" enough.

As a woman, we must strive for economic independence first, and then we are qualified to talk about what we should strive for. 15-25 years old, striving for learning and tourism opportunities; Twenty-five to thirty-five, work hard, continue to study, organize a family, and start saving; After the age of 35, if you want to turn your work into a career and study harder, you must have some self-defense assets. -Yi Shu

In the unpredictable materialistic world, if you want to live happily, you must be "hard" on yourself. Unfortunately, many women understand it too late. Organize a family early at the age of twenty-five to thirty-five but have no assets to defend themselves.

I have met many women who still have their own jobs rather than careers after 35. They have income and savings, but they still live cautiously. Struggle in the marriage on the rocks, tacitly safeguard the face of adults in the asexual marriage, tear at each other in the tense relationship, and finally continue to live a numb life.

Yes, this is the normal state of real life. Because true independence is not that you have a job and a drop in the bucket, but that "my mother" is domineering and "vicious". Therefore, "malice" is the source, and economy is the foundation of "hegemony", which determines whether you are cool or not!

Dong Mingzhu became the only woman in the list of outstanding leaders of multinational operations of China enterprises published by Forbes in 20 19. Looking at Dong Mingzhu's resume, he has a brilliant record. 1990 entered gree for sales, and in just two years, the sales exceeded160,000 yuan. Continuous 1 1 year air conditioning sales, output and income ranked first in the country. Almost all the year round, she was named one of the 50 most influential business women in the world by American Fortune magazine.

Hard-working, independent and unyielding, this is the external evaluation of her. She is regarded as a strong woman in business. Dong Mingzhu is losing her husband, her children are young and helpless, and she is wandering the Jianghu alone, forcing herself into a corner. Only she knows the hardships and sorrows best. However, she won the queen's world in a male-dominated world. Do you think she is hard enough on herself?

Although Yu Yu, the chairman of Dangdang, once tore her ex-husband Li Guoqing with her hand, which made people stunned, she still had to admire her "malicious" strength. Aside from the housework of the dog's blood plot, Yu Yu is really decisive and capable, working more than 1 1 hour every day. Starting a new business and competing with yourself will push the development of e-books in China to a new milestone.

It has been her habit and principle to follow the procedure for many years, so when Li Guoqing didn't follow the procedure, Yu Yu naturally abandoned the colt and went flat and agile. Endure that you are an old lady, remember old feelings, and tear yourself up as an old lady. Dangdang is still Dangdang without Li Guoqing, but there is no Li Guoqing without Yu Yu.

Yu Yu is not the woman behind Li Guoqing. She used her "malice" to distance herself from Li. Although she is proud, can you say that she is "not cruel" and will she have today's achievements?

What about letting the waves turn thousands of feet high? Women like Dong Mingzhu and Yu Yu can't be stopped from living a free and domineering life. If you want to live happily, you have to be "ruthless" to the end.

In the movie Out of Africa, Karen first married Kenya with money in exchange for the title of Baroness. After vicissitudes of life, she finally washed away the lead and became a brave and independent woman.

How much energy a person has, you won't find it until you get close to the bottom. Survival is man's first instinct, and God never favors a weak person. China's laws have never been biased in favor of women. It is natural for women to have children, and men's derailment has become a mistake that men all over the world will make, which is understandable.

At the time of divorce, the law will not give the house before marriage to the woman because of the man's mistake, and will not let the wrong party clean up the house. If the woman has no economic income, the child can be awarded to the man. The most real and cruel fact in this world is that when you are desperate and miserable, even an ant will climb on your head and try its best to suck your blood. Economy is eternal and vulgar, and it has become a bargaining chip to measure one's self-confidence.

Fan Bingbing has no acting skills, but he is a giant himself. How did Ben Guan get to position C? If Zhang Ziyi were not the national seal, do you think Wang Feng would regard her as the queen? If Ma Yili only made a fuss about the woman behind her, she would probably be the abandoned one now. If Chen Huiling does not have strong economic strength, Simihua will simply give up the third place. Of course, the fourth and fifth grades will never be broken, but as Xi Mihua herself said, there is only one Mrs. Zhou.

Opportunities are not for those who are prepared, but for those who are capable. Willing to be a slave to life, bow to life, be silly and sweet, and be changeable, even if there is an opportunity to fall on your head, I am afraid of being riddled with holes.

The most terrible relationship in this world is to pin your happiness entirely on another person. A female friend of mine gave birth to a baby in her twenties, became a full-time housewife, settled in Hong Kong with her husband in her thirties, and then immigrated to the United States. She still chooses to be a housewife, taking this as her career, keeping her husband and children in good order and living a very petty bourgeoisie life atmosphere. In her spare time, she learns various skills, and her husband loves her dearly and still loves her as before.

Another friend did the same thing and made the same choice at the same age. As a result, no matter how hard she tried, she couldn't change her husband's infidelity. When people reach middle age, marriage is in jeopardy, but they don't have any skills to make a living and can't do without it. I can only say that it is your bad luck to make such a bet!

My grandfather's generation, life is not rich, experienced hunger and suffering, and cherished food more. There will always be a mouthful of surplus grain for a rainy day. And our generation just eats and drinks, with nothing left. Just like we treat emotions, loving someone will always give everything, put all the feelings and energy into it, and leave no way out for ourselves. Like a moth to a fire, if you are not careful, you will end up empty-handed, and there is nothing you can do about your desire for love.

One of the embarrassments in life is that when people reach middle age, they have no surplus food, no choice, indecision and regret playing chess. Entrusting a sense of security to a person is the stupidest performance. Unless you have seen Andy Lau in Zhu Liqian. This is a risky move. You really need enough gambling luck to win in danger.

If you don't talk about money in a relationship, you can only say that you are too hypocritical and deceive yourself. Reality is everyone's nature, regardless of gender. The current economy measures true love! Therefore, in order to be stable, we must first hold the money. Rob your own money, of course, and earn your own money.

Be a little harder on yourself, grab more "gold" and save some surplus grain, and you will be happy enough.