Why do friends like to call Leslie Cheung "brother"

As early as 1994, Leslie Cheung replied to the media that if he likes someone and that person likes him, he doesn't care whether he is a man or a woman. At the over 97 concert that ended on 1996, Leslie Cheung's partner, Mr. Tang Hede, was publicly admitted by Leslie Cheung as his true love for the first time, and Leslie Cheung admitted in an interview that it was more appropriate to say that he was bisexual. According to historical records, my brother and Tang Sheng's family belong to the noble family of Shang Dynasty and met in the upper class. The children of the two families also know each other a little, but my brother and Tang Sheng are both younger children in their respective families, so they may just have met each other, and there is no connection, especially when my brother 1 1 went to England, when Tang Shengcai 1. 1982 65438+On February 9th, we met at Mrs. Zhang's party. Although we didn't meet for the first time and knew each other's family background, a little childhood was not enough for them to become friends immediately, but it is certain that my brother had a good impression on Tang at that time, so the party on June 2nd 1983 65438+ was invited to introduce him formally. But at this time, they are friends. In the 700 days from 1983 to 1984, similar family background, westernized lifestyle, basically the same world outlook and so on. Let them become good friends who talk about everything, and the so-called borrowing money also happens during this period. During this period, both of them had girlfriends, and they also exchanged and confided their experiences in making girlfriends, but both sides always felt that their feelings with girlfriends could not reach their understanding, tacit understanding and tolerance. 1985 One day, the homosexual relationship between the two people, which they have been unwilling to admit and dare not admit, was exposed by an involuntary hug. Since then, their relationship has developed rapidly, and it is basically certain that the relationship between their brother and girlfriend, Miss Yang, also ended in this year. 1986, they even attended some activities together, which attracted the attention and reports of journalists. In September of that year, on my brother's 30th birthday, someone put up a banner of "Leslie Cheung died of AIDS" because of these reports. At this time, it is an important period for my brother to become popular. The two men immediately completely lost any public contact and went underground. From 1987 to 1988, my brother became more and more popular every day. Their occupation, image and social attitude towards homosexuality at that time brought great pressure on their feelings. They broke up for rational reasons. However, the yearning pain and emotional suffering brought by the breakup made them reunite soon. Through this breakup, they finally realized that they could not be separated again. In fact, they really never separated again. My brother resolutely bid farewell to the peak music scene on 1989. Of course, there are many reasons, including the struggle between fans, but another important reason is that my brother and Tang Sheng are determined to leave China society and seek living space in a more open western society. In order to avoid publicity, they applied to immigrate to Canada and bought a real estate only a few minutes away. My brother enrolled in a film course, hoping to go out to work for a short time and live in Canada for a long time. No one applied to work in Canada, and * * * started a better life here. During this period, their feelings have developed to the stage where they can be disclosed to their close relatives and friends. In the Canadian brother's home, my brother introduced Tang Sheng to his first lover, Mao Mao, and at the same time openly interacted with some good friends. Besides, my brother and his sister live in Canada, and his contact with Tang Sheng does not avoid his relatives. It's a pity that their elaborate plan didn't succeed, and the reason is also because of their brother. My brother soon discovered in Canada that it was too early to retire at 34 and a half. He is a person who attaches great importance to and likes his work, and the long-awaited entertainment circle in Hong Kong is really attractive. So he returned to Hong Kong to film, where he worked more and more, and had little time to go back to Canada to see Tang Sheng. Tang Sheng is well aware of the position of work in his brother's mind and how important applause and flowers are to him as an artist. Although Tang Sheng's personality is more yearning for a quiet life at present, he quit his job in Canada and returned to Hong Kong on 1994 to work in Standard Chartered Bank and stay with his brother. At this time, their feelings have been tested countless times and have been very stable. My brother, who had completely avoided talking about his love life before, couldn't help talking about his other half (brother language) on some occasions since 1995, saying "she" is good and that he is happy. This incident aroused great interest in the media. Finally, in July 1995, when my brother and Tang Sheng went to inspect his new home in the same car, and Tang Sheng went in and out of his brother's house, it was photographed by the media and made public. My brother's first reaction was to deny it. After a year of painful thinking and struggle, my brother and Tang Sheng finally decided to open their relationship and face everything bravely. If Tang Sheng came back from Canada for his brother, then this time it was his brother for Tang Sheng. My brother thinks that Tang Sheng should have an open identity, and in order to give him this identity, my brother has suffered great pressure and risks (some artists are afraid to give their girlfriends an identity for fear of losing their fans). What's more, after Tang Sheng was harassed by the media and fans and couldn't work, his brother gave him respect. My brother listed Tang Sheng's name as a shareholder in the company that manages his main source of income. The two of them * * * walked together, * * * advanced and retreated together, regardless of you and me, and * * * created a life together. And give him the company's financial problems. Don't let him feel a little wronged. Treat your other half like this, not to mention the same sex, that is, how many couples are there? It can be said that since 1997, the relationship between my brother and Tang Sheng has entered a new era. They began to attend public places together, made more friends, and finally found an open cohabitation relationship, leading a more natural and dignified life. Especially the life of 1998-200 1 year can be said to be their best period. After 12 years (85-97), they finally ushered in the spring of 1997. However, after only six years, just as people began to accept them and wish them well, their brother left on April 1 2003. When Leslie Cheung was preparing his new film, the media, his work partners, relatives and friends, including Leslie Cheung himself, didn't know that a fatal shadow was coming to him. According to Tang Hede's later memories, Leslie Cheung's abnormal physical condition began to appear in March. On the one hand, gastrointestinal diseases get worse, and stomach pain and gastric juice reflux occur from time to time; On the other hand, I often suffer from insomnia, nightmares and auditory hallucinations, and I always feel that someone is persecuting me. Gradually, people around him also discovered Leslie Cheung's abnormality, because he sometimes behaves abnormally and has no response to other people's questions; Sometimes he is grumpy and shriveled, and he is completely different from the lively and friendly person in peacetime. The media began to say that Leslie Cheung was "possessed by evil spirits" because he showed his inner senses. There is also media analysis that he is likely to suffer from depression. Psychiatrists tell us that depression is a common emotional disorder and belongs to the category of mental illness. Patients are in extreme pain, lose their labor force, and all have serious suicidal tendencies. About 20% of patients died of suicide. Anyone can suffer from depression, which is not a short-term emotion, nor is it a manifestation of personality defect or weakness. According to the pathogenic factors, it can be divided into exogenous depression and endogenous depression: emotional depression caused by external factors such as work, interpersonal relationship and family problems is exogenous depression; Emotional depression caused by internal factors such as brain neuromediator disorder is endogenous depression. In addition, some depression is a side effect caused by physical illness or taking certain drugs. Generally speaking, medical depression is mainly endogenous depression. As an outsider living thousands of miles away, we can't tell what caused Leslie Cheung's depression: perfectionism led to too much work pressure? Long-term busyness leads to endocrine disorders? Can serious stomach trouble affect the mood? Side effects of taking stomach medicine? Family inheritance? ..... may or may not be the cause. In fact, as early as the end of March, 2002, Leslie Cheung was diagnosed as depressed by doctors in the process of seeking medical advice, but he didn't even know how he became a depressed patient. Chen Shufen, his agent and good friend, said ... you can't imagine how much he wants to be better. He has been seeing a doctor. He can't accept the fact that he has this disease because he has everything. Now he has chosen his favorite job. Why? It's unimaginable! No one else will believe it. How is that possible? "Usually, doctors would advise people with depression to stop working and concentrate on recovery, but Leslie Cheung didn't recover. While fighting the disease, he continued to travel back and forth between Hong Kong and the mainland, preparing his new film, continuing to compose music, record songs and participate in charity activities. On April 6th, 2002, at the wedding banquet of his good friend Shang Shan cinar, Leslie Cheung met his long-lost old friend Maggie Cheung. A year later, Maggie Cheung recalled the scene at that time: "................................................................................................................................................................ I was very surprised to meet him there. In order to avoid the crowd, we found a place to chat near the bar. I heard that he was in a bad state and worried about him. We talked about life, health and his increasingly serious depression. Finally, he said,' I am very eager to cooperate with you again, but maybe I am not handsome enough to play your lover.' I was shocked at that time. I can't imagine a confident person saying such a thing. I want to find something to comfort him and tell him that you have always been great. But it happened that someone asked me to take pictures. When I went back to the bar to look for him, he had already left. "Sometimes, the opportunity is really just a little bit. Of course, Maggie Cheung's encouragement may not make Leslie Cheung's condition better, but it may help the person who has fallen to the bottom to adjust his mood. But by mistake, the day was normal in Leslie Cheung, and all the troubles were buried in my heart. He left in a hurry because he was going to be a guest at a concert at the Red Pavilion in Anita Mui, so he left in a hurry after the bride and groom cut the cake and didn't even have time to eat. When he arrived at the Red Pavilion, Leslie Cheung's stomach trouble recurred and he couldn't speak backstage. But once on the stage, it is still radiant and imposing. Anita Mui later said: "My brother promised to be a guest at the end of the stadium and gave me great support ... He was already uncomfortable when he came to the venue that day. He said he had a stomachache, but when he stood on the stage, fans wouldn't notice at all. After the performance, he left first, and I didn't have a chance to thank him. " In April, 2002, Leslie Cheung still shuttled between Beijing and Hongkong with illness, preparing for stealing the heart. The familiar reporter asked about the hero and heroine. Leslie Cheung said that the hero has not yet been determined. He may play by himself because of the strong suggestion of his work partner. As for the heroine Quiet, Leslie Cheung was full of praise: "When I cooperated with Quiet in the new Shanghai Beach, I already felt that she was very informative ... I really can't describe it in words. Among the actors, she is the best: she is beautiful and tasteful, and she knows how to act better. It is really rare to perform from the heart. I want to direct and act, and I have to find a good actor as my opponent. I don't have to worry. In short, people in every position in the whole play are better than me. "Wenjing said in later memories: The last time I saw him, my brother was having a meeting with the staff in a conference room. I pushed open the door and went in. He sat in the back, still wearing a black sweater. When he saw me, he greeted me happily: "Dear, let me introduce you ..." Then he said to everyone: "This is my heroine, isn't it beautiful? "He took my arm and suddenly turned to me and said," Make your arm stronger; Find a good Chinese doctor to recuperate these acne on your face, and be careful that the lens is big enough to see your hair. "... then he asked everyone to continue the discussion, and we went to the outhouse to smoke. My brother always smokes white Marlboro. I said you looked a little tired. He raised his eyebrows and said seriously, "Really, I was in a meeting recently and slept very late. After a pause, he looked at me and said, "Can you tell?" "... during this period, Leslie Cheung was still working with Huang Yaoming on his new album" Crossing the Border ",but due to the acid reflux problem, his voice was hoarse and he could not make any sound in severe cases, which led to intermittent recording. Leslie Cheung apologized for his unsatisfactory voice many times, but Huang Yaoming and the staff didn't mind. Instead, they feel that his hoarse voice has a sense of vicissitudes. As can be seen from the photos at the work site, it was late spring, and Huang Yaoming was wearing a short-sleeved shirt in the studio, while Leslie Cheung, who was working with illness, was weak, not only wearing a thick long-sleeved shirt, but even wearing a sweater. After the cross-border production, his acid reflux not only did not improve, but became more and more serious. In the doctor's words, he described his throat as "red as an apple", which made him not only endure the burning pain in his body, but also struggle to speak. Because of this, he refused all interviews. Occasionally, when attending activities, he often smiles and answers questions from the media. Although Leslie Cheung has repeatedly said that he is fine and asked the media not to exaggerate his illness, Leslie Cheung, who has been living a normal life, has suddenly changed. How can the media let him go easily? On May 22nd, it was reported that the master of "Born with Yin Eyes" said that there was something obviously wrong with Leslie Cheung. He even said that his eyes were gloomy, so he was "weak in spirit" and might encounter evil spirits. Later, it was reported that Leslie Cheung suffered from hepatitis due to overwork, and some people said that he had nasopharyngeal carcinoma. He was awarded the title of "tenacious anti-cancer warrior". A group of reporters asked Leslie Cheung about this again, and Leslie Cheung denied it again, denouncing these rumors as crazy. However, some media still refused to give up, ambushed in front of his house for a long time, and even followed him personally. Despite his repeated protests, they speciously reported his behavior for three days. How did a patient with severe depression spend a year in such a living environment? Because Leslie Cheung kept his mouth shut, people around him seldom mentioned this dark past that was unknown to the outside world. We only know that he tried all Chinese medicine and western medicine, took medicine, had injections, prayed to God and worshipped Buddha, exorcised evil spirits at home, went out to play, made every effort, and even gave up red wine that the doctor said was fine, just to get better soon. In order to make him happy, Tang Hede, who always disliked playing cards, went around looking for someone to play cards with him. However, due to Leslie Cheung's moody attack, card friends often leave halfway, and Tang Hede asks to leave one after another. Tang Hede also accompanied Leslie Cheung to Shen Dianxia for help. Shen Dianxia later said, "He thanked me in his suicide note, and I think he often persuaded him! "! In fact, many friends have advised him. Maybe what I said is better, let him remember. At first, Duffy (Tang Hede) brought him to see me. I know he is unhappy because of depression. Duffy thinks I have experienced many unpleasant things, but I still maintain an optimistic and cheerful personality. I hope my persuasion can help my brother. After that, I often invite them to dinner and play cards to make him happy. I hope my brother will forget the unhappy things for a while. "For a depressed person, actually comfort and forgiveness, especially for laymen, do not play a key role. With the hope of relatives and friends, Leslie Cheung's illness became more and more serious. In the second half of 2002, he could not lead a normal life. "When the disease broke out, he was in pain like a tear." He can't sleep every night, crying until he collapses again and again. In this case, his film "Stealing the Heart" was delayed and never started shooting. He wouldn't give up either. Until June 2002 10, he was still changing the script and changing actors. Just this month, the mainland investor of this film was arrested and imprisoned for economic problems. In June+10, Leslie Cheung's condition deteriorated further and he tried to commit suicide. Fortunately, he was saved. After such a life-and-death struggle, Leslie Cheung may know that darkness may come at any time, and he began to do many things quietly. He made a will, distributed his legacy to Tang Hede and several other relatives and friends, donated some of it to charity funds, and even arranged servants and drivers around him. He never mentioned his movies again, nor did he pick up any movies delivered to his door. He gave up all the team work that might be dragged down by illness, only completed the contract with the record company and recorded the last album, most of which was composed by himself. He is not satisfied with the lyrics of some songs, and thinks they are too "gray". Some lyricists have changed, others have not, and he recorded them as they are. Due to the reflux of gastric juice, several songs have not been recorded. He still attended charity activities, served as a "pioneer ambassador for protecting seedlings", donated money to the Children's Cancer Fund, made a guest appearance on MV for the younger generation in the music world, attended the premiere of friends' works, invited friends to dinner at home, went to Beijing and Shanghai to invite mainland friends who had made friends for many years to get together, went to Thailand for a holiday as usual, and celebrated Tang Hede's birthday. He privately said to Chen Shufen, "Tang Sheng is so thin because of my illness .. If one day I am gone, he is living in a private life. In June, February and March, 2003, reporters photographed them playing ball games, watching movies, drinking tea and eating together. Calm down to the end, calm down to the end, elegant to the end, firm to the end, almost no one noticed, no one expected, what kind of disaster is about to happen. His good friend and director Tsui Hark said, "The day I saw Leslie Cheung in the last month, he was very peaceful and kind. Looking back, it was really embarrassing. Perhaps, at that time, he had bid farewell to the burning of life, but at this time, he gave his friends many encouraging words about life. When Hong Kong was caught in the trap of SARS, the whole city was in a panic. A friend hasn't left home for two weeks. He washes his hands with alcohol every day, worrying about his health. Leslie has been talking on the phone, trying to comfort her not to be so scared, or he will be very sad. However, on the day when all this ended, a few hours later, his bad news happened. "On April 1 day, 2003, Hong Kong stayed up all night. ..... How I wish life were like a movie, which can be modified and replayed at will. Then Leslie Cheung's films must make many people find ways to rewind, get rid of it, let the prosperous times continue to be staged, let his talents be brought into play, let his dreams be realized, let him stay away from his illness and give him a chance to perform for the world. The perfect interpretation of "aging gracefully"; If life is like a movie, then the most wonderful, moving, legendary and perfect role played by Leslie Cheung is himself in life. He dares to love, admit, speak without losing his discretion, respect his elders, support his younger generation, be single-minded in love, be professional in work, be serious about life, be responsible for his family, do his best to his friends, be kind-hearted, whether starting work or dating. If life is like a movie, then Leslie Cheung's movie is. With his excellent works, he witnessed the most brilliant golden age of Hong Kong's art world and accompanied the growth of several generations. When he ended, 50 thousand people from all over the world braved the threat of SARS virus to see him off in the heavy rain. Today, three years later, commemorative activities about him at home and abroad are still endless, colorful and full of laughter. If life is like a movie, many details in Leslie Cheung's movies are actually no different from you and me. His life is as brilliant as his. Outside the camera and the stage, he is just an ordinary person, with happiness and troubles, happiness and pain, success and loss, dreams and despair. He is tough and occasionally weak, he is calm and impulsive from time to time, and he cherishes his health. If life is like a movie, then Leslie Cheung's movies deserve your repeated appreciation and treasure, with endless touching and shock, laughter and tears, * * * singing and understanding, love and regret, leaving a meaningful mark on your heart. Let's stand up and applaud at the end of the play. We have met this person in our life, and we will say thank you, Leslie Cheung, with applause a hundred times and a thousand times.