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Late at night, the lights outside the window went out one by one.

I want to talk to someone.

Is this our life? Qian Qian, who seems to be a friend, can't find a real person to talk to when he has something on his mind.

Who are the real friends? Just borrow some money.

In the movie "Flying Life", Zhang Chi, the hero played by Shen Teng, was once the all-powerful "car god" and was later banned for five years for an illegal car race.

After lifting the ban, he wanted to return to the field of racing, so he confidently went to his former team partner, hoping to get vehicle sponsorship. He thinks he will succeed.

But at this time, his scenery is gone and he is heavily in debt. My former partner wouldn't lend him his car.

This made Zhang Chi very disappointed. Good brothers who once risked their lives together refused to lend a helping hand at the critical period of their lives.

He called the "big brother" he knew before to seek sponsorship, and the result was the same.

He asked his opponent Lin Zhendong inexplicably: "I know so many bosses, why do they all spend their holidays abroad when they call?"

Lin Zhendong hit the nail on the head: "The friendship between people in prosperity may not be so strong."

The Greek philosopher Democritus once said, "Many people who look like friends are not necessarily friends, but many people who are friends don't look like friends."

This world is such a reality. When we are strong, we are surrounded by friends like friends. When we were weak, most of our friends dispersed in a hubbub.

Who are the real friends? Just borrow some money.

Gao once told one of his experiences in The Story of Diaosi.

That year, the record industry was bleak, and life forced him to borrow 1.5 million yuan from Pu Shu.

Pu Shu only replied with two words: "account number". This 6.5438+0.5 million yuan helped Gao tide over the difficulties in time.

Later, Pu Shu was short of money and asked Gao to pay back the money. There were only two words: "Pay back the money". Gao immediately transferred the money to him.

This is the best example of borrowing money between real friends.

The collapse of adults begins with borrowing money.

When we put down our dignity and asked for a loan, in the voice of "Sorry, money is tight recently", that person readily told us how rare the words "account number" and "repayment" were.

No one's money is hard-won, and those who can help friends solve their urgent needs are worth making friends.

What is a true friend? That is to say, we didn't send a blessing message on that holiday, and we didn't call to maintain our relationship on weekdays, but at the critical moment, we came to help us without saying anything.

They are what we cherish most.

A true friend can not only give timely help, but also add icing on the cake.

Pan and Zhang Ailing were both talented women in the Shanghai literary world in the 1940s, and they had close contacts for a time.

However, since Zhang Ailing became famous, things have changed.

Pan has first-hand gossip information about his good friends, so he wrote an article about Hu Lancheng and Zhang Ailing.

Ironically, the relationship between Zhang Ailing and Li Hongzhang is just like the distance between an old hen drowned in the Pacific Ocean and a Shanghainese who claims to "drink chicken soup" by drinking tap water from Huangpu River.

She also publicly raved about Zhang Ailing:

"Zhang ailing's temper, in particular, is a bit strange among these people. Zhang Ailing's self-esteem, not to mention flowers, is the breeze and bright moon. She feels that this is not enough to set her off. "

Friends have achieved success, but also because of jealousy psychological imbalance. Such people hope that they can help us when we are in trouble, which is extravagant hope.

A true friend can not only give timely help, but also add icing on the cake. He will sincerely applaud our success on the roadside.

1952, Zhang Ailing arrived in Hong Kong and became friends with Kuang.

In the following decades, Zhang Ailing went to the United States, and they kept writing to each other.

It can be said that there would be no Zhang Ailing without Kuang.

If Kuang hadn't always supported her husband Song Qi to run around for the publication of various books of Zhang Ailing, we might not have seen Zhang Ailing's works. And Zhang Ailing will fall into a real embarrassing situation because she has no royalty income.

If Song Qi hadn't recommended Zhang Ailing to Xia Zhiqing, Xia Zhiqing wouldn't have recommended her among mainland writers.

This timely friendship left a deep impression on Zhang Ailing. After her death, she left all her inheritance to the Kuang couple.

Since ancient times, icing on the cake is easy, but it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow.

In this interest-oriented society, it is difficult to maintain aimless communication.

Many people lament that the more they grow up, the more lonely they are, and the bustling friends around them are all for the exchange of interests. Each of us seems to be wearing a mask and trying to maintain the so-called connections.

And those aimless contacts are the purest and most touching.

Time is a sieve, which can help us screen out our true friends.

They can not only help in time, but also add icing on the cake. They are like the moon in the clouds. They don't boast of their lack of enthusiasm on weekdays, but when they face the dark road of life, they can clear the dark clouds and silently light up our future.

I don't have to invite too many people into my life for the rest of my life.

We spend too much time on ineffective performing social activities;

Friends drying newly bought clothes, many people reply that they look good. But I was thinking, you are so fat, can you wear this dress?

Embarrassed, we believe that "there are many friends and many roads" and strive to expand our social circle.

Therefore, it seems that friends all over the world are actually false prosperity. Once something needs help, the crowd breaks up.

Writer Shao Wenjie said in "Bold Coffee":

Anthropologist Robin Dunbar once put forward a "Dunbar Theory". He believes that a person can only maintain a stable interpersonal relationship with about 150 people (except virtual social interaction), and there are at most 20 people who really have in-depth exchanges.

This requires us to strictly screen the circle of friends and control it within a certain range.

Only in this way can we ensure that we have enough energy to maintain a stable relationship and use it at critical moments.

In the program of Mars Intelligence Bureau, Qian Feng, who has worked with Wang Han for more than ten years, talked about "grievance". One day it was suddenly deleted by Wang Han.

Wang Han replied: I deleted all of Fan Bingbing's.

In fact, as long as the number of friends reaches 100 or more, he will feel "terrible, and some meaningless ones should be deleted."

Do you think Wang Han will cut off contacts by doing so? Not at all.

In 20 15, more than 4 million pieces of jewelry were stolen from the Danish studio in Tamia Liu.

Wang Han immediately called the Danish Embassy in China. The next day, the suspect was arrested and the stolen property was recovered.

The writer Su Cen once said, "There is no need to invite too many people in life. If they can't get into your heart, they will only disturb your life. "

Life is a process of constantly meeting and constantly leaving.

At every stage, there will be different people around you, and no one will accompany you all the time.

You don't have to invite too many people into your life for the rest of your life.

"You see these white clouds gather and scatter, scatter and gather, and life is on and off, and so is it. Why bother you? "

There are hundreds of good movies and hundreds of philosophies.

Watch a good movie and become a better self.

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