The real source of one's pain: oneself and oneself.

Someone in Zhihu asked, "What is the root of the pain in life?"

Praise replied:

I'm impressed.

Life is a one-way trip with no turning back. We will encounter many things, those happy, painful, sad and joyful, all brought by the journey.

Some people want a perfect journey, stick to every stage, and have no regrets for life.

But regret is part of perfection. There is joy and sorrow, and there is bitterness and sweetness. Why pursue perfection?

In life, there is nothing you can't cross. If you want to be the best of yourself, don't cross yourself.

Don't overestimate your ability.

Laozi said in Tao Te Ching: "He who knows benevolence is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."

The most important thing in this life is to see yourself clearly.

Because everyone has something worth recommending, and sometimes it can't be realized.

Admitting your incompetence is not cowardice, but self-knowledge.

Some netizens once asked: "Why do you work hard and get it but are not happy?"

Praise replied:

Overestimating one's ability will only add trouble and fatigue to oneself; Dare to admit your own shortcomings, in order to go further.

A foreign mountaineer came to Tibet, not far from Wan Li, to climb Mount Everest.

He made preparations several years in advance, only to climb the highest peak.

But when he climbed to an altitude of 7000 meters, the bad weather on the mountain made him unable to move.

He combined the knowledge he had learned before with his judgment on the current environment. After several thoughts, he finally decided to give up.

Many people feel pity, some people don't understand his behavior, but he said:

Indeed, there is never only one way in life. I am too forced, not fearless, but not self-aware.

"Life doesn't need to be the first" mentioned:

It is easy to know people, but difficult to understand them.

Being too self-righteous and overestimating yourself will only lead you to decline.

Zhao Kuo read several art books, thinking that fighting is the best in the world, and finally hated the battlefield;

Relying on his profound knowledge, Yang Xiu made random suggestions and finally lost his life in vain.

It is not enough to be measured in everything.

A person, self-confidence is a good thing, but blind self-confidence will only bring destruction.

Don't overestimate your ability, enough is enough, and admit your own shortcomings in order to make better progress.

There's no need to force everything to work out.

When the host Orfila recorded the variety show "My Girl", he once said:

She invited her friends to her home, and they chatted while eating.

Results chatting, Orfila was in tears.

She said: "I have a very disappointing thing, and I have never told anyone."

It turned out that at a New Year's Eve party on Hunan Satellite TV, the hosts of 10 all prepared their own programs.

For this performance, Orfila rehearsed late every day, and his arms, knees, calves ... were covered with scars.

However, the program group cancelled Orfila's program on the grounds of overtime.

This has also become Orfila's heart disease:

This blow made Orfila very sad, but at the party that day, she broke down and began to cry.

We have all had similar experiences and had the same feelings: we have tried hard, but we still can't get the desired results.

Maybe life is like this. No matter how hard you try, there are still things you can't change and results you can't get.

Blindly demanding often brings more troubles than sweetness.

"Don't want it" is the normal state of life, so why pursue the result that you can't get?

There is a saying that:

Sometimes there must be something in life, and there is no need to force it in life.

Many times, we can't control the result. We have worked hard, and we have worked hard. In fact, it is enough for ourselves.

Don't pursue the perfection of life too much.

Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, once described "life" like this:

In life, people always pursue perfection and always hope to do everything best without regret.

In the final analysis, there is nothing perfect in life. In any case, there will be some shortcomings.

People have joys and sorrows, and the moon has ups and downs.

In life, what should come will always come, and what should go will definitely go.

Excessive pursuit of perfection will only increase the burden of life and let yourself fall into fearless entanglement.

Heard such a story:

A man saw a big and beautiful pearl on the beach. Unfortunately, there is a small spot on the pearl.

He thinks that as long as the only point defect is removed, the pearl is perfect.

So he cruelly peeled off the pearl, and the spots were still there.

Not satisfied, he cut off the second layer again, and the spots were still there.

In this way, he peeled off the pearl layer by layer until the spots were completely invisible.

But pearls are different, not only tiny, but also much worse in luster and beauty.

When the man saw Pearl's last appearance, he couldn't help sighing:

Things in life, like this pearl, too much pursuit of perfection will only make you stagnate.

Nine times out of ten, we can't make everything and every experience truly perfect.

In that case, why pursue perfection in everything?

Leonard cohen once said:

Leave a gap for life and make life a little regrettable.

The best part of life is not whether you have a perfect life, but more importantly, whether you have performed a wonderful life during this journey.

Don't be quick, show for a while.

In this world, I am most afraid of bluffing, and the most difficult thing is bluffing.

If you don't do it, you will not only lower the expectations of others, but also lose your reputation. In the end, you will only hurt yourself.

Some people say:

Don't talk too much, don't do too well, don't show off your temporary ability, don't be greedy for temporary quick, leave some room for yourself, so as not to let the other side fall into despair.

The most feared thing in life is to show off one's ability for face; For fame and fortune, covet for a while.

The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.

Many things, many people, have been doomed from the beginning, so why put yourself in an irreversible position for a moment of anger?

In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, there is such a story.

Before Liu Bei became emperor, he worked under Cao Cao.

In order to alleviate Cao Cao's suspicion, Liu Bei always pretended to be deaf and weak, and only planted vegetables and flowers every day without interfering in Cao Cao's affairs.

One day, Cao Cao invited Liu Bei to drink.

During the dinner, Cao Cao asked about contemporary heroes, and Liu Bei took stock at will.

Cao cao natural discontent, pointed to himself, and pointed to liu bei, said:

When he said this, Liu Bei was so surprised that even his chopsticks were thrown to the ground.

It happened that when it thundered in the sky, Liu Bei pretended to be afraid of it.

Cao Cao laughed at such words and deeds and said, "Are men also afraid of thunder?"

In this way, I let go of my vigilance against Liu Bei.

Liu Bei saved himself by this, and only then did he have the grand occasion of three pillars.

"Show weakness without bravado, show weakness without bravado."

Knowing how to show weakness and not bravado at will is the wisdom of dealing with people, and it is also a way to reduce trouble and preserve our sanity.

When the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow.

Too fond of bravado, not clever, but inappropriate display.

As a paragraph on the Internet said:

That's what I said.

There is a saying that:

Life is only a few decades, and those experiences are just a journey of life. Don't care too much and don't have to compete with yourself.

Don't overestimate your abilities and dare to admit your own shortcomings; Don't force the result and ignore the process of hard work;

Do not pursue perfection, obsessed; Don't show off for a moment of passion.

In the days to come, don't have a hard time with yourself, whether it's gain or loss, it's all the income of life after all.

I don't care much. I hope everyone's life can live up to the present and let nature take its course.

* * * with everyone.