Why do you seldom talk to your father when you grow up?

That's because when I grow up, I spend less time with my father, which leads to less opportunities for communication between us. Therefore, I seldom talk to my father as I did when I was a child.

1. Spend little time together.

I think the biggest reason is that I have little time and opportunity to get along with my father. On second thought, many times, we are busy with work and don't chat often. When I was a child, although my father had a job, he always met each other, so there were more opportunities to chat. Now, because I don't work in the same place, I usually have little chance to meet each other. Sometimes if you want to talk to your father, you can only talk on the phone. And my father is very busy, often calls, and always makes a long story short. Because my father and I usually spend less time together, coupled with personality reasons, sometimes the topics we talk about are relatively simple, and some problems are difficult to discuss in depth.

2. Ideologically, there are great differences.

On the other hand, because the age gap between my father and me is too big, there is a certain generation gap in communication. Unlike when I was a child, I thought of something and wanted to tell my father. Maybe when I grow up, I will have my own ideas. Sometimes when I communicate with my father, I will confess my innermost thoughts, but in my father's cognition, it is difficult to agree. I find it difficult to change my father's mind. He thinks I am a little stubborn. So when you encounter some problems, such as: the choice of work, or the choice of love objects, your views on marriage. I don't feel very happy to communicate with my father. He doesn't quite understand my ideas, and I think his ideas are a bit outdated and always irrelevant. Over time, I don't really want to talk to my father. Because our thinking logic is always difficult to share the same frequency, we simply don't want to go on talking.

3. Cognitive bias, communication effect is not very good.

I remember having a heart-to-heart talk with my father when I was a child. My father always gave me some advice or constructive suggestions. Now, most of the time, what to talk to my father and the information conveyed to me are relatively simple, without substantial help and confusion. Times are developing, but my father's thoughts are still the same as before. Chatting with my father, I always can't get the answer I want. Besides, we are all very busy at work now, so we don't talk about deep-seated things with our father now. After all, thoughts and growth experiences are different, so it is difficult to empathize.

As I get older, I find it difficult to talk to my father again, mainly because I can't speak.