Middle-aged men are wary of "age phobia"

Daming is 45 years old. He came to this unit after graduating from college at the age of 23, and it has been 22 years now. At present, he is only a deputy director. If it doesn't rise in the last year or two, it may be difficult for him to have another chance. But this year, the new colleagues in the unit are in good working condition, and Daming feels that he has little chance of promotion.

Daming can't tell his wife about this worry because she can't help nagging and make things worse. He has talked with colleagues before and occasionally complained online, but recently he has no desire to talk.

Daming's fear of age seems to come overnight. At a recent class reunion, he was also very depressed. He watched his classmates driving famous cars and waving famous brands in front of his eyes. This kind of stimulation is really unbearable for him, and it has also caused him great psychological pressure. Daming feels more and more useless. He struggled for most of his life, but achieved nothing.

He often fantasizes, for example, whether he wants to change his job, or simply quit his job to do business in the sea, or immigrate to Canada and Australia. He always thinks anxiously, if he doesn't change, he will definitely fail to catch up with the students who sit on the rocket and keep up with this era of increasing consumption.

However, no matter how sleepless and depressed Daming is, he can't get rid of the fact that he is getting older and older. He suddenly felt that at this age, many dreams have passed away, and those that have not been realized seem to never be realized again. He really doesn't know how to convince himself.

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psychoanalysis

For many middle-aged men, the most important thing is career achievement. Like Daming, if he has no outstanding achievements in his career, or encounters difficulties and bottlenecks, he will take a pessimistic and negative attitude towards his aging and unsuccessful career. This is the so-called "age phobia", which is what psychologists call "midlife crisis".

The biggest symptom of this disease is self-depression, accompanied by insomnia or lethargy, loss of appetite, and always feeling uncomfortable. Disturbing life events will often aggravate this sense of depression, and they will begin to doubt everything in life, and their attitude towards life will become more negative than before, thus aggravating people's feeling of being in a turbulent state in middle age. This kind of men often choose silence and escape, and even commit suicide as an escape way in serious cases.

However, people with proper psychological preparation can successfully weather the storm of midlife crisis.

Psychological prescription

When people reach middle age, the key is to readjust their direction. We should gradually change from paying attention to external things to paying more attention to our own hearts, and gradually realize the wisdom of life, thus alleviating psychological pressure. Whether middle-aged men can really dispel "age phobia" depends on "letting go" of money, family and fame.

Of course, people, out of instinct, will constantly improve their life expectations. Naturally, this has its positive significance. It is the psychological motive force of personal progress and social progress. However, it is unrealistic to treat life with too high expectations, which may be the psychological root of some people spending precious time in the psychological dilemma of depression and resentment every day and not enjoying the happiness and happiness of life all their lives. The higher the expectation, the greater the psychological and emotional conflict, which is a conclusion of social psychology.

Besides, Daming should keep the habit of reading and studying every day, no matter how busy he is at work. The easiest way to overcome impetuousness is to find powerful power in knowledge. People with strong hearts are not easily influenced by the environment.

If the depressed psychology has affected the body, Daming might as well arrange a long vacation, return to his childhood hometown, or go to a foreign island to rest and adjust his state.