The highest realm of a woman's life: the inside of the outer circle

When you are alive, you will meet all kinds of people and difficult things.

Too tough personality, easy to hurt people; Personality is too weak to achieve great things.

As Ji Xiaolan said in Qing Dynasty:

Mature women know how to be easy-going without losing the bottom line; Do things with principles and flexibility.

Too hard is easy to fold, too soft is difficult, and the combination of rigidity and softness can get twice the result with half the effort. Round but not square, too sophisticated; Square but not round, it is difficult to walk.

The outer circle and the inner side are the way to do things and the secret of life, which can make women feel comfortable in interpersonal communication and be invincible in family and career.

The woman in the outer circle has a ruler.

There is a classic couplet in A Dream of Red Mansions: "Everything is clear and learned, and human cultivation is an article."

This couplet is like a true portrayal of Pinger's behavior.

Jia's interpersonal relationship is complicated, and there are many smart women, but only Pinger's high emotional intelligence is convincing.

She not only speaks well and does well, but also grasps the bottom line.

Once something was lost in Mrs. Wang's room. I don't know who stole it. Xifeng tried her best to extort a confession, making the maids "kneel in the sun with tiles on their backs, and not give them food", which scared the girls out of their wits.

Ping-erh could not excuse the maids directly, so she said to Xi-feng sympathetically:

As soon as this was said, Xifeng calmed down and let go. All the innocent maids survived and the thief confessed himself.

Someone once said, "To convince people, a kind word is often more effective than gold."

Pinger can not only speak other people's minds, but also take care of the overall situation.

Feng and Baoyu went to Ningguo Mansion, and Qin Zhong, Jia Rong's brother, was there. Pinger learned that Feng had a close relationship with him, so she prepared a generous gift for people to send, which not only made Feng's face shine, but also gave him enough face.

The world laments that being a man is difficult and tiring. If we can gain insight into people's minds and understand human nature, we can also make ends meet.

There are many rules in Jia's house, and people have ulterior motives. It is not enough to take care of others and serve the master. Pinger is not resigned to fate.

Mrs. Wang's poria cream was stolen, and Liu Wuer, the maid, was locked up as a thief. Xifeng wants to kick her mother out.

Pinger felt that there was something wrong with this matter, and secretly investigated and rescued the wronged Liu Wuer.

Once, Pinger's bracelet was stolen by Baoyu's little daughter. She cares about Baoyu's face, but she is afraid of implicating the reputation of other maids. Finally, she chose reconciliation.

It is precisely because Pinger is kind, not blindly obedient, and has a bottom line. After Xifeng died, Jia Lian helped her to be the first wife.

In this world, there are many temptations and risks, so we must distinguish right from wrong, assess the situation and distinguish right from wrong.

When dealing with people, no matter how annoying or angry the other person is, don't force it, try to deal with it in a tactful way.

The inside of the outer circle is a woman's practice. If you don't say hard words or do soft things, you can see through them, and if you leave room for others, you can stick to your inner bottom line and solve problems properly.

A woman with an outer circle and an inner circle, get things done.

The famous educator Huang Yanpei once said:

This sentence is used to describe Zhang Youyi's character. She looks supple in appearance, looks down on her husband and has no regrets about life, but she is a strong and proud person at heart.

She was ordered by her parents to marry the talented Xu Zhimo. The two families are well matched, but Xu Zhimo gave her a disgusted look and called her a "bumpkin".

After marriage, in order to study abroad, Xu Zhimo gave up his parents' wishes and gave birth to his first child with Zhang Youyi.

Shortly after his eldest son was born, he left his wife and children to study in England. In order to take care of his daily life, Zhang Youyi took his son to accompany him.

Xu Zhimo is not only ungrateful, but also falls in love with Lin, a beautiful woman who met in a foreign country.

Zhang Youyi's forbearance and concession to her husband only hoped that he would change his mind, but he was hurt again and again.

Xu Zhimo is enthusiastic about the goddess he worships, but indifferent to her; Talk to my friend Kan Kan, but keep silent about her.

In order to get Lin, Xu Zhimo advised his wife to have an abortion and forced her to sign a divorce agreement.

Zhang Youyi was completely chilling, took refuge in his brother who was studying in Berlin, and gave birth to a second son.

In order to make a living, Zhang Youyi tried her best to be admitted to Pestalozzi College in Berlin, got the certificate of preschool education, became a kindergarten teacher and studied business management.

But fate did not pity her. Her second son died when she was three years old. She turned grief into strength and returned to China to teach German at Soochow University. Everyday, she works and studies.

After five years abroad, she finally went against the wind at home.

As the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Savings Bank, she turned losses into profits and set up Shang Yun Clothing Company, which became a fashion benchmark.

When Xu Zhimo was still struggling in her marriage with Lu Xiaoman, she was already a leader in the business world; When Xu Zhimo was killed by a plane, she also served her parents for Xu Zhimo.

Smart women will forbear for the harmony of their families, and will also give in to give their children complete love in marriage.

Once forbearance turns into harm, you will secretly be strong and grow up quietly, and eventually you will meet a better yourself.

The woman in the outer circle is firm at heart. She can be gentle as water and rock-solid, swallow grievances to support the big pattern, save strength in the trough and be open-minded in the bright spot.

The women in the outer circle are doing well.

Writer Martin once said:

Ni Ping, a sister of CCTV, encountered this dark period.

She used to be a famous mouth, the most beautiful goddess of CCTV, and won numerous awards. The Golden Microphone was held on 13, and the Spring Festival Evening hosted by her brought a lot of laughter to the audience.

She looks glamorous on the surface, and there are many little-known bitterness hidden behind her.

She had a happy marriage, but her son was diagnosed with congenital cataract only four months after birth.

She retired from the stage for her son's treatment and sought medical advice in many hospitals at home and abroad. Her marriage ended in failure because of her son's repeated illness and family conflicts.

The high medical expenses overwhelmed her. Mother and son are wandering outside, treating their son while filming, sometimes exhausted and collapsed.

But she often encourages herself with grandma's words:

So she was strong all the way, leaving smiles to others, love to children, and grievances and pains to herself.

For the sake of her son's health, she was so tired that her legs fell ill and her waist fell ill. Her face is haggard and swollen, and her former appearance no longer exists.

When her son recovered, she happily returned to the stage and picked up the microphone. In the host of the program, she has no flowery words or glamorous makeup, but after years of tempering, she is calm, calm and natural.

Although she is not rich, she has donated millions to disaster areas and schools.

When people walk towards the sunset, they finally win a heart, which is inseparable from the director Yang Yazhou Bai Shou.

A strong woman will not complain about the cruelty of fate, nor will she blame others for their ruthlessness. She will step on all her misfortunes and move forward like a raging river.

As Lao Tzu said:

The women in the outer circle are as low-key as water, can tolerate all kinds of things in the world, and can pour all their money to help the world. Softness is like a trickle, while strength is tottering.

Take suffering as experience, turn experience into wealth, don't show off when it is brilliant, don't be humble when it is low, years pass, there are blood and tears in my heart, and there is no wind and frost on my face.

"Caigen Tan" said: Being true in the heart and knowing inside the outer circle is the mellow living method.

If a woman has too many edges and corners, she will be banned; If the circle has no boundary, the center of gravity is unstable.

Only by mastering Fiona Fang's degree and being inside the outer circle is the best way to live.

Showing people with softness is a kind of wisdom, with mind, tolerance and knowing how to advance and retreat; Acting with rigidity is a kind of courage, a kind of pride and a kind of responsibility.

The combination of rigidity and softness is the perfect combination, which is of great benefit to both people and themselves.

Mature women tend to be round and transparent in appearance and unbreakable in heart. Only with bodhisattva's heart and diamond means can they go high and far.