You left Xiamen because you wanted to live a better life~

"Having the courage to leave is also magnanimous and unrestrained"

"But if possible, I want to stay safely"

1

After living in a city for a long time, it takes courage to choose to leave.

In the past two days, I met a few friends for dinner, but unexpectedly it was another farewell. My friend, I still choose to leave Xiamen.

My friend Dahua and his girlfriend have been in Xiamen for four years. When I went to school in this city, I still had a bit of a bourgeois sentiment, so I stayed here. Dahua and his girlfriend are both born in the 1990s and have just turned 25. Their income is above average in Xiamen. Both parties work in financial institutions, and their monthly salary is more than 8k. It stands to reason that as long as they don't buy a house, the two of them can still live a comfortable life in Xiamen: they can set up a tent on the beach and play cards on the weekends, and then go out for some wandering during the holidays.

When I first heard that they were leaving, I was full of surprise, "Are you two kidding me? The benefits are so good, even if you buy a house, you won't be too stressed? Why are you still there? I have to leave." I was very reluctant to leave them. After all, it is not easy to have a few good friends after living in the same city for so long.

"I don’t want to live too tiredly. Xiamen has first-tier housing prices and second-tier wages. Spending money to buy a house, I really don’t dare to think about what my future life will be like." Dahua expressed his thoughts , "In fact, when housing prices skyrocketed in May, we considered leaving. We thought about it and found that the average housing price in some good cities like Changsha and Chengdu was more than 7,000. Even if we buy a more expensive one in the city center, it only costs 10,000. More. After paying the down payment, there is no pressure to pay the mortgage every month. In Xiamen, even if we can afford it, most of our salary will be used to pay off the mortgage. If we have children, we still have to consider the school district housing. I can’t afford it. What’s more, I really don’t want to live so hard.”

What Dahua said makes sense. Chengdu and Changsha are indeed good, but the key is that housing prices are really not high. Spending very little money and earning a salary of 5,000 yuan can live comfortably in Chengdu and Changsha. If you were in Xiamen, let alone buying a house, the monthly mortgage payments would kill you, let alone traveling abroad.

When you were young, if you were in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, you could make it clear that you wanted to make more money; but if you were in Xiamen, apart from the petty bourgeoisie sentiment, you really couldn’t see anything worth keeping: Wages are low, and the price of second-hand houses outside the island is almost RMB 30,000. The average price of new houses on the island is more than 40,000 yuan. If this is a house in a school district, the price must exceed 50,000 yuan. Analyzing both the economy and housing prices, Xiamen does have a very embarrassing situation: inflated housing prices, low wages, and exorbitantly high prices.

Young people, if they want to make money, in many ways, they really can’t stay in Xiamen.

"If the house prices were not so high, would you stay?" I asked Dahua again.

"Yes, after all, the environment here is not bad. People live in this world, don't they just want to live comfortably? In fact, some of us are forced to leave by housing prices. There is no way, even for the sake of our children, We have to get out of here. If it were Changsha, we wouldn’t have to worry about the “sky-high price of housing in the school district.” Dahua made two points: first, the housing prices are too high; second, it’s for the sake of the children. If you want to stay in Xiamen, the only thing you can miss is: the environment here is not bad.

In fact, Dahua has no relatives or friends in Changsha. He chose this city because he thought he would live a better life and be closer to his hometown. It is not unreasonable to not want to have too much pressure and to live comfortably.

2

When we were young, we always tried our best to squeeze into big cities. When we were 30 years old, many people still left.

"Escape from Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou" is the idea of ????many young people in big cities now. They have no fixed place to live, no place to live, and are older. They have no sense of security in big cities. Especially issues involving children's schooling, one is household registration, and the other is the pressure on housing prices. For an outsider, it is often very difficult to stay and settle in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou.

My friend Dachuan also fled Beijing many years ago and chose Xiamen. I thought I could live a better life in Xiamen after escaping Beijing, but high housing prices came. Dachuan was even more melancholy. He fled from Beijing because the environment was too bad and the housing prices were too high. It has been four years since he came to Xiamen and he still hasn't bought a house yet, suffering from the fact that he missed the best period. After thinking about it, Dachuan also wanted to leave Xiamen. At the age of 30, he chose to leave for the second time.

"Humans, after you have a child, you have to think about the child." Dachuan's wife just became pregnant this year. She chose to leave for the sake of the child, so that she could take care of the child by her side and at the same time. Can go to a good school.

In fact, as long as young people have children and have not settled in the city, they basically choose to return to their hometowns. There is no other way. You can't just think about yourself, and your children can't accompany you.

When we choose to settle in a city, why do we stay?

? Stay because of people: Choose a city, there must be people you care about in this city

? Environmental factors: live comfortably, live in a beautiful city, who Very willing

? Appropriate house price: within the affordable range of one's own income

? Stable income: stable income, one can live comfortably in the city

But no matter where we choose? The most important thing is: you really want to have a home, a place that is not too big or too small, with the people you love.

3

When Dahua and Dachuan left Xiamen, a large part of them wanted to live a better life, for the sake of their children.

I am thinking about a question. Isn’t your choice a plan for your future children? For example, if you want your children to live in a better natural environment, Xiamen must be the perfect place. If young people wandering outside seek temporary comfort, they will eventually pass on to their children in the future.

If you choose to leave and start over in a city, there is basically no way out. Regardless of whether you like it or not, you can only stay. Every geographical change comes with a huge price.

I remember that I met an Australian on the train back from Lhasa. He was 40 years old and took the train from Lhasa to Beijing alone. What surprised me even more was that he had no children, no wife, no house, just him. Among the noisy crowd, his figure seemed a bit lonely and lonely. A Chinese uncle next to me was very curious about him. I acted as a translator, and the two of them started chatting. When he learned that the Chinese uncle had a wife, children, and a house, he raised his thumb and said, "You are so rich." But the Chinese uncle said, "I have no money."

This Australian took it for granted. I think that if you have a house, a wife and children in China, you must be a rich person. But what he may not understand is the pressure to survive on the shoulders of young Chinese people.

I traveled to Dali some time ago and met many people who had fled here from big cities. Some people rented a small yard with their families and started driving electric motorcycles in the ancient city of Dali. Many young people nowadays prefer a comfortable life. Someone told me that in Dali, you will forget the whole world and the whole world at the same time.

I can’t live so carelessly, after all, I need to live. But we took a step back and thought, if we chose to escape when we were young, wouldn't it still be the transition to our children in the future? In fact, it is the same reason. Your children may not like the small city you like in the future, and they will also become first-generation immigrants, and the pressure will be even greater. If you worked harder when you were young and chose to stay, your children might not have the same worries as you if they lived in a big city.

If you choose to leave a big city, is it possible that one day your children will be like you and leave their hometown again? And you, wandering around with your children? Of course, this is just my imagination. But often times, history is surprisingly similar.

Whether in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou or Xiamen? Whether you want to stay or escape? In fact, life is like this, we see what others see. Life is yours, whether you stay or leave, if you choose, live this life well.

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