What if you are unhappy after marriage?

The reason why marriage is unhappy is often because you ignore that people are constantly changing. Marriage is the continuation and sublimation of love, and happy people can often grow together through mutual adaptation.

What should I do if I feel unhappy after marriage?

First, change the wrong cognition of marriage from one's own thoughts and get rid of unhealthy marriage attitude.

For example, you didn't want to get married, but at the urging of your parents, you couldn't get married to fulfill your parents' wishes, which led to your reluctance to protect your feelings after marriage, and you wanted to give up if your marriage was a little troublesome. For another example, you think that marriage means two people living together, so you are too lazy to take the initiative to embellish your marriage life. After a long time, it will definitely be boring.

The essence of marriage is that both parties should continue to invest and manage their feelings in marriage in order to truly maintain a relationship.

Second, to understand the differences, it is necessary to understand that there are certain differences between men and women in the exchange of ideas and problem solving.

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Although two people form a family, they are different in their growing environment and education level, thus creating two different individuals.

When you are in love, no matter how the language is interlinked, there are still many differences, especially in communication language expression. Men's language is to express facts and convey information, while women's language focuses on expressing emotions. In the face of women's implicit expression, men are used to literal understanding, and it is difficult to understand the meaning behind the words, which leads to misunderstanding.

Facing the differences between the two sides, what we need to do in marriage is to respect, accept each other, understand our differences and express our emotions on the basis of empathy.

Third, we should dare to express our needs.

Feeling unhappy, getting married is like a burden. Why is this happening? What do you want the other person to do? We can be happy and express our needs to each other. Only by speaking frankly can he know that if you don't express it, you will want to give up this marriage because you have too much resentment in your heart.

Fourth, finding a goal in marriage and working together are the secrets of lasting happiness.

* * * Unity of purpose is the preservative of marriage. A brain science study shows that the higher the happiness index, the more they usually look like "doing something". Happy people are always doing something and enjoying setting goals and achieving them.

The wife loves her husband very much, but as time goes by, their relationship has entered a period of burnout. Just then, one of their friends immigrated and wanted to sell their house to them at a low price. At that time, in order to buy this house, the husband and wife did many things that they had never done before, such as investigating the surrounding housing prices together, trying to raise funds together, and going through the transfer procedures together. In order to buy a house, they are busy every day and their relationship is getting closer and closer.

Later, they recalled that time and said, "The two months when we bought a house were the most meaningful two months since we got married." Their burnout period also passed unconsciously when they were looking for a solution, so if they want to keep their marriage fresh forever, then both sides should find a common goal and work hard to achieve it! When this goal is achieved, look for the next goal as soon as possible.

If you feel unhappy after marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is to solve the problem, not just to give up. We can't swim in this swimming pool, and we can't swim well in another swimming pool. We are not happy after marriage. We must learn how to have a lasting and happy marriage. Love and happiness are abilities that can be acquired through learning!