Compare students, ok?

Researcher Sun Yunxiao, deputy director of China Youth Research Center and an expert on youth issues, believes that, first of all, adults must realize that it is normal and natural for children to keep up with the joneses. For children who have been "lagging behind" and "catching up" in the process of comparison, this kind of comparison behavior will definitely constitute psychological pressure. Without the guidance of adults, mainly teachers and parents, the outbreak of this kind of pressure under long-term accumulation is likely to produce excessive behavior similar to that made by Xiao Jing.

For an immigrant city like Shenzhen, foreign children may face a greater psychological gap. This requires parents and the local education system to provide some adaptive education for their children. Parents should let their children have a correct understanding of the environment they will face in the future, and then go to a very different new environment. Including understanding, accepting and controlling the actual situation of one's family.

Sun Yunxiao suggested that schools should instill more awareness of "differences" in their usual education. The core value of "sustainable development education" formulated by the United Nations this year is "respect". As an educational institution, schools should tell students that the gap between the rich and the poor is the reality of the current society, and poverty and affluence themselves will not determine the level of people. Respect for social differences and diversity, and respect for every individual living in this world of differences and diversity should be the focus of current youth values education.

In addition, learn to be grateful, understand the hardships of parents' lives, and tell children that spiritual wealth such as money, love and personality are as precious as they are, and they should be instilled in their daily contact with children.

Poor children look down on themselves.

Professor Wang Jian, deputy director of Shenzhen Mental Health Education Guidance Center for Primary and Secondary Schools and Shenzhen Institute of Educational Science, believes that from a psychological point of view, poor children and rich children are likely to have a natural sense of "dicing" when communicating. For this gap, we should emphasize the "inspirational" education for poor children and let them know that they have equal opportunities with rich children in the future development platform. For rich children, it is actually not feasible to unilaterally adopt the way of compulsory personalized consumption. Allow children to show their desire for individuality, but strictly put an end to extravagance and waste.

He said that at present, more than half of the children of migrant workers in Shenzhen are at school. At present, the education department has also strengthened the strength of teachers, and weakened children's concern about material differences when training teachers. For example, consciously ask teachers to treat the children of temporary residents equally in attitude. At the same time, guide children to turn their attention to the cultivation of personal interests and personal abilities.

Schools can correct children's comparison psychology and complete the harmonious coexistence of poor children and rich children by adding more extracurricular psychological counseling courses. For example, schools let poor children and rich children sit together, provide them with an opportunity to sit down and exchange ideas, and arrange professional psychological counseling teachers for guidance. Parents and teachers can guide their children first and give professional guidance in psychological counseling institutions on campus. Professional teachers can give further suggestions according to the actual situation. You don't have to wait to run away from home. Sohu and Du Nan survey: More than half of netizens discipline their children to keep up with the joneses.