How to deal with a woman's delirious period (a dialogue with an derailed woman)

I know I'm crazy. I don't care what face sends such a message in a circle of friends.

I know he blacked me out, but please know his friend and send him a screenshot of this circle of friends. However, to no avail.

Late at night, someone sent me this screenshot.

The sender is a mother who has been married for five years. Her name is Dan (a pseudonym).

She said:

Teacher Lu, until today, I didn't know what the most painful thing in life was.

This is to take out the internal organs without anesthesia.

Three months ago, he said he planned to immigrate to Australia with me. Less than a week later, he suddenly? Crazy, completely turned into something I don't know:

Completely denied our feelings, saying that we fell in love because I was pregnant before marriage and was forced to get married. He still loves his predecessor and stays with me for responsibility.

I wonder if I'm dreaming!

I turned on my mobile phone and looked at the sweet photos and videos of every trip and birthday party in the past. I asked him, was he acting in the past? I don't believe it! There must be a reason.

Sure enough, I found his in his mobile phone? Honey, he hasn't called me that for a year. She is just an old leftover woman, and she is not very good-looking, but she has a sweet mouth. I really don't understand why he can give up his feelings for such an ordinary person for so many years!

Some relatives and friends advised me to give up, and some people said that he was only fresh for a while, and then he came back.

Teacher Lu, I really don't know what to do. What do you think I should do?

I said: What would you do if you accidentally lost a bag containing 1 10,000 in a taxi, and the money was medical expenses to save your father's life?

Dan said: Try to get it back anyway!

I said: Yes, no one will stop without making some efforts.

All unhappy marriages are similar, and all happy love is different.

Two months later, Dan sent me a message: my husband bought me a ring again. He proposed to me for the second time and wanted to talk about love with me again!

She said: I really want to share the experience of these two months with everyone, so that more sisters on the platform know that love will only be rewarded if the method is used correctly!

Such a marriage is congenitally deficient.

Everyone is narcissistic, so we often fall into the trap of self-deception

Five years ago, he suddenly proposed to me at my birthday party. I thought happiness would last forever.

Now it seems ridiculous.

A love can't stand the test.

But what's more frightening is that I have no idea about it.

After adding a heart-to-heart communication group, I realized how similar our stories are:

The congenital BUG of the rich girl vs Phoenix man combination is his inferiority complex and my princess disease.

I will break up with my parents for him. Until today, the relationship has not been repaired. I gave up the stable job arranged by my parents and went to Beijing to start a business with him.

At that time, we lived in the basement and were chased for debts, but in fact, in those days, we ate a bunch of mala Tang at the roadside stall where the soil was violent and dusty, and we were all so happy.

Then the company developed and I got pregnant.

He said: I support you, don't work so hard, I have wronged you these years!

I was so touched at that time, but maybe that was the watershed of our feelings!

Our world is divided. He is busy with his work every day, and I am busy with my children every day. I rarely have time to say a word in a down-to-earth way.

It is said that China and his wife can speak about 10 sentences on average every day. We often don't even see each other. I slept with the child, and he didn't come back. He left before I woke up.

I thought it was temporary. When the children go to kindergarten, we can communicate well. But our emotional bank account has actually been overdrawn unconsciously.

Until one day he told me: Let's get a divorce.

Are you kidding?

Until the WeChat in the mobile phone told me that you should stop lying to yourself.

I really wanted to die at that moment.

I didn't eat or drink for three days, like a walking corpse.

He was frightened and asked me what was going on. I rushed up and scratched his face with my fist.

Then there is repeated tearing, he coaxed me and I hit him; When he left, I caught him again;

I'll crush him if he doesn't talk;

He told me the details of his relationship with mistress, and I cried bitterly.

I knew that I had made a mistake. For the sake of the children, I must be calm, but I really can't!

Finally, the child was taken away by my parents, and I began to miss the child again?

1 month later, I lost weight 10 kg!

He finally said: Let's divorce, and then before I knew it, he ran away from home and blackened me.

I went to his company to find him. I slapped San Xiao three times, cried to his partner and asked his parents for help.

I even swallowed pills?

After all the crazy things were done, I asked him what he really wanted. He asked me: I am afraid to see you now. Do you think we can still be together?

I really have no choice.

At this time, I calmed down a little: I always reacted instinctively and never thought I was just venting my emotions? Or is it really helpful to our marriage?

The expert group took the pulse and went straight to the emotional repair expert group and the affair assistance group, which were the focus of marriage, to discuss the case and judge Dan's husband's position. Brain crazy period? .

Judging from her husband's words and deeds, their problems are obviously due to two points:

● Emotional model problem:

What is the initial emotional pattern of husband and wife? Mutual affection? : Husband and wife are? Parallel port? , men and women? Side by side? Model.

But after entering the middle of marriage, the emotional model becomes? Stand back and forth? The man is outside and the woman is inside.

At this point, the husband lost his business partner and was unable to cope with the challenge alone; The wife lost her life partner and was occupied by children and housework. The original emotional win-win model was abandoned, and there was no new adjustment after everyone transitioned to a new lifestyle.

From the emotional bank account? Emotional currency? Constantly consuming, without new ones? Money? Inflow. Over the years, their marriage has been quietly devaluing.

Low mentality problem:

The couple feel sorry for each other because of external challenges. In response to the crisis, the two sides are increasingly United.

But when the external challenge weakens and success comes, what is it? Guilt? The easiest time to happen.

The old one? Secondary? Contradictions have become? The main contradiction? The husband's inferiority complex was exposed at this time. When he succeeds, he will expand and need more recognition from the women in the relationship.

My wife's princess disease has also begun to attack, I hope my husband will give him more love.

On the one hand, the husband feels that his wife's family does not recognize him, and he is worried about it. On the other hand, he felt that his wife was outspoken and his self-esteem was damaged. But at the same time, he felt that his wife was kind to his success and could not open her mouth. So these emotions kept piling up until he cheated. Release yourself? Opportunity.

In fact, every relationship has its fatal wound. If we don't understand the crux of the problem, we can't kill the bacteria that invaded our marriage. You can consult me privately, help you analyze and sort it out, help you find a targeted emotional repair plan and teach you how to do it.

According to the analysis of the expert combination assistance mission, Dan's marital emotional bank still has a certain balance despite the derailment. If she finds psychological help at the first time and grasps the golden period, the cost of repairing her feelings will be lower.

The emotional expert group gave Dan 40 points for his current mood.

The reason for this is the following：

1. The kindness of caring for each other is not available to ordinary couples. It is impossible for a husband not to miss this kindness.

2. Marriage has deteriorated to this day. Although the husband is urging for divorce step by step, he has never gone to court to sue.

3. I suspect that the main problem of this relationship is Dan's marriage change, and his emotions are excessively intensified, which leads to her husband's fear and dare not save it.

4. Is the husband typical? Brain crazy period? Because of success, the two sides didn't have much grievances before.

Therefore, if Dan uses the right method and does not force her husband into a mistress, there is still hope for emotional repair.

5. Make a plan: Don't let a relationship with a future be ruined so unfortunately.

Emotional manipulation revives love.

According to Dan's life experience, emotional intelligence level and understanding ability, the emotional expert group formulated a systematic, practical and specific emotional recovery strategy for her.

Finally, under the guidance of the emotional expert group, Dan finally succeeded in exposing Xiao San through various operations. Tricky bitch? True colors.

If you don't know how to hit a mistress, let her show her true colors, send me a private letter for advice and teach you how to help. From more than 30 consultants? Three-step and three-step destruction method? Let her collapse and her husband suddenly wake up!

And because of the improvement of Dan's emotional ability, the husband once again felt his wife's deep understanding of himself, step by step? Crazy devil? Out of state.

Finally, he cried and hugged Dan and said, I don't know what happened to me, which would hurt someone who is so important to me! Thank you for not letting my life continue to get out of control! Save your marriage, save yourself first.

Now that I have experienced this storm, I find that our emotional quality has risen to a new level than before.

Now I feel safe when I get married again. But the biggest difference is that it used to be a fantasy, but now it is a strong feeling of holding happiness firmly in your hand!

I am especially glad that I met a team of emotional experts with the help of my heart. Even my girlfriend enviously said that if I had finished reading the article with the help of my heart earlier and sought the help of my heart earlier, maybe my predecessor and I wouldn't be here today!

Dan said, now I find that even if I don't need to save my feelings, I can benefit a lot from studying with the help of my heart. Now, with the help of Amway Heart, she has been taking classes and doing emotional escort services. Her friends have nothing to say, I just got married, so you recommended this to me!

She said that if you had studied these courses earlier, you wouldn't have taken so many detours like me!

Dan said: There are so many emotional recovery courses and companies now. I have participated in many courses before, and I feel very general. Why?

Because many of these so-called recovery experts are post-90s or even post-00s, what emotions do they know?

With the help of a willing heart, emotional counselors have been immersed in this field for more than ten years, turning complex psychological theories and tens of thousands of case experiences into practical emotional recovery routines.

Their life experience, theoretical experience and self-growth are certainly convincing!

The emotional expert group with the help of the heart suggests all encounters? Brain crazy period? Women who have been hurt by men must do the following to save their feelings:

1. The essence of saving emotions is to save yourself.

2. Save yourself, starting with saving your emotions.

3. All emotions are truly hopeless, regardless of how powerful the other person is? Crazy? , but depends on whether you? Crazy? The faster a woman's emotional recovery ability, the lower the cost of emotional recovery.

You can't see hope because you didn't upgrade your emotional outlook, didn't see the crux of the problem and didn't improve your emotional intelligence. Do these three things, and you will see opportunities everywhere!

5. Never looking? Pig teammate? How to use these resources, friends and relatives, you need a good measure, otherwise it is easy to make these? Lobbyist? Success is not enough, but failure is more than enough.

6. Identify real masters, not people who live by Jianghu experience? Emotional expert? , to examine their training background and case experience!

Still the same sentence: what can't destroy me will make me strong!

This will be a real rebirth for most of the original matches, and it is the most rare opportunity.

Hurry up, I will help you submit the application materials and help you make a series of preliminary counseling preparations.