Enjoy your family and be filial? On parents emigrating to Australia

-(A) the choice of immigration projects

Australia has beautiful scenery, fresh air and green vegetation, creating a unique natural oxygen bar. Standing high, it looks like the sky and the sea are connected, clear and blue. Indeed, the air here is good and the ecological environment is good. People here live a quiet, comfortable and comfortable life, attracting immigrants from all over the world to start a new life in Australia.

Immigration is not a problem for young people, because youth is capital and all aspects can adapt quickly. But for parents who have passed their fate, it is not so easy to choose immigration, which is both sensitive and difficult. If you follow your children to Australia, a new continent in the southern hemisphere, that is another choice for parents.

If parents in their fifties and sixties immigrate to Australia, they will face a brand-new living environment and a brand-new life stage. How will parents feel? Will they be confused? Is there a language barrier? Do parents feel at a loss in the new environment and life from scratch? Perhaps because of the differences in living habits and concepts, as well as some ideas from spiritual, economic and traditional concepts, will parents feel that they don't know how to adapt and adapt? Will you temporarily lose confidence in the new environment and life? However, this is exactly what parents of this age group must face and choose.

Children have settled in Australia. Do parents want to emigrate? How to immigrate? When did you immigrate? This is a realistic and prudent question. On the whole, the answer is yes. Parents should emigrate and stay with their children, because affection is more important than others. It is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation to let parents reunite with their children as soon as possible and enjoy family happiness, so parents should follow their children's footsteps, emigrate to Australia and enjoy family happiness.

If you want to immigrate, you must choose an immigration plan. What kind of immigration plan is the most reasonable and reasonable? At present, there are only two kinds of immigrants suitable for the elderly: one is queuing; The second is payment, but the two schemes are different from each other in terms of family situation, income status and parents' physical health status.

Judging from the situation of parents queuing for immigration approval in recent years, it usually takes about 8- 10 years from application to approval. In such a long time, we should first consider the physical condition of our parents. For young people, 8- 10 years is not a long time, but for parents aged 50-60.

If you choose to pay, although the time is fast (estimated to be about two years), it does cost a lot (at present, parents estimate that it is less than 6.5438+10,000 Australian dollars). The young couple are going to get married and start a family. It might be better if there were no loans and no children. If there are loans and children, there will be some economic pressure. If both parents have to pay for emigration, the economic pressure and mental pressure for a working-class couple can be imagined. Therefore, this scheme of both parents paying for immigration may not be established because of the high cost.

Parents' immigration plan should be considered, and parents' health, family income, the length of queuing time, parents' real feelings about immigration and other conditions should be comprehensively considered to determine that parents' immigration plan is feasible.

So what's the plan? In my opinion, the choice of the scheme: it is the true will of parents to immigrate to Australia rather than other factors; Balance between parents' physical condition and waiting time in line; After the above balance and comparison, it should be feasible to balance the family's economic situation and ability to pay.

This immigration plan mainly considers three points, namely: whether parents really want to immigrate; Good health is suitable for waiting in line for a long time; Whether the financial situation can afford the payment plan for two or four elderly people, therefore:

In the emotional aspect, we should consider the true feelings and wishes of parents, because the elderly are emotionally fragile and nostalgic. Old people are willing to reunite with their children and enjoy family happiness, but they don't want to stay away from home for a long time and lose their familiar life circles and interpersonal relationships. This is a practical problem. As children, no matter what the reason and purpose, don't be too subjective and arbitrary on this issue, and try to seek the opinions of the elderly.

In terms of the health of the elderly, if you choose to pay for immigration because of physical reasons, you should explain clearly to the elderly why you need to pay for immigration, fully explain the long waiting time of queuing immigrants, the variability of Australian government policies and other factors, so that the elderly can realize that affection is far greater than money, and shortening the time for early reunion is more important than anything else.

Economically, we should consider the actual economic situation of the family. If you choose to pay the bill for immigrants, whether the elderly spend it themselves or the children pay for it, you should do what you can according to the objective and actual situation. In this regard, the elderly may think more. In the eyes of the elderly, they have worked hard all their lives, raising their children and getting married are all based on economic data. Now that I'm retired, my health is getting worse and worse, and I earn less and spend much more economically, so I'm careful with my money. If it is the old man's own money, the old man's psychology is that he can not spend it, and he can not spend it unless he has to, and try to save money for a rainy day; If it is a child's money, as an old man, he is basically determined not to spend it, because the old man really doesn't want to cause trouble to the child. Therefore, in terms of payment with money, whether it is the money of the elderly or the money of their children, we must fully negotiate and unify our opinions, gain the understanding of the elderly, and prevent the elderly from retaining worries.

In short, parents who don't want to go right away can queue up first; If you are healthy and willing to queue up, you can run at both ends and wait in line; If economic conditions temporarily prevent you from queuing while you are still healthy, it is not too late to transfer money when economic conditions permit. Australia likes or is willing to pay for immigrants very much. If you switch from queuing to payment, you can get the approval in two or three months, which is very fast and there is a precedent.

No matter which scheme is adopted, parents should be consulted and satisfied, because after all, parents have emigrated.

Parents' emigration is a big deal. How to do a good job and choose a new plan requires the child's brain.

-(2) We should adjust our mentality in time.

It is important for parents to adjust their mentality in time after emigrating to Australia. If you adjust your mentality, you will find life in this new environment very good and interesting. If you don't adjust your mentality, you will feel uncomfortable, lonely and lifeless, and you may be addicted to the past.

How to adjust your mentality? First of all, forget your past, take off all your aura and utilitarianism, forget your past and treat yourself as an ordinary civilian, no matter how distinguished, blessed and expensive you used to be; No matter how humble your past position is, how much you have suffered and how many crimes you have committed, you can completely forget it, because you have come to a new environment and started a new life, and everything has to start over.

I remember when I was building a house in Australia, a friend said in a chat, "If you want to live well in Australia, you must do the following: First, forget your past. No one in Australia wants to hear about your past, and you don't have to show off your past with others, because it's annoying; Second, when in Rome, do as the Romans do, learn what temples and read what books. Since Wan Li has traveled all the way to this foreign temple in Australia, he must read foreign classics. Third, it's important to endure loneliness and learn to have fun by yourself. The fourth is to enjoy life in a down-to-earth manner. In Australia, no one asks you to read newspapers and learn red-headed documents every day, and you don't have to tell everyone how China is better than Australia. Otherwise, it would be embarrassing to ask why you came to Australia. "

What this friend said is unreasonable and true. Its main significance is to let the elderly learn to have a normal heart and enjoy the sunshine and life carefree after coming to Australia.

I started a new life in a new foreign environment. My familiar life circle is gone, and my old friends who often meet me can't see, can't read newspapers, can't read TV, can't speak English, can't know the way out and can't drive. The old couple can buy food, cook, wash clothes and take care of their children for a short time. If they find life boring for a long time, they should start from scratch. If they can't drive, they must study first. We should realize that language is a tool for all actions, actively learn some daily life, communicate in English, and never be discouraged in learning English. It is never too old to learn. Secondly, actively establish a life circle, make more friends and actively participate in activities of interest; Thirdly, learn to have a peaceful mind, live every day well, find happiness by yourself, don't think about those annoying things, learn to comfort yourself, and understand that life is short. It is not easy for children to immigrate to their parents. They cannot live with themselves, their children or others, and they cannot live a new life in a new environment.

Therefore, we should actively adjust our mentality. If we adjust our mentality, we will feel that life is very happy, which is of positive significance to ourselves, our families and our children.

(3) How to get along with children under the same roof

With the growth of age, we are all increasing the degree of "weakness" (referring to the body and brain), so we should learn to play around and be peaceful. Health is the main thing, what is the main thing. Don't be angry every day, position yourself. Don't think about coming to Australia to make a lot of money. It's impossible. We are old and time waits for no man. Now is the age of children. Think about it, but don't be realistic, or there will be contradictions at home.

When you arrive in Australia, you may have to live with your children and live under the same roof. How to adjust various relationships is an important prerequisite for harmonious and happy family life.

-How to get along with children-

I agree that every family has difficulties in studying, but it depends on whether we can study. First of all, we old people should ask ourselves, have we done everything for our children? Whether you live in a son's house or a son-in-law's house, first of all, a person's mentality is to make his family his own, his daughter-in-law his daughter, and his son-in-law his son. It is not easy to think about children now, such as graduating from school, living and working permanently, getting married, buying a house and repaying loans, educating children to be filial to the elderly and so on. Besides giving children limited money, what can we do to help them? Everything in Australia is not a step-by-step effort by children, especially today when there are small achievements. When we get old, aren't we eating and enjoying ourselves? Can I immigrate to Australia if I have no children? What are you unhappy about? In fact, every family is a good classic, depending on how to read it! If you read well, it will be a beautiful symphony. Otherwise it may be the "constant symphony" of pots and pans.

About our coffers.

Although money is not everything, it is absolutely impossible to have no money. What is money? It's for our use, and there are only a few in stock. It's also appropriate to take it out for children or subsidize families. Looking back, when our children went abroad to study, got married and got married, didn't they all give everything, let alone help the whole family? I'm thinking now. I don't know if there are any foreigners (more sons or daughters get married and start a family). Hehe, it's a matter of mentality ... so, money is a thing outside. If there is too much inventory, the effectiveness of money will be greatly reduced when it dies. For example, I am one of the three highs. I can't eat this and that. I will eat less this today and not that tomorrow. Finally, I couldn't wait to eat two bites of my greedy raw meat. I want to think about it myself, but I can't. I liberated myself dialectically. Looking back on yourself is only a moment in the long river of history. What can I do without you in the long history? I can live for 3-5 years without eating anything, but I want to enjoy less delicious food and eat everything for 5 years. Isn't it the same for five years without you in this historical process? I made money and saved money. Although I had a lot of money, I left after two days. Is money still useful to me? Who said that? Isn't that painful? Eat it. Eat from now on, but what should be controlled is still controlled (unscientific theory). So don't take money so seriously, just spend enough.

-Talking about habits-

Do as Romans do in Rome. It is natural to have Australian habits. Although it is difficult for children to enter the mainstream society in Australia, they are still building Australia's "spiritual civilization and material civilization". We can't lose face. Therefore, we should adapt to the living habits in Australia and pay attention to the living habits at home. When children get married, especially when they become grandparents, they must pay attention to their own image, otherwise they will learn from us. If these bad habits are not changed, it will not only affect the next generation, but also affect the "work" of taking care of children, which will not only make people laugh at themselves, but also affect the spiritual civilization construction in Australia. So, get rid of our bad habits (you may say that there are so many bad habits, yes, there are many more. Let me give two examples: making noise while eating; Do not pay attention to picking your teeth after meals; If you don't pay attention to your own voice, you will lose your temper and so on. This is also a question of adjustment and mentality!

-In terms of external communication-

After arriving in Australia, we should first follow the children's habits and slowly explore our own living habits and rhythms; If you chat with your child's friends, don't talk about income. Ask your children about their taboos in this regard. For children's own affairs, let them decide for themselves and try not to participate. If the child takes the initiative to participate, the final decision is still made by the child; As for traveling abroad, I think many children are willing to pay all the expenses for their parents to travel in Australia. We can't completely count on them. If their family's economic conditions are average, they will pay part of it themselves. As for inviting friends you know to your home, you should first ask your children if they agree. Some people want to have a lively family. If your child likes to be busy, help clean the house and prepare some food and drinks before friends come home.