Is it better to marry a China man who emigrated or a foreigner?

Let me try. I have lived overseas for 20 years, and a friend married a foreigner.

First, why get married? For me, I want love, affection, sharing and care, social relations and sex. Of course, my wife and I should work together financially to raise children and support the family.

What are you looking for? As I grow older, I realize that love is just a chemical reaction, and as time goes on, this chemical reaction will become less and less.

I lived with a Canadian girl for several years to share my experience with you, especially about the difficulties of cross-cultural marriage.

What do you mean when you talk about foreigners? African? Or an Indian? Let me assume that you are talking about white people in America, Canada or Australia.

1. Shower/bathtub. Most people in China take a shower or bath before going to bed. Do you know that most foreigners take a bath first thing in the morning? Despite the bad smell, they seldom take a bath before going to bed. Now, I don't take a bath at night, but in the morning. It took me many years to get rid of this habit, which is difficult for China people to adapt to.

2. food. Forget your Sichuan food. For nearly five years, my girlfriend and I basically ate separately. Now, I eat blue cheese, and I like Sichuan cuisine and Hunan cuisine.

3. money. You know, at the end of each month, my girlfriend and I get together to check the bills and share all the expenses. She has her own bank account and I have mine. If you think your foreign husband will support your life, forget it. If you have no income, he will kick you out. This is fair. When I left my girlfriend, I didn't owe her anything, and neither did she.

4. In-laws. Do you know that your white husband won't live with your parents and won't fund them to go to Canada? If they come to visit, they can stay for a week. Any longer, they'll have to sleep in a hotel room.

5. Lifestyle. You know, if you spend money on luxury goods like louis vuitton, Prada or the like, they won't care about you at all. They will go camping and fishing, which you can't stand.

6. language You know, I have three university degrees, and I have a good command of English at work. In the quarrel, I have difficulty communicating with my girlfriend, and so does she, especially in our feelings. I swear to God, from now on, if I have any intimate relationship, I can only speak Chinese.

7. Make love. This is the source of misunderstanding. To me, Canadian women are no different from China women.

8. divorce. I used to work for a company where there were 20 people. During my eight years there, everyone was divorced or separated. Even some of them have been married and divorced two or three times. I find that Canadians are quite loyal to their spouses in marriage, but once they feel that their love is gone, they will not hesitate to divorce.

How about overseas Chinese? It depends on how westernized he is. My behavior is no different from that of Canadians.

Finally, may I ask you again why you want to get married? For love, you just need to find the person you love. That's it.

In most cases, you will have a better chance to marry overseas Chinese for a passport or a traditional Chinese marriage in which a husband supports his wife.

Have second thoughts about a white foreigner. Cultural differences are sometimes too great for you to overcome.

Just my two cents. Good luck.