What do you think of choice?

The choice of candidates is field choice, from what to eat today, what to wear when going out, whether to take the subway or take a taxi to work, to what kind of career to do, what kind of partner to choose and which city to live in. Countless choices have created ourselves and our own living conditions.

I once lived in a comfortable third-tier city. Later, in order to give myself more opportunities, I chose to come to Shenzhen, a city full of vitality and opportunities. Because of this choice, my vision has been greatly broadened. I think the wisest and most correct choice I made before I was 30 years old was to choose to come to Shenzhen.

Let's look at the choices of some friends around me.

Xiaowen has been in Shenzhen for five years. During these five years, every time I chatted with him, he showed great anxiety. Xiaowen's family is in the northeast, both parents work in the system, and his brother has also been admitted to the civil servants in his hometown. He also found a girlfriend in the system and lived the same life as his parents.

Xiaowen doesn't want to be a copy of his parents and brother. After graduating from college, he came to work in a securities company in Shenzhen alone. At first, he was engaged in grass-roots business in a branch. His five-year goal is to go to the business department at headquarters to contact the junior management. However, five years later, Xiaowen's goal is still out of reach.

The pressure from Xiaowen's family is also increasing. Stubborn Xiaowen, bent on proving that he can live a good life in Shenzhen, has withstood the pressure of countless family members in the past five years.

However, no matter how plump the ideal is, it looks so skinny in front of the reality of "no house, no car, no girlfriend and no deposit". After pulling for five years, Xiaowen's family won, and Xiaowen left the city silently.

Later, I can only know him in my circle of friends. Xiaowen lives a life similar to his brother's, but his smiling face in the wedding photos shows that he is happy.

I wonder if he will still remember the time when he listened to e-books on Metro Line 2, the time when he worked overtime all night to kill a hot lunch in familymart, or the time when he went home late at night to take Didi with him.

Shenzhen is a big stage, and there are wonderful performances every day. Some people end up singing, and some people are singing the song of youth in full swing.

Another example is Xiao Duan, another young man in my circle of friends. This young man is from Zhanjiang, Guangdong. After graduating from college, he was admitted to a job as a teacher in a middle school in his hometown, and he also had a girlfriend there. However, unwilling to be lonely, Xiao Duan resolutely quit his job within the system one year later and came to Shenzhen to join the entrepreneurial team to study Internet marketing.

Xiao Duan works very hard. After more than a year in Shenzhen, his progress has been amazing, but his family and girlfriend have been pressuring him to go back to his hometown to buy a house and get married.

Xiao Duan actively seeks the support of his family and girlfriend, and at the same time works and studies harder, hoping to convince his family and girlfriend with his progress.

For Xiao Duan, Shenzhen is a city of hope. He deeply feels that what he wants in Shenzhen must be exchanged with his own efforts. Only by trying to stay in Shenzhen can he live the life he wants.

Shenzhen is a city that people love and hate. On the one hand, the vibrant and vast development space of the city attracts countless young people to come here to find their own world. On the other hand, the rising cost of living stimulates the fragile nerves of young people from time to time.

The phrase "Shenzhen people are coming" can be seen everywhere in the Shenzhen subway. For some people, it's a feeling like a sore throat, because no matter how hard you try, you can't get a sense of belonging in this immigrant city. For some people, it is like a tempting poison, and if you drink it, you will be immersed in it.

I want to live the life I want in Shenzhen, mainly by my own strength and efforts; Back home, with the support of the resources of the original ecological family, you can live a good life.

should i stay or should i go？ There is no right or wrong, it just depends on how you choose to live the life you want.

What are the stories of major choices in your life? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.

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