One thousand gold buys a house, ten thousand gold buys a neighbor, you are the one who will accompany you all the time.

Zhu Guofeng, who loves long-term care. If you want to live in your own home in your later years and avoid loneliness, I think you must have a "Mother Chen" who can come and chat with you every day. Old neighbors who are close by , may be able to reduce loneliness in old age and increase the sense of security when living alone than filial sons and daughters who are far away. "When you live alone, who is most likely to come and chat with you every day?" I've been thinking about this question a lot lately. My mother's foreign caregiver, Adi, "left without saying goodbye," and my mother rejoined the ranks of "elderly people living alone." One night, when I returned home after getting married, I saw my mother slowly flipping through the old faded photo album. I felt sad for my mother's loneliness, and I couldn't help but ask her, "Mom, are you bored at home alone?" Unexpectedly, my mother raised her head, looked at me with a smile and said, "Socks, Adiluo." After I ran away, Mother Chen came to play with me every day." Mother Chen is my mother's old neighbor for more than 40 years. They were both the first generation residents of this community when it was first built. They are both mothers and people. Grandmas have left many marks on each other in their lives. After Uncle Chen passed away, Mother Chen began to live alone. Mother Chen even gave her identity card, seals and other important items to her mother for safekeeping. In the past, my mother was accompanied by foreign caregivers, and I didn’t pay much attention to the visits from these old neighbors. Now that my mother has returned to the list of elderly people living alone, I find it very precious to see my old neighbor every day. Because you live alone when you are old and are too weak to be sent to a day care center, or you are excluded from a day care center, can someone come and chat with you every day? The first thing many people think of is old friends. I found in popular articles on the Internet that modern people have high expectations for growing old with their friends. But the reality is that when life has reached the end of the sunset, old friends may move, immigrate, or even die. My mother often looked at an old yellowed photo, which was taken in a salon by several sisters when they were in their prime. My mother pointed at the people in the shadow one by one with infinite regret and said: "This one has been gone for more than ten years, this one passed away earlier..." Those who are still alive are either bad or have been sent away by their children. We are in a nursing home, so we can only occasionally talk to each other on the phone to take care of each other. (pixabay) So, when you are old and want someone to chat with you every day, can you look forward to the siblings you grew up with? Grandpa Liu has five brothers, but they live in the north and south of Taiwan. The brothers are like the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl. They meet once a year on the "Magpie Bridge", which is in front of the ancestral graves during the Qingming Festival. Perhaps because there is no more ancestral property to fight for, Grandpa Liu's extended family is in harmony when they get together, but more cases are brought to court, and family disputes even extend from the first generation to the third generation. "Brothers live next to each other and go to court to settle accounts over family property." This is a recent social news story. When brothers and sisters with the same inheritance rights are at odds with each other, even if they live next to each other, it is too late to argue. How can you expect the old lady to stay with you and talk about common things? Zhu Guofeng loves long-term care. If you want to live in your own home in your later years and avoid loneliness, I think you must have a "Mama Chen" who can come and chat with you every day. Old neighbors who are close at hand may be better than those who are far away. Dutiful sons and daughters can reduce loneliness in old age and increase the sense of security when living alone. "When you live alone, who is most likely to come and chat with you every day?" I've been thinking about this question a lot lately. My mother's foreign caregiver, Adi, "left without saying goodbye," and my mother rejoined the ranks of "elderly people living alone." One night, when I returned home after getting married, I saw my mother slowly flipping through the old faded photo album. I felt sad for my mother's loneliness, and I couldn't help but ask her, "Mom, are you bored at home alone?" Unexpectedly, my mother raised her head, looked at me with a smile and said, "Socks, Adiluo." After I ran away, Mother Chen came to play with me every day." Mother Chen is my mother's old neighbor for more than 40 years. They were both the first generation residents of this community when it was first built. They are both mothers and people. Grandmas have left many marks on each other in their lives. After Uncle Chen passed away, Mother Chen began to live alone. Mother Chen even gave her identity card, seals and other important items to her mother for safekeeping. In the past, my mother was accompanied by foreign caregivers, and I didn’t pay much attention to the visits from these old neighbors. Now that my mother has returned to the list of elderly people living alone, I find it very precious to see my old neighbor every day. Because you live alone when you are old and are too weak to be sent to a day care center, or you are excluded from a day care center, can someone come and chat with you every day? The first thing many people think of is old friends. I found in popular articles on the Internet that modern people have high expectations for growing old with their friends. But the reality is that when life has reached the end of the sunset, old friends may move, immigrate, or even die. My mother often looked at an old yellowed photo, which was taken in a salon by several sisters when they were in their prime. My mother pointed at the people in the shadow one by one with infinite regret and said: "This one has been gone for more than ten years, this one passed away earlier..." Those who are still alive are either bad or have been sent away by their children. We are in a nursing home, so we can only occasionally talk to each other on the phone to take care of each other. (pixabay) So, when you are old and want someone to chat with you every day, can you look forward to the siblings you grew up with? Grandpa Liu has five brothers, but they live in the north and south of Taiwan. The brothers are like the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl. They meet once a year on the "Magpie Bridge", which is in front of the ancestral graves during the Qingming Festival.

Perhaps because there is no more ancestral property to fight for, Grandpa Liu's extended family is in harmony when they get together, but more cases are brought to court, and family disputes even extend from the first generation to the third generation. "Brothers live next to each other and go to court to settle accounts over family property." This is a recent social news story. When siblings with the same inheritance rights are at odds with each other, even if they live next to each other, it is too late to argue. How can you expect the old lady to stay with you and talk to each other in a normal manner? Old neighbors live close by and it is easy to get together every day. Therefore, I think that if you want to have a chat partner who comes to your door every day, you should find one from your neighbors, just like my mother’s old neighbor and good neighbor: Mother Chen. Mother Chen's legs and feet are actually not very agile anymore, but they are deteriorating more slowly than my mother's. When she learned that Adi had "abandoned her job and absconded" and that she was also living alone, Chen's mother began to come to accompany her mother every day, either in the morning or in the afternoon. Although the two old people lived alone, they got together every day and chatted about daily life. Sent over quickly. I also discovered later that Mother Chen would not mind if my mother kept repeating the regret that her grandfather refused to go to school and delayed her life, because Mother Chen might have had a similar experience. Moreover, like my mother, Chen's mother also "talks and forgets", and neither of them gets tired of repeating old topics. In the same life experiences, they actually healed each other and relieved each other of loneliness. Many elderly people living alone only have televisions and radios for company, but two-way communication with warmth can slow down the progression of dementia better than one-way televisions and radios that receive information. In addition to companionship, Mrs. Chen also plays the role of "safety visit" invisibly. Before hiring a foreign caregiver, my mother once fell down while going to the toilet in the middle of the night and lay on the floor until dawn. Because she was completely unable to stand up on her own or crawl back into bed. Now that old neighbors visit us every day, my mother's safety has become even more secure. The companionship and visits of old neighbors are precious and priceless. You must know that in the new long-term care payment method, "safety visits" and "accompanying services" have a price tag. The "Safety Viewing" service numbered BA18 includes: "Visiting the case with the patient's family and paying attention to abnormal situations." If it is the first hour of the day, the payment price is 400 yuan, and it is only available to people with mental disabilities. In other words, even if you want to "click" on this service for a mother who lives alone, you are not eligible. There is also "accompanying service" numbered BA20, which includes: "accompanying the client's family to watch, or read printed or electronic news or letters." Taking 1 hour as one payment unit, the price of one payment unit is 350 yuan. After one hour, the price of every half hour is 175 yuan. Although Mrs. Chen did not read any printed or electronic news to my mother, she provided warmer chats and care every day. Mother Chen's "safety supervision" and "accompanying service" are precious and priceless in my heart. If you want to live in your own home in your later years and avoid being lonely, I think you must have a "Mama Chen" who can come and chat with you every day. Old neighbors who are close at hand may be better than filial sons and daughters who are far away. They can reduce loneliness in old age and increase the sense of security when living alone. But I also know that neighbors mean more opportunities for friction. This reminds me of an anecdote from the Qing Dynasty. During the Kangxi period, the Zhang family in Tongcheng, Anhui Province was renovating their mansion. They had a dispute with their neighbor Wu family over the land boundary. Both parties believed that an adjacent passage should belong to themselves, so they filed a lawsuit with the county government. The Zhang family hurriedly wrote a letter to Zhang Ying, the then Minister of Rites, hoping that Zhang Ying could use his power to influence the outcome of the lawsuit. Unexpectedly, Academician Zhang wrote back and attached a poem: "The letters from thousands of miles are just for the wall, so why not let them be three feet? The Great Wall is still there today, but Qin Shihuang was nowhere to be seen." After receiving the reply, the family members realized something and took the initiative to give up three feet of space. The Wu family was deeply moved and stepped back three feet to give way. As a result, it became the famous "Six Feet Alley" in Tongcheng. It is said that Emperor Kangxi also gave a special archway to commend neighbors for their good reputation. In modern times, the land is narrow and densely populated. It is difficult to repeat the story of "Six Feet Alley". Instead, there are more frictions due to occupying parking spaces, flower pots, shoe boxes, this and that... But as long as you think about the antidote to the loneliness of the old lady, or the safety guarantee of the old lady, the answer may be close neighbors, maybe there can be less fighting. Think about it, have we always regarded our neighbors as nothing? Or have we been neighbors for decades, and when we meet in the stairwell, it’s no more than a nod of acquaintance? How did my mother and Mrs. Chen go from being neighbors to being dependent on each other? It turns out that they were mountain friends in the morning exercise in the community in their early years. Together they greeted countless mornings on the hill behind the community; together they collected firewood in the forest and enjoyed a cup of hot tea. If you don't have the opportunity to go for a morning walk with your neighbors, and you want to find a chat partner who can take care of each other when you are old, you can also seize the opportunity to provide help in times of need. I remember that Typhoon Nali devastated Taiwan, and my family’s neighborhood was also the hardest hit area. My mother lived on the first floor and was hit by a flash flood. At that time, many old neighbors extended a helping hand. Some invited people to stay overnight for refuge, some sent buckets of drinking water, and some came to collect dirty clothes every day... These proactive measures helped The old neighbors who came to help had a friendship that had saved them from adversity. The possibility of caring for each other was of course much higher than that of just acquaintances. As the proverb goes: "A thousand gold buys a house, ten thousand gold buys a neighbor." In fact, no amount of money can buy old neighbors who can come and chat with you every day. You must start looking for them carefully when you are still young. .

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