Son preference immigration post

China has a preference for sons over daughters since ancient times. Although in modern society, many young people are very avant-garde, but they still have this idea in their hearts, which has not been completely eliminated.

Especially in the older generation or backward areas, in some patriarchal families, fathers know that they are giving birth to daughters, but they can't eat any angry meals, or even abandon or give them away.

Hunan Satellite TV variety show "Teenagers Say" is being broadcasted. In the latest issue, there is a high school girl on the stage of courage, accusing her father of different treatment: we are all your children, so you should be equal to men and women.

The girl said that her brother was different from herself after he was born. Then, the girl listed her father's three "crimes":

1) My father thinks he is fat, but he feeds his younger brother as a chubby kid.

The girl said that she hasn't had a good meal since the fifth grade, because her father doesn't like her being fat, so she wants to lose weight. But as my brother grew up day by day, my father not only didn't abandon him, but also fed him into a chubby child.

2) I'm not worried about my daughter's study, but I pay special attention to my son.

Daughters never care much about their studies, but they are extremely concerned about their sons. She goes to school every day.

3) She is strict with her daughter, but extremely tolerant of her son.

The father was strict with his daughter since childhood, but after his son was born, he was very tolerant and gentle, asking nothing at all. Daughter complained: I just want to say, Dad, my brother and I are both your children. Why can't men and women be equal and treated equally? I also want to be treated gently and leniently by you.

After hearing his daughter's complaints, the father didn't realize his problems at all, but argued that these were not reasons.

The daughter immediately asked: Have you ever taken care of me since childhood? Has the teacher done all kinds of homework? Have you ever held a parent-teacher conference for me?

In the face of such soul torture, the father refused to admit it, and the audience was speechless.

Although these thoughts and behaviors are not positive, this eccentricity is actually an "invisible preference for boys". The daughter is very hurt inside, which is more hurtful than the bright side. Parents often don't know it.

1) The property is reserved for the son, but the daughter is required to provide for the elderly.

Fan Meisheng in Ode to Joy is a child of a typical patriarchal family. Fan not only has to work hard to make a living in a big city, but also helps his family pay off debts!

When such a family meets an unfilial son, it will not only blame him, but will let the daughter bear the problem of providing for the aged, and will also find some reasons to excuse his son. Of course, the property will only be left to the son.

2) Little things are equal in life, and big things are patriarchal.

In daily life, parents will share the things they buy equally with their sons and daughters, but they will make biased decisions on some major issues.

For example, let the son go to a better school or enroll in a better cram school or extracurricular class, but there is no such preferential treatment for the daughter. When children grow up, they will only buy houses for their sons and ignore their daughters.

3) Words and deeds are different, saying that they are equal, but their actions are more biased towards boys.

Some parents say that both boys and girls like it, but they always do strange things in their actions. For example, be more patient with boys, or give more pocket money, but impatient with girls, lack of care.

This "invisible" preference for boys is popular, and sometimes it is more terrible than obvious prejudice, so it is difficult for girls from families to get rid of inferiority and psychological problems, and it is easy to have extreme ideas and form personality defects.

Therefore, the invisible preference for boys is very harmful to her daughter. If girls find this situation at home, they should make plans early and be prepared for economic independence, so as not to be influenced too much by their family background.

In the process of educating children, parents should keep learning, understand that raising children is not utilitarian, and know how to educate and influence children with love.

Only by truly giving love and care can children be grateful to their parents and filial to them. What do you think of this "invisible preference for boys over girls"?