What kind of mother is a qualified mother?

Is it the kind of mother whose child is sick and goes to the hospital for intravenous drip all day, without taking a sip of water or a bite of rice, eager for her baby to get better soon? Of course not, such a mother must be a mother who failed the parenting exam, so she will be punished physically and mentally. You know, every time a child gets sick, it is a whip drawn on her heart! Mothers who have no parenting experience often use their ignorance to make their children suffer a lot. If someone can tell them that as long as they are sharp-eyed and diligent, they can make their children less sick and suffer less, then most mothers will do it happily and will not be lazy. I was lucky that when my daughter was born, a friend who was an expert in pediatrics of traditional Chinese medicine came to visit me and my children. She taught me the widely used Three Character Classics of Parenting. I recalled it, and my personal experience is summarized as follows: First, as the mother of a child, we should have a sense of "fire", find the flame, put it out in time, and avoid future troubles. The "fire" here refers to the internal fire that children can easily enter. People often say, "children are afraid of fire, and only when there is fire can they get sick." Children are "pure yang", with strong vitality, rapid metabolism, rapid growth and development, and easy imbalance between yin and yang, that is, "getting angry". The phenomenon of "getting angry" is not only easy to occur in dry autumn and winter, but also in changing seasons or hot summer. So children can also toss their parents at these critical points. If you can ensure that there is no fire in your child's body, basically parents will not be in a hurry to take their children to the hospital! Generally, the fire will not start at once, and the child's internal fire will not suddenly break out. There are usually signs that can be found. That old Chinese doctor taught me to pay attention to several key points of children when taking a bath every day or before putting them to bed-1. Anal: The child's anus is pink when it is normal, and red when there is heat in the intestine. The darker the color, the greater the fire in the body. Once it is found to be red, it is necessary to give children some vegetables or fruits to dispel the fire, such as tomatoes, cabbage kernels, sugarcane juice, or drink some light bamboo leaf water and light rattan tea. Generally, honey is dripped with shredded pear, shredded white radish and shredded lotus root, and the juice is poured out for children to eat and drink, which is very useful. In short, it must be something that children like and accept, but not too cold. At this time, we must remember not to let children eat too much, especially high-calorie food, and try not to eat it. Fast food is absolutely forbidden. 2. canthus: if there is gum in the corner of the eye, it means that the child is angry. At this time, children are often prone to lose their temper and disobey. You can spread raw celery with peanut butter and sugar, or squeeze some celery juice to cook porridge. 3. Tongue: If the child's tongue and tongue edge are red, it means that there is a heart fire. At this time, children generally love thirst during the day, toss at night and can't sleep well. There are many foods to dispel the heart fire. For example, in summer, you can buy fresh lotus seeds and peel them directly for children to eat. And water bamboo and eggplant. It is best to stir-fry and steam, and don't use too much oil. 4. Corner of the mouth: After careful observation, some children often have "white stubble" in their mouths, which is caused by dry mouth, indicating that they have a temper. You can find persimmon cream on persimmons to wash for children, or buy carambola for children to eat. If the tongue is sour, yellow and greasy, give the child some small Chinese medicine such as Baoding and put out the fire as soon as possible, otherwise, the child will soon give you some color to see see. 5. Defecation: Every time a child defecates, parents should observe whether the child is relaxed and smooth, and how the child looks. If the child is very painful, it takes a lot of effort to get out, and the stool is not soft or yellow, and there is bad breath at the same time, it is stomach fire. Try to let the children have an empty stomach, eat less, drink millet porridge, lily porridge, boiled water or juice, which can eliminate stomach fire. 6, palm: always hold the child's small hand, just touch the child's palm, if it is cool and humid, then you can rest assured. If it is dry and hot, and you still sweat at night, it is a virtual fire. Such children are physically weak, can't eat cold food, and are not easy to get hurt. It's a good idea to pinch him and rub his soles. Generally, children under the age of seven or eight don't need medication. Massage can solve the problem. Second, there are signs before children have a fever, a cold or get sick. Generally, it should be handled in time, drink more hot water, cover the quilt and lie flat to rest, which will turn the corner or alleviate the symptoms. Like frost flowers, drooping, not talking, or fidgeting and shirking inexplicably are all unwell languages. These children can't express themselves, but adults should see it from their body language. Also, judging whether a child has a fever because he has played too much or is really sick can also be judged from whether he is "tired". If it's okay and the child doesn't feel bad, he should play and eat. No one is unhappy. This ruler is the most effective for judging children's acute rash. Thirdly, in Drought Prevention, it is said that children are watery and attractive, which is true, because children contain more water than adults, about 75% of which is water! Moreover, the total size of children is small, and if there is a lack of water, it is not a small percentage. Therefore, the general child is sick, and water shortage is an important reason. In other words, the child did not drink water in time when it was time to drink water. Generally, children should drink warm boiled water and thin water when they get up in the morning, eat fruit in the morning, go out to play during the day, and bring water, and drink water at most half an hour. Dare not drink more water before going to bed at night. Children with small bladders can't sleep well if they drink too much water. But drink water an hour before going to bed, so that most of the "toxins" in the lower coke can be discharged before going to bed. "Don't wait until you are thirsty to drink water" is the principle that mothers should teach their children to drink water from an early age, which will benefit their children for life! Because the body is full of water, it can function normally and there will be no problems. I firmly remember the "three-character classic" of this old Chinese doctor. Sharp-eyed, hard-working, children are also taken good care of from now on, and they don't like getting sick. Here, I would also like to introduce the experience I got from a female doctor in rehabilitation department in Xinjiang when I was a Canadian immigration doctor: I often massage my children, not only growing up, but also I don't like getting sick. She told me that the key parts are: the sides of ten fingers, palms and soles of feet: regular rubbing can dispel fire. Both sides of knee joint: promote blood circulation, supply articular cartilage nutrition and strengthen spleen. From the center of the top of the head to the end of the caudal vertebra: this is where the bladder meridian runs and promotes intellectual development. Later, I followed her method, which was very effective. I also summed up an experience myself: every time the child sleeps, put your hand behind the child's head and touch it all the way down from Dazhui. If you find that the temperature is higher than other places, such as Shu Fei, which corresponds to the lungs, then if the child has heat in his lungs, you must find a way to get rid of the lung fire; See if the stool is dry. If so, you have to have loose bowels, eat some lily porridge, cold lettuce, or drink some sesame oil and rock sugar water on an empty stomach. If the bladder temperature is high, you should drink plenty of water. You can cook some houttuynia cordata or dandelion properly to excrete damp heat through urine. "If you want your children to suffer less, being a mother is much more complicated." Think about it, is this the reason? However, on the other hand, even the kind of fatigue I mentioned above should be much easier than serving children with fever and illness. At least when you do these things I teach you, your mood is cheerful, which not only prevents diseases, but also promotes the parent-child relationship with your children. Moreover, no mother, even if she can endure hardships again, is willing to bear the crime of watching her children suffer and torturing her soul! Who will "put out the fire" for the baby? Once the mother learns to be a private masseur and finds that the child is angry, parents should "put out the fire" for the child in time. Liu Na recommended a set of massage methods for removing fire. "For children before the age of 8, massage is the best way. I remember a Chinese doctor said that the child is pure yang, and the medicine that can cure his illness is on him,' he has his own panacea'. My daughter has a caesarean section. I'm a doctor. I know that children born by caesarean section are particularly prone to congenital sensory impairment because they are not squeezed by the birth canal. I often give her a touch massage when the child is born. " 1, the specific method of chiropractic is: put your hand on the child's spine, where you feel hot, this place should be rubbed from bottom to top to remove the fire. Whether you love sick children or not, chiropractic twice a day can increase immunity. 2, massage Tianzhu point Some children are weak, how can parents make children with weak constitution stronger? There is a particularly good acupoint, Tianzhu. There are two tendons at the back of the neck, and Tianzhu point is just behind the bulge. Regular massage can stimulate this place. Do it often and the child's fire will go down. 3, scraping Dazhui point children often cough, there is lung heat. You can use a scraping board to scrape near Dazhui point, where there will be red tuberculosis. 4, massage Tiantu points Some children are particularly prone to bronchitis, love to cough, you can massage two points. One is where the child's second clavicle meets the shoulder joint. It can be pressed frequently, which is especially beneficial to prevent cough. The other is tiantu point, which is in the middle of clavicle. 5. Children in the middle of sandalwood have poor immunity. Before going to bed every night, take a soft dry towel and give him a sandalwood hole. /kloc-before the age of 0/4, the child's thymus is still working. Regular massage can make thymocytes more active and make the immune system stronger. 6, rubbing your fingers, parents are advised to send their children to kindergarten in the morning, or when walking, you can often lick the side of several fingers of your child. This corresponds to the child's digestive tract, which is very beneficial for removing fire, eliminating food accumulation and increasing immunity. The fingers are connected, and the communication between mother and child can also be transmitted by hand. 7. You can rub your feet for your child at night. There are two pieces of meat on the soles of your feet with a pit in the middle. This place is Yongquan point, which is the reflection area of the kidney, and the energy of the human body is poured out from this place. Always rub Yongquan point for children, the fire poison in the body will be discharged, and the body function will be healthier. Reminder: Close the doors and windows carefully when massaging. Liu Na reminded that when parents massage or scrape their children, they must be careful not to let them catch a cold. Because giving a child a massage or scraping is tantamount to promoting blood circulation, and the pores are open. At this time, wind evil will come in and aggravate the condition. The doors and windows of the room must be closed before treatment. For example, if the child has lung fever, press these two places for him more. The vitality of the child is hidden in this place. Parents often give him a rub, and the child will feel very comfortable. For these acupoints on the body, you can often stimulate them to make the meridians more accessible and make the immune system play a better role.