China people must learn to endure loneliness before immigrating to the United States.

New york's Friends, Sex and the City and How Your Mom and I Meet are too many American dramas. The friendship, fashion, love and excitement of money there make people feel that new york is the United States, and new york represents all the best things in the United States, just like the Statue of Liberty holding a torch to summon people ~

As a result, countless people yearn for new york.

However, new york is not the United States.

New york does not represent the United States. What we see in American TV dramas and movies has given us too many misunderstandings. America is not Las Vegas, nor is it a sleepless city.

Most American cities don't have so many restaurants, so many lively nights, so big Chinatown, so many shopping centers and less developed transportation systems.

In most parts of the United States, people always have dinner with their families after work and seldom eat out. Even if they get together with friends, they like to hold parties at home.

In most parts of the United States, people like to live in the suburbs, drive to work, enjoy a quiet life on weekends, cook and weed. Most parts of the United States, like Europe, are calm, conservative but free. In most parts of the United States, there is traffic during the day and silence at night.

Yes, most of America is boring, boring and depressing. However, even in a big city, you will find yourself alone most of the time.

If you like someone to accompany you every day, then America is not for you. Here, you should learn to cook alone, eat alone, entertain yourself alone, and friends are not on call, because everyone is busy with their own affairs and no one will care what you do. Even when you have something happy to celebrate, you may find that only you celebrate for you, which is indescribable.

Living in America needs a strong heart to cope with the loneliness and emptiness that come from time to time.

At first, you will be very unaccustomed. I feel that life in America is very different from what I imagined. Many friends say that you are really happy in America, eating and traveling with friends. But that's only a little time. Blogs can deceive people and only show the best part of life.

In real life, I spend most of my time at home, alone. If you record your life in China, you will find that life in China is much more lively and interesting, and there will be many friends and entertainment. In America, the circle of life is very small, and the most familiar friends are always Asians.

After a long time, you will adapt to a person's life, and you can watch the computer from morning till night.

But it is such a life that you can learn how to enrich yourself and realize that a full life has nothing to do with others.

Enriched, you don't need someone to eat and chat with you every day. You can also enrich yourself by reading books that you haven't had a chance to read before.

Enriched, no need to go out for parties or meetings every day. You can surf the internet alone to read all kinds of information, or you can be very substantial.

Life, here, gradually shows the truest state.

Here, you can wear strange clothes. People will look at you at most, but they won't point at you.

Here, you don't need to be the first in the exam, and you don't need to force yourself to find a well-paid or decent job for the envy of others.

You can be yourself here.

However, if you stay here for a long time, you will gradually become simple and even naive. After reading too many extreme reports of China, you will think that politicians in China are fools, and all businessmen in China are corrupt and immoral, and your views will become very general. And in this way, it means that it is difficult for you to turn back.

Countless people abuse on the internet, and countless people say that the internet has brought us democracy. We learn from Americans and express our views without fear. However, don't jump to conclusions about things you haven't experienced, people you haven't seen, and people who are not in that complex environment. What you see online is not necessarily true.

I was told that I want to go to the United States, because I feel that living in China is too tiring. China people hate the rich and bully the poor, and they like competition too much, which puts them in a dilemma. I admit, the domestic environment is very complicated. However, it is in such a complex environment that it is commendable to stand out.

Domestic success requires more forbearance and assessment of the situation, and more wisdom makes fools. Therefore, children born after 1980s and 1990s are not qualified to blame those who are in high positions without knowing how much others have suffered before they can become human beings.

At home, people are more willing to believe that the original accumulation of success is unclean, and they always feel that they have done better than him and are arrogant. Politicians should bear all kinds of responsibilities, even if a mine accident has no direct responsibility with them; Businessmen who do charity are also considered to donate too little. Everyone thinks that no matter how much money you have, you should donate.

This reminds me of the surging water I once saw. The hero in it once despised the director's actions, but when he climbed to the position of director after countless struggles and humiliation, he suddenly found that everything was forced. And the good things I want to do based on a good position are always changed by the people.

If you ask me what kind of life I like. I can only say that if I have children in the future, I will tell him that life is not easy. We didn't come to this world to enjoy it. When something goes wrong, use American wisdom to simplify complex things; In times of peace and prosperity, we should use the wisdom of China people to be prepared for danger in times of peace and complicate simple things.

I will tell him that when he is poor, he should use the American mentality and not envy the rich; If you have money, you should use the mentality of China people, hide your strength and bide your time, don't cause others' jealousy, and face it bravely.

I will tell him to learn to be alone and entertain himself with the American spirit of ah q, no matter what others say; We should also learn to live in groups and learn to respect, understand and be silent in due course. Don't complain easily, let alone be the one who abuses online.

Standing under Times Square, the neon lights reflected new york as white and noisy, but the heart was quiet. Learn to live a beautiful and full life.