Prospering rice nourishes kindness, fighting rice nourishes hatred.

There are two things in the world that you cannot look at directly, one is the sun and the other is the human heart.

—— Hobbes

When the news about the nanny’s arson incident in Hangzhou came out, many people shuddered, and it was so frightening and chilling.

There is an old saying that goes: "A favor with rice rises with hatred."

A young mother, three lovely children, and a family of four lost their lives in a normal day. There are no worries about hunger and thirst, no worries about food and clothing, a monthly salary of 7,500, a grocery cart to pick up and deliver, and a separate bedroom and bathroom in the hands of a nanny.

It is unimaginable how tragic it would be for a young mother and three immature children to lose their lives in the sea of ????fire in a long period of pain and fear.

My father, who was on a business trip abroad, escaped unharmed, but his beloved flesh and blood and that home could never return. He never expected that the person who ruined his life's happiness would be the nanny they had always taken care of and supported.

This is the real-life story of the farmer and the snake. I hope you will have enough food and clothing, but you will destroy my family.

The angel is smiling, the devil is in the world.

I believe that most people will be deeply saddened and shocked when they see this news. When thinking about the motivation of the behavior, they tried to guess the hatred of the rich and the contradiction, but they did not expect that it was to destroy the evidence of theft and silence them. .

If the human heart is not enough, then the snake will swallow the elephant.

The owner just lent the nanny 100,000 yuan to buy a house a month ago. From this, we can judge that there will be many unintentional favors in life.

However, the nanny frequently committed despicable thefts, and in the end, because her whereabouts were exposed, she destroyed the evidence and set fire to silence her.

There are always people who use their dehumanizing behavior to make you wonder, is human nature inherently good or inherently evil? The most hateful and terrifying thing is that they hurt the three views we have established over many years of growth.

This abnormal psychology is rooted in the "marginal effect of gratitude" and "the resentment of the loser."

"When a person takes the kindness of the other person for granted, that is, when he puts forward higher demands on the benefactor, if he is not satisfied at this time, his gratitude will diminish and forget your past. Everything is good; the most important thing is to do whatever it takes to reach the point of no return."

Examples of repaying kindness with hatred have existed since ancient times, and they are even more common in modern life.

There was a famine during the period of Duke Hui of Jin, which was a good opportunity for Qin to attack Jin. Duke Mu of Qin thought that the people of Jin were innocent, so he gave Jin grain. The plot reversed in the second year. Qin was famine. It was Duke Hui of Jin who came to power through Duke Mu of Qin. He not only refused the land he had promised to his benefactor, but also refused the food that Qin had saved his life.

Germany’s opening up to Syrian refugees has severely affected the German economy and people’s lives, but the Syrians angrily criticized us. If you don’t like us, you can immigrate to other places.

After Zhu Zhiwen, the big brother, worked hard and achieved some success, he built roads and kindergartens in the village. But one villager said: "If he wants me to say good things about him, he can buy a car for everyone in my village and give each person 10,000 yuan." Zhu Zhiwen has successively borrowed millions from the villagers, but so far no one has returned it.

This is the resentment of the incompetent: In the past, we were all growing crops in the same village. How come you sang a few songs and got rich and got rid of poverty, but I am still like this? ! Building a few roads is nothing! If you can, just give us the money. If you can, you can lend us money without us paying it back.

The psychology of the nanny in Hangzhou is even more distorted: "Your family lives in a mansion worth more than 20 million yuan and drives a million-dollar luxury car. What does it mean if I steal a watch from you? I will take a few pieces of jewelry to pawn. It doesn't hinder your life, so why can't you pretend to turn a blind eye? You have money, and you deserve it. "

This kind of face tells a truth, it is not his ability that determines whether a person is grateful. , and never probe his conscience.

A person who is not grateful is doomed to be a loser and is most likely to engage in extreme behavior.

In a sense, the story of the farmer and the snake was not that the farmer was too kind, but that he mistook the snake for a human being.

When a person repays kindness to the point of losing his humanity, you will understand his animal nature.

Therefore, the proverb goes well: Since ancient times, animals have been conquered, not fed.

Prospering rice cultivates kindness, fighting rice cultivates hatred.

But I still want to say that having a kind heart and the ability to selflessly help those who are not as good as yourself is a noble code of conduct. It is these good intentions that drive social progress. But many times, what we extend a helping hand to is cold hurt.

Today, what makes us suffer is not that the cost of doing good deeds has increased, but that there are more people like snakes, and the cost of destroying other people's happiness may be just a thought.

It’s not fair that rational people have to bear all the harm they cause. What's even more frightening is that it makes many people question the truth, goodness and beauty in life and full of doubts about human nature, which is even more unfair.

Kindness and kindness are the same in all things: for whom? Where? How to do it?

As the saying goes: Don’t be too nice to someone. There is also an old saying: There is more kindness than hatred. What we are talking about is the "measure" of doing things.

Raising wolves will cause harm, raising tigers will cause trouble; everything has its limits, and going too far is still not enough.

Even so, we still firmly believe in the beauty of the world. The haze in the sky in Hangzhou will soon fade away, and the warm sunshine will still shine on our lives.

May we all have a grateful heart.