Who knows some information about domestic violence?

Domestic violence is the most concerned issue for the public and scholars in recent years. Some people even think that domestic violence has become the norm rather than the exception because it is so common.

Although there are laws to protect women from abuse, domestic violence cases are rarely prosecuted unless they are seriously injured or fatal. Many abused women have lost the courage to sue and have to continue to maintain violent marriage relationships. Some people even go to extremes and think that only violence and murder can end this relationship. According to the 1994 marital quality survey sponsored by Beijing Marriage and Family Research Association, regardless of the degree and frequency, husbands beat their wives, accounting for 21.3%; 15.5% of wives beat their husbands. At present, China is holding a discussion on the countermeasures of domestic violence, confirming this crime of violence against women from the perspective of legislation and justice, and finding countermeasures to stop this behavior.

Many domestic violence phenomena were found in the investigation, including not only the husband beating his wife, but also the private prosecution of domestic violence against children and marital rape.

A divorced woman said, "He asked for a divorce, and if I didn't agree, he hit me. He is very cunning, which hurts me a lot, and the hospital's injury certificate is not enough. Later, I was beaten badly and had to agree to divorce. "

An intellectual woman who was beaten many times by her husband said, "I don't hate him because he hit me." He is a very weak person, and his grievances have nowhere to vent, so I became the object of his venting, but I don't blame him. He always tells people what a good wife I am. I asked him, have you ever told anyone that you hit me? " When we had a conversation, the lump on her face was still clearly visible. She said, "He hit me, but I ignored him and let him hit me without saying a word."

"For a while, he often lost his temper for a little incident and hit me once. He is prone to violence. "

A woman who was often beaten by her husband discussed the possibility of divorce with her good friends: "I asked many good friends, and they all advised me not to leave, saying that it was difficult to bring up children after divorce. My heart is too soft, I really want to leave him, but I am afraid that he will be sad. He hit me too. I forgave him as soon as he apologized. No matter how fierce the quarrel is, I won't hold grudges. "

In domestic violence, in addition to the husband's violence against his wife, there is also violence against his children: "When our son 16 years old, he beat his children for a trivial matter. He slapped his son, only an inch, with a perforated eardrum. From then on, my son looked down on his father, but he was particularly afraid of him. I don't know how to avoid him, but I can't avoid him. It feels particularly embarrassing to be sandwiched between them. "

Some women think that their sexual life should belong to the category of marital rape. A woman said, "I got married for a year and gave birth to a child." We often quarrel about taking care of the children, and our feelings are getting worse and worse. Neither is sex. He always seems forced. I think it is marital rape. For several years, he often hit me. If he wants to do it, but I don't want to, he will hit me and my nose will bleed. I don't know what can stop him, so I won't sleep with him. That's why he hit me, not for fun, but for real, and then he raped me. I feel ashamed. This situation lasted for six years. People at work saw me being beaten and asked him why he beat his wife. He said it was because I couldn't do housework. I was always black and blue during that time. "

This woman thinks her husband is a bit sadistic. She said, "He is very strong. I think he is a bit sadistic, but he denies it. He said, I didn't rape women outside.

He can't feel pleasure in tenderness, but can only vent in sadism. "The woman also laughed at herself:" I saw something worse in the magazine. A woman was tied up and beaten by her husband and burned cigarette butts. Compared with my feelings, it's not too bad. "

A survey shows that domestic violence is an unknown infectious disease and the main cause of women's injuries. In American domestic violence, 95% of the victims are women; In the life of American women, one in four people will suffer violence from their domestic partners; About 6 million wives are abused by their husbands every year; About 2,000 to 4,000 women are beaten to death every year; One-third of the time spent by American police is spent on domestic violence calls; 40% of all police injuries and 20% of deaths are the result of family disputes of the people involved; 60% of the murdered women died at the hands of acquaintances, and the most common situation is that separated and divorced women were murdered by men with traps; 20-30% of women hospitalized for injuries are injured by their sexual partners; 17% of pregnant women reported that they had been subjected to violence during pregnancy. A random sampling survey with a sample size of 2,000 people shows that in 1979, 16% of couples have violent behaviors (from slapping to real beating); During the whole marriage, on average, about 28% couples have violent behavior. A survey on the incidence of marital rape shows that in San Francisco, 12% of married women reported that they had been forced to have sex during their marriage. (Hite, pp. 400-407) In France, 2 million women are often abused by men; In Germany, 4 million women are abused by their husbands. A survey shows that husband's violence against his wife is very common in Jewish families. In fact, Judaism does not approve of domestic violence, but also advocates punishing the perpetrators and compensating the victims. An Israeli survey shows that the living environment of abused women is very similar to that of prisons: they are isolated from the world, the victims are isolated from the outside world, and they lose material and spiritual support from the outside world.

The case of an Indian woman exposed by the media aroused public concern: she was killed by her in-laws because her father could not pay the dowry after eight years of marriage. This case has made people understand the situation of violence against women in India. Domestic violence among immigrant women is also very serious. Thousands of South Asian women come to the United States every year, and their dreams of a new life are quickly destroyed by nightmares because of their husbands' abuse.

The difficult environment of this group makes it more difficult for these women to seek help than others.

But in the past 10 years, more than a dozen groups have been established to support South Asian women, and their wish is to care for and help these women.

Many people will ask: Why do these battered women continue to stay in violent families? The answer is that their self-confidence was destroyed by violence. Some surveys show that passive acceptance and insensitivity are typical characteristics of abused wives. Women often go through three stages when they get through: when they are beaten, they are surprised and try their best to dodge; Then feel scared and try to please her husband; Finally, I felt very depressed and hid and blamed myself. Once hitting people becomes a habit, the consequences may lead to death. The social consequences of wife's beating are not only injury and death, but also may be imitated by the next generation. The wife's beating is often accompanied by the child's beating and sexual assault; When the children grow up, this abused lifestyle may continue.

In recent years, the women's movement has paid more and more attention to the problem of violence against women, and people have explained the violence between men and women from different angles.

Liberal feminism and psychoanalysts regard violence as the abnormal condition of a few people; The explanation of social structure theory holds that violence is caused by frustration and depression caused by social class differences; Because some people in society can't achieve their goals, because of relative poverty and absolute poverty, because of poor housing and working environment, and because of lack of job opportunities, some people will become violent, so violence against women mostly occurs in the lower classes of society. Many feminists believe that violence is caused by unequal power relations. If statistics show that rapists are mostly acquaintances of women victims rather than strangers. Some scholars have suggested that the inequality between men and women in the family is directly related to domestic violence; If there are more families with equal husband and wife, domestic violence will definitely be greatly reduced.

Since the Nairobi Strategy put forward to combat violence against women, women in various countries have made active efforts, from women's education, shelters for battered women to the establishment of all-female police forces, and a global campaign against violence against women is booming. Many people suggested setting up a global network to put the issue of violence against women on the agenda of world human rights issues. This global network dedicated to solving the problem of violence against women will bring together the forces of social work, law, education, health and shelters for battered women to help battered women.

In terms of eliminating all forms of violence against women, the China government has taken the following measures: firstly, it advocates a social atmosphere of respect and care for women, opposes discrimination against women, and condemns and punishes all acts of violence against women; Second, improve the special, preventive and administrative laws and regulations and law enforcement supervision system to eliminate violence against women and realize the comprehensive legalization of women's human rights protection; Third, improve women's legal concept and legal awareness, improve their ability to safeguard rights according to law, and enhance women's ability to resist violence; Fourth, the government and non-governmental organizations should attach importance to and accept letters and visits from women, solve problems for women victims and safeguard justice. It can be expected that with the joint efforts of all sectors of society, the situation of female victims of domestic violence in China will be improved.

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