What should I do if my eloquence is not good? My brain is slow (let you gain quick thinking and reaction ability).

Imagine that you meet the following situation:

You attend a party and meet a customer asking about your company's products. At this time, your friend or colleague came over and casually said, "He doesn't know anything. What's the use of asking him?"

in the face of this "being exposed" situation, how should you handle this problem skillfully? It depends on your thinking ability and agility!

agile thinking is very important in oral expression.

People with good eloquence can improvise and skillfully solve problems no matter what happens, which is due to their keen thinking reaction.

This kind of "flexible eloquence" is a practical skill that everyone who studies eloquence should master. However, this kind of speaking skill is not innate and needs to be accumulated and trained.

If you want to make your thinking agile, you need to improve your coping ability. Basic requirements for coping with eloquence

To improve your ability to cope with eloquence, you must first understand the agile coping ability and what are its characteristics.

To put it simply, the characteristics of coping eloquence mainly include the following aspects:

1. When an external signal is touched, you can immediately improvise a language response;

2, to the point, the words that are answered can be concise and concise, and every sentence is on the point;

3, flexible, not rigidly adhere to a coping style, know how to adjust according to different situations;

From these points, we can see that the ability of agile thinking can be summed up as "fast, accurate and ruthless" in one sentence. Through appropriate responses, the "provocateur" can be silenced.

give two examples.

In a waiting room, a young man spat on the white wall. When others saw this, he said, "Big Brother, don't you know that you can't spit everywhere?"

"I know, but now I am throwing up on the wall, not on the ground." The young man argued.

"In that case, it seems that I can grasp the garbage in my hand and throw it to you. After all, I didn't throw it everywhere."

The young man was suddenly speechless.

There is also a famous joke about Goethe.

One day, Goethe was walking in Weimar Park. On a narrow path that only one person can pass through, I met a critic who had made a sharp satire on his works.

The critic said very insolently, "I never give way to fools."

At this moment, Goethe stood aside with a big smile and said, "I am just the opposite."

If the first story is a counterattack of language skills, then the second story combines some elements of action as an agile response.

In other words, a keen thinking response requires you to express it through both language and behavior. Only in this way can you cope with different difficult situations.

and to do this, you must first cultivate several abilities. The ability of agile thinking requires

If you want to develop agile thinking effectively, you'd better master some basic abilities.

There are about four abilities that play a fundamental role in agile thinking.

first, sufficient self-confidence.

the importance of self-confidence is self-evident.

When you have no self-confidence, you will have a tendency to escape or retreat from what is happening outside, and it is easy to passively accept those bad things.

On the contrary, a confident person will definitely take the initiative to think about coping strategies when they encounter problems. This is the core requirement of agile thinking.

whether you want to be a quick-thinking person or not, it will do you no harm to cultivate self-confidence.

second, stable willpower.

The ability to focus on our goals and adjust our actions and self-psychological expectations according to our goals is often willpower.

In the process of contingency thinking, willpower can enable you to maintain high and tenacious emotions in a more positive and proactive manner and deal with problems in a targeted manner.

If you are always in a state of negative and slack mood, hesitant attitude and psychological pressure, it will be difficult to focus on your goals as a response.

third, focus.

being able to mobilize our attention and focus on the problems that need to be solved is the first step for us to solve the problems successfully.

When you are distracted and confused, it is difficult for you to eliminate the interference from your surroundings and even your psychology. Through effective thinking, you can effectively judge and feedback the external information, so as to adjust your own coping measures.

as long as you are in a very acute state of consciousness, you will have active thinking to support your epiphany.

this is the importance of keeping attention.

fourth, smart creativity.

The expression of strain is a creative language activity. Since we want to "adapt", our thinking must be in a very active state.

Only in this way can you make different thinking forms, such as logical thinking, associative thinking, divergent thinking, convergent thinking, reverse thinking and so on * * * work in harmony, and let your brain generate come up with ingenious answers.

The characteristics of creative thinking, such as agility, fluency, originality and flexibility, are exactly the important characteristics of contingency thinking.

in that case, how can we cultivate them? Training methods of contingency thinking

There are "soft ways" and "hard ways" to train contingency thinking.

the so-called "soft way" is a way to improve thinking by thinking about different IQ questions or thinking questions and accumulating a certain degree of thinking experience.

Since chatting with others is the place where we use contingency thinking most in our daily life, it is a practical "hard way of training" to improve our contingency thinking by training our language ability.

We can use the way of training debate to train our thinking and reaction ability.

Among them, four practical training methods are:

1. Ask yourself and answer yourself;

2, ask and answer quickly;

3, shun language backchat;

4, misinterpret the answer;

if you train your language response ability in these four ways, you can basically deal with most of the conversation problems you encounter in daily life. Use active thinking of asking yourself and answering yourself

The so-called "asking yourself and answering yourself" means asking yourself some strange questions and then trying to answer them in different ways.

The use of this method is to activate thinking by building language barriers for yourself.

when you can adjust your thinking to answer these questions, or even "jump out" of the conventional way to answer questions, you will naturally be able to collide with sparks of thinking.

For example, try to ask yourself some unfriendly questions: Do you think you are an ugly person? How do you survive in this world with such a low IQ? As a poor man, do you have no ambition?

why do you ask yourself these questions?

Ordinary and ordinary questions, we are used to some kind of answer. And people's brains tend to use the most time-saving and trouble-free way to act, so ordinary and ordinary answers, the brain will naturally answer questions in our fixed way.

However, these "abnormal and unfriendly" problems leave the comfort zone of the brain, so that the brain will force itself to use new ways to deal with problems, thus activating our thinking response.

This way of asking and answering questions can play a role in training your own thinking.

Training requirements:

1. You must be able to "test yourself" and ask yourself questions from easy to difficult and from shallow to deep;

2. Give yourself a limited time to answer questions, such as completely answering questions within 3 seconds, so as to improve the response speed to questions.

3. It is best to record your answers with your mobile phone, and improve your answers by listening repeatedly until you are satisfied.

This training doesn't have to be done by yourself. You can also ask your friends to help you design some questions and try to answer them. Use quick questions and answers to force yourself to think

If "ask yourself and answer yourself" is to let yourself jump out of the inherent way of thinking to answer questions, then "quick questions and answers" means that no matter how you answer questions, as long as you can answer them immediately, you will be successful.

This training method can train our ability to "answer like a stream", and we can answer whatever others ask in an instant. This high-intensity thinking activity will force us to think about the answer in the shortest time.

after such training, our thinking activity will become a state of being alert to unexpected situations like conditioned reflex.

what are the training methods?

For example, idioms solitaire and Xiehouyu Jielong all belong to the category of quick questions and answers. But at the beginning of practice, it's best to start with yourself, take yourself as a topic, and design a series of questions according to your own situation. What kind of person do you think you are? What kind of life do you want to live? Is life bitter or sweet for you?

These questions are approached step by step from near to far, and the response time should not exceed three seconds. In other words, once a question is asked, you should immediately respond to it and give yourself a sense of urgency.

Training tip:

1. The most important thing is to be quick in answering. It is best for two people to train together, one person is responsible for asking and the other is responsible for answering. Whether you ask or answer, you can play a training role.

2. The length of the answer should not be too long. Answering it within five seconds is a quick question and answer. If it is delayed for too long, it will be unqualified.

3, there is no need to be too harsh on the answer, as long as you can get the answer to the point roughly, you can pass. To refute the other party according to the other party's language

The so-called "cross-examination" is to follow the other party's logic and construct a reverse meaning to counter the other party.

The two stories mentioned above are all examples of refuting each other's logic. The other person's language has implied his own thinking logic, and as long as we use this logic to make sentences, we can play a role in countering the other person.

This kind of training is a relatively advanced way of thinking, because we have to disassemble each other's logic first, and then we can "imitate sentences".

for example, there is a story.

The prime minister of a certain country was often asked impolitely by a reporter when he faced a reporter one day.

the female reporter asked, "I wonder what your thoughts are about women?"

The minister replied, "There were many ideas in the past. But since I saw you, I have no idea. "

the minister's answer is to follow the logic of the other party's "idea" and deny it, thus playing a role in countering the other party.

Therefore, in training, you can combine the method of "asking yourself and answering yourself", then ask yourself some "difficult" questions, and then follow the logic of the questions to fight back and answer.

q: have you always been so bad-tempered?

a: no! It's been like this since I met you!

q: as a poor man, what do you think of interpersonal relationships?

a: I won't associate with you when I have no money, and I don't want to associate with you when I have money.

q: I'm curious, how did your poor father train you into a "talent"!

a: I'm curious, too. How did your rich father make you a gangster?

Of course, if you answer quickly and can "hit the nail on the head", it means that your thinking response has been very agile.

If not, we should improve the training requirements, and train ourselves by asking and answering questions or answering questions quickly, and form a keen response by combining this method. Divergent thinking to misinterpret the meaning of words

Misinterpretation means not understanding words according to the original meaning of the other party. In daily life, this is a very useful coping skill.

Dad is scolding his son.

dad: how many times have I told you not to smoke behind my back?

son: I'm sorry, dad. I won't smoke behind your back in the future. I will smoke in front of you.

This son misinterpreted the original meaning of the word "carrying" in his father's mouth into what he understood. Father means "don't cheat him into smoking secretly", while son means "smoke aboveboard".

this kind of misinterpretation training method can broaden our thinking of seeing problems and activate our thinking of solving problems, thus improving our thinking response ability.

As for how to train, you can watch some jokes related to misinterpretation, so as to cultivate your "sense of language".

For example, when you see the sentence "We can be friends because we hit it off", think about the following, where can we misinterpret it?

of course, it is "congenial". You can misinterpret it as a homonym and say, "Really? It seems that Doraemon must be our good friend. After all, his head is round! "

Another example is "poverty cannot be moved", which is now misinterpreted by many people as "poor people cannot emigrate", which is a misinterpretation of meaning.

As long as you do this training regularly, your thinking reaction will definitely become very active.

Training requirements:

1. Read jokes and try to analyze what skills are used to "make us laugh", no matter whether the joke is funny or not.

2, according to the skills learned, try to use this skill to imitate the same situation and see if you can skillfully use them.

keep training yourself in these four ways, and your thinking and reaction ability will naturally become faster and faster.