Can a person's character depend on his attitude towards things?

As the saying goes, a leopard cannot change his spots. Is personality innate and unchangeable for life? Actually, it is not.

It is necessary to understand personality first, and then understand personality. Personality, sometimes called personality in psychology, is a unique behavior pattern, thinking pattern and emotional response characteristics in the interaction between a person and the social environment, and it is also one of the characteristics that distinguish a person from others. Therefore, personality is manifested in thinking ability, cognitive ability, behavioral ability, emotional response, interpersonal relationship, attitude, belief, moral values and so on. Generally speaking, the formation of human beings is related to biological genetic factors, but personality is produced in a certain social and cultural background, so it is also the product of social culture.

Psychologically speaking, personality includes two parts: character and temperament. Personality is a psychological characteristic of a person's stable personality, which is manifested in his attitude towards reality and corresponding behavior. On the positive side, people's attitudes towards reality include loving life, pursuing honor, being loyal to friendship and love, caring and helping others politely, and hating evil. People's behavior towards reality is dignified, gentle, unrestrained and humorous. The combination of people's attitude towards reality and behavior patterns constitutes a unique personality that distinguishes one person from others. On the question of personality, Engels once said that a person's personality is not only reflected in what he does, but also in how he does it. What a person does shows what he pursues and refuses, which reflects his attitude towards reality. What a person does shows his pursuit and reflects his behavior towards reality. Personality essentially shows people's characteristics, and temperament seems to give personality a color and a mark. Temperament refers to the characteristics of people's psychological activities and behavior patterns, which endows people with brilliance. They are also people who love labor, but people with different temperament behave differently: some people are quick but rough, and may be courageous; Some people are meticulous and slow-heating, which may be sticky. Temperament and character thus constitute personality.

Character can be shaped.

Some people talk about personality and say it has something to do with genetic factors. It is said that you are born with a long temper and can't change it. In fact, it's not entirely true. There is a British psychologist named Eisenko, who advocates personality latitude in personality theory. One extreme of latitude is extroversion and the other extreme is introversion, so there are many grades between latitudes. He thinks that people who are extremely introverted and extroverted are a minority, and most of them are comprehensive, either introverted or extroverted. The emergence of Eisenko's theory of personality latitude has a great influence on the psychological field, so we think that personality can move in latitude.

In recent years, Japanese scholar Yozo Hasegawa believes that personality can be changed through behavior. This puts forward new tasks for our psychotherapy and children's education: to cultivate people's good behavior, especially children's, and help them change their personality weaknesses; We should cultivate character in our daily life. When children are young, it is the golden age to cultivate good character.

Personality is slowly shaped in childhood, and psychologists have done "emotional deprivation experiment": divide the little monkeys born together into two groups, one group is fed milk in an iron cage, and there is nothing; The other group made a fake mother out of plush, and they could play on the fake mother after eating the milk. The experimental results show that when the monkeys grow up slowly, the group without fake mother is less courageous, irritable, unsociable and difficult to get close to others. The group with fake mothers is just the opposite, not timid, gregarious and easy to get close to people. This shows that deprivation of maternal love in infancy, especially in childhood, will distort their personality and cause bad behavior and personality performance. The experiment of emotional deprivation shows that it is very important to cultivate children in a good psychological environment in infancy to form a good personality.

Secondly, parents and other family members have a great influence on the formation of children's personality. For example, a mother is obsessive-compulsive disorder. She has twins. When she comes back from kindergarten, she always washes her face and feet immediately and puts them on the bed to prevent them from touching the children in the neighbor's house. She is a neat freak and afraid of getting dirty. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is produced on the basis of perfect personality, which is called obsessive-compulsive personality in medical psychology. The defects of this character are reflected in loving thinking, being suspicious, being very disciplined in doing things, often worrying too much, always lacking security and pursuing perfection. Therefore, if this personality is stimulated by some psychology, it is easy to induce obsessive-compulsive disorder. If children are raised like this from an early age, it is likely that children will become obsessive-compulsive disorder patients in the future.