The biggest misunderstanding of social phobia —— Solving social phobia with theory (II)

This document is for all social phobia patients and psychologists all over the world.

Hello, I'm An Feng.

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I used to have serious social phobia and stuttering phobia for more than 20 years. Later, without anyone's help, I successfully got rid of the psychological obstacles that have plagued me for many years, and sublimated my direct experience of success into a set of professional skills dedicated to solving social phobia and improving self-confidence. The name is "Anfeng Beyond Technology". My present job is to help people who used to have all kinds of social fears like me overcome social fear obstacles, build self-confidence and surpass themselves.

One: Why is social fear called a world problem by psychotherapy?

In the first part of the article, we discussed the reasons behind many psychotherapy circles that social phobia is difficult to solve. I'm sure you already know something about this. That's because: realistically speaking, those counselors in psychotherapy lack direct experience of social fear self-transcendence, so without experience, there is no effective technology, let alone solving the problem of social fear! An Feng has always had a view that a real social fear instructor and a real social fear experiencer should not only use theory and technology to coach the troubled, but also use him to fully influence the help-seekers.

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What does he usually do,

His usual words and deeds, every move, every smile,

Every expression, every movement,

His manners,

His manners,

His little universe,

His spirit,

His soul,

His sincerity ... infected those who sought help.

Only in this way can social terrorists really change! It's a bit like teaching by example is more important than words. Obviously, there is no such person in psychotherapy. What kind of person? Of course, it is a successful person who transcends social fear or stuttering and transcends himself! Therefore, without real psychotherapy experience, it is difficult to solve the problem of social fear stuttering. This is why social phobia and stuttering are called "world problems" by psychotherapy!

No experience, no experience, no understanding!

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For example, an expert who plays antiques can say that he has a good idea about antiques, but if you ask him to speak 5G, he may not understand. It is easy for us to feel directly from his state that he is not good at it. For example, a marriage and family counselor who has experienced various ups and downs in marriage and finally achieved a happy and sweet marriage life will make him very professional!

Therefore, being good at, understanding and being professional must come from the direct experience of success!

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Imagine this:

Will you find a master of ceremonies who has never presided over a wedding and only read relevant books to preside over your wedding?

I have only seen that the first requirement for a wedding company to recruit a wedding master is more than 200 wedding hosting experience!

Will you find someone who has never been in boxing before and just read relevant books to teach you boxing?

I've only seen fake experts who have never been in the ring get hit by opposing fighters for a second, KO!

Will you find someone who has no experience of transcending social fears at all, but has read psychological books to help you overcome social fears?

I've only seen counselors who don't understand social phobia, killing the youth and life of social terrorists with chicken soup!

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How does a counselor who has only learned a little psychological knowledge understand social fear? These are completely two areas.

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Very objectively speaking, very realistically speaking, there was no professional technology to solve social phobia in the world before Anfeng's transcendence technology was born.

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Two:? Classification of problems

Psychotherapists, they know nothing about social fear! It seems that they don't even understand the most basic problems of social fear. Their understanding of social fear is only superficial! In fact, not only psychological counselors, but also social phobia itself do not understand social phobia. Do you believe it or not? Let me ask you a few questions,

The first question:

If you can't do a math problem, what will you do? I will think hard or look up information until I finally figure out this math problem, and the problem will be solved, right? Yes! Because math problems are just math problems and math problems are just theoretical problems, this problem only stays at the theoretical level. When the theory is clear, the thinking is clear, and the math problem is clear, the problem will be solved naturally.

The second question:

What would you do if you bought a spinning bike online and needed to assemble it when it arrived? ? Can you assemble a spinning bike just by thinking and thinking? Certainly not, because after all, you have no psychic powers, and you can't control matter with your mind, right? So what should we do? Yes, you must assemble and perform by hand, right? ! Definitely not, definitely not. Not only do you have to read the instructions, but you also have to figure out the structure of the car and install it automatically, right? For this problem, you can understand it after thinking, explain it clearly, and only the theory is clear. But has your problem been solved? Not really! Because after all, the car is still falling apart. Want to assemble spinning bike, the theory only solves part of the problem, a small part! Because after all, even this spinning bike is not assembled in your mind! Because this is a specific problem.

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There is a third question:

If you are as thin, thin and thin as I used to be, you are not satisfied with your figure. Because of my poor figure, I feel inferior because of my poor figure. If you want to have confidence in your body, what will you do? Do you read bodybuilding books? For example, magazines such as Health and Beauty and Mr. Bodybuilder? Think about these two books. I should read it secretly from around 14, then buy it blatantly, and then I will buy every magazine that I must read! For the sake of health and beauty, I forgot to eat and sleep, dreaming of Mr. Bodybuilding. I dream of having Schwarzenegger's physique!

I will study the articles in the magazine with my heart,

I will browse the pictures in magazines with my heart,

But I'm still not satisfied with my figure. As before,

I am still deeply moved by my thin body.

Actually, the reason is too simple.

Because ... my figure won't change because I read fitness magazines!

(The above rhymes are purely improvisation. )

So how can we gain body confidence? The child will know! If you want to gain self-confidence, you can't just read magazines, articles, pictures and theories! You have to walk into the gym and touch the fitness equipment in person to change your figure. Only when your body changes will you have confidence in your body! Is the reason simple? Too simple, isn't it?

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In fact, the truth of social fear is really the same!

It's just that as soon as we encounter the simple "complex problem" of social fear, everyone is fooled by those psychological chicken soup and can't find the north!

Nothing, please follow my train of thought and continue walking!

Let's look at the fourth question:

What would you do if you wanted to overcome your fear of speaking? On the basis of the first three questions I raised, everyone must understand this time: it is very foolish to hope to gain eloquence by reading books such as speeches!

An Feng has a super speech over 1000! It's no exaggeration, I can talk to any master PK! But I almost never read books like speeches. Eloquence training, teaching you to speak, I don't care about books like this and that. The only book about speech I bought was written by the founder of TED Speech, and I was attracted by a title called TED Speech when I was wandering around Taobao. There is no denying that the name of this book is good, and the name attracted my 0. 1% attention. So I bought this book by hand while browsing.

I read this book carefully after I bought it home, and found that the author's point of view is very similar to the scenery I experienced along the way, such as his point of view: speech = chat and so on. I used to think that speech equals chat. Chatting with an open mind is a state of speaking. But as far as I'm concerned, I don't agree with some of his views. For example, he said in his book: the highest state of speech is impromptu speech. But in my opinion, impromptu speech is by no means the highest state of speech! Although I mistakenly thought that impromptu speech was the highest realm of speech a long time ago, when I experienced more than 1000 super speeches, I had a new understanding after I experienced the battlefield. The highest realm of speech is a higher level than impromptu speech: soul speech! Yes! Soul speech is a concept I put forward!

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With all due respect, I don't think the founder of the TED talk has a high understanding of this talk! I also think traditional speech is not a good training!

So you see, even the founder of TED talk, whom many people admire, has a wrong understanding of the way of speaking, not to mention Xiao Bai, who has never been on stage and has zero stage experience and is afraid of speaking. How many books have you read about speeches before you can understand them? Pupils will not believe it! However, many social terrorists will believe this question! !

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? The above examples can fully illustrate that a theory "An Feng transcends science and technology" divides the world's problems into three types.

They are: 1? Theoretical question 2? Realistic question 3? Go deep into the problem

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Simple can be understood as:

Problems that can be solved by theory are called theoretical problems.

Specific things that happen in real life need to be solved by actions, which is called specific problems.

For example, social fear, speech fear, self-confidence, inferiority, self-acceptance and so on all belong to-deep problems!

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Chairman Mao said that if you want to know something, you must have direct and positive contact with it!

In other words, if you want to solve a problem, if you want to fix a thing or a person, you must at least get to know him first! The reason why some confused people are drunk and dreaming about the steel straight man posing as a sister at the other end of the network. The reason why I was cheated, played with by feelings or not turned back by others is to marry them and go home alive. Isn't that because I haven't seen their true colors, contacted them directly and didn't know them? Just like spring in Tik Tok.

What is the difference between this and the fantastic fantasy that social terrorists hope to solve social fears with theory (invalid theory)?

How do you know if you haven't really touched it?

How can you understand it without direct contact?

How can you understand it without direct contact?

How can you understand without direct contact?

Three? Why do some people with social phobia think that theory can solve social phobia?

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On the one hand, my job is to help others "go beyond the safety of science and technology", on the other hand, it is also to let more people know "go beyond the safety of science and technology". As "An Feng transcends technology" is more and more understood and recognized by people, many people have understood a simple and profound truth: solving social fears with theory (invalid theory) is the biggest misunderstanding! Then, why do many social fears have to be so backward and stubbornly believe that theory (invalid theory) can solve social fears? The fundamental reason is, of course, human nature's pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of suffering, as well as the timidity and inferiority of social terrorists to escape! But there is another angle that can reflect and explain this point more clearly.

Everyone knows the law of attraction, which means that people with similar gas fields will attract each other. To put it bluntly, people are grouped.

Social phobia The reason why people think that theory (invalid theory) can solve social phobia is actually their deep-rooted mistake-solidifying thinking, namely:

The key to psychological problems is cognitive deviation-cognition is theory-theory changes when learning cognition-and psychological problems are solved when cognition changes.

Is that what you think? Ha ha ha ha ha!

Remember! The cognition in the book is the cognition of others! Not your perception! The direct experience of others is only your indirect experience, which is clearly stated in Mao Zedong's theory of practice! If you know him, you must contact him! Optical contact is not enough, but also correct contact! Can you read and listen to books at home?

Key point: Did you listen? Books and theories are not right at all!

Go ahead.

So where did their inherent ideas come from? Psychotherapy, of course. Where does psychotherapy come from? Of course it was developed by people. Who developed it? Think about it. ......

So far, in fact, the last article has been introduced.

Fourth, solve the level and realm of social fear.

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In An Feng's view, the change of social fear can be divided into three levels, three levels and three realms.

Bottom: no technology.

Psychotherapy theory belongs to this level, and even the theory is wrong. So those poor people who believe in psychotherapy don't even know what social phobia is in theory!

Higher level: ineffective technology

The practice of psychotherapy, let nature take its course and make progress every day, life is king. This is the level. Stupid!

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Higher level: effective technology

This is obviously one level higher than the previous two levels. Help-seekers can learn effective theories and take effective actions. We call this level "understanding". This is what our online class helps everyone achieve-get rid of social fear!

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The highest level: the right technology

This realm is the highest realm, the highest realm, the highest realm! Only those who are troubled can make correct actions and social contacts. This level is called "comprehension".

This is the professional level that only Anfeng can reach beyond science and technology! Only at this level can you truly feel what is social fear, what is beyond social fear, what is self-confidence and what is freedom! Only in this way can we reach the highest level-beyond social fear!

Let's see, in fact, the first two levels are called chicken soup. Chicken soup actually refers to invalid theories and actions, as well as useless unprofessional technology. The essence of chicken soup is actually a placebo! It was reasonable to be comforted at that time, but it still didn't work after that, because you haven't changed at all! Do you remember a sentence? No matter how beautiful the invalid theory is, it's nothing!

Therefore, chicken soup is a mistake, and chickens ruin people!

Remember,

The connotation of chicken soup is an invalid non-professional theory!

Chicken soup is essentially a placebo!

The consequences of chicken soup are misleading and destructive!

Many people lost their youth because of chicken soup, wasted a lot of energy and consumed too many lives! But the vast majority of help seekers don't know how to identify chicken soup, and they have no discernment. But An Feng likes to tell the truth, to tell the truth, here An Feng wants to expose the true face of chicken soup! So I'm here to tell you how to cook chicken soup at home. How to identify chicken soup? An Feng told everyone: Remember! For social fear, the carrier of chicken soup is actually psychotherapy and chicken soup line.

In fact, for the problem of social phobia, psychological chicken soup is nothing at all ...

Objectively speaking, social phobia should not be solved by psychotherapy!

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Seeing this, some friends may ask, is chicken soup really not helpful for social fear? It should be understood that psychotherapy theory is only a psychological theory, not a social fear theory, and no theory is right. Do you think it will help? A patient is going to see a doctor in rheumatology immunology department. Will he go fishing in the pond?

If we have to give a specific effect ratio, I think the effect of psychotherapy on social fear is less than 5%! And it takes a long process, which is a fact!

Say it again: psychotherapy theory is just psychotherapy theory, not social fear theory!

Due to the influence of psychological culture for a long time, some confused people all over the world still mistakenly believe that psychotherapy is the solution to social fear, while learning theory, consulting and listening to online classes are the solutions to social fear. But it doesn't matter, it's gratifying that An Feng beyond technology really helped too many people who were troubled by social fear to transcend social fear! Upgrade your life! This road, this real road to help others, I will go forward step by step! Because An Feng knows what social fears need!

Remember, the ineffectiveness theory can't help people get rid of social fears! Surpassing social fears depends on professional skills!

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Beyond social fear, upgrade Superman for up to 5 days!

Beijing, July 2, 2020