Are all those so-called dating sites deceptive?

There are two kinds of dating websites:

One is the so-called regular website represented by Lily and Zhenai, which is actually full of routines;

This kind of website does not cost money to register and verify, but does verify the identity (the kind that physical stores will verify). Zhenai will call you as soon as he registers, verify his identity, and then praise you for your good conditions. Why didn't you find it? It is easy to find. He has one that suits you very well. If you don't go to a physical store, you will be charged. If you are invited to a physical store, you will be told that you don't need money first, and you will be invited to have a look first. Then after you go, I will take you to a separate room for "marketing". The teacher who invited you and the teacher who talked to you were not the same person, so basically it is best to let you spend less 18888.

A friend of mine started to pay more than 20,000 yuan in Yaohan store in Pudong, but didn't introduce him. Later, I continued to pay 20,000. It is still in service. During the period, the marketing staff also tricked her into going to the physical store to cooperate with other male members, and took photos of her and saved them in the mobile phone to attract male members to pay. In fact, the conditions between them do not match. Male members didn't meet my friend's requirements, but the marketers and male members didn't tell me my friend's real requirements, so that they believed that they met my friend's requirements.

I (male) paid more than 9,000 yuan myself, and I got a discount thanks to my friends, but it was Shanghai, and I didn't settle in Shanghai, so I left without anything suitable.

As for someone who greets you online, you log in to the software, and the system prompts the other party to say hello. People click without reading your information at all, and then you have to pay the members if you want to watch the news.

This kind of website is reliable, successful, and of course deceived;

As for cheaters, all marriage platforms have cheaters, such as rice trays, basket trays, stock trading and futures. But this is not a platform behavior. Some platforms have limited energy and cannot be verified one by one. Everyone should be careful and face up to themselves. How did Fu Shuai and Bai, with such good conditions, fall in love with me? Most of these encounters with obvious gaps are pits.

The second category is some unknown dating apps. This app advertises everywhere, and all the people who greet you are robots, so I tricked you into joining the club. There are many such platforms, which are dedicated to cheating membership fees. Starting a software company to do this system for many customers belongs to earning IQ tax. I introduced this app in an article.

Blind date is a hard demand now. I haven't been in love since I was 28. I can see that I am as anxious as everyone else, but I still have to be alert to the potholes on the blind date road. I hope everyone will eventually have love, so there is no need to discuss this topic again.

As an old aunt who has used zhenai and other N dating websites and finally got a positive result, I want to share my experience in three dating websites (serious face ~ cherishing lily and so on are really a lot of liars). )

1, Zhenai (20 16.3-20 16.7) I originally used Zhenai because it is famous. (Lily. com and Jiayuan both know that because they are traditional wedding products, they think about it almost the same, so they choose to cherish it. )

Let's talk about the advantages of cherishing first. As a dating website established for more than ten years, zhenai has many advantages. First of all, it is an old brand with great fame. According to the official introduction, zhenai now has 3000+ matchmakers and 65438+400 million+registered members. To know that the adult single population in China is only 200 million+,let's not discuss how much water there is in this data. Relatively speaking, it is an indisputable fact that zhenai has many members in marriage and love products.

Secondly, because of zhenai's cooperation with famous marriage TV programs such as Lianliankan and One in a Hundred, her popularity has been greatly improved. Besides the offline matchmaker business, zhenai's matchmaker has been trained to understand you and your mate selection needs in a short time and match the corresponding object for you. The matchmaker will also help you enlighten your psychological problems. I was depressed when I couldn't find a boy for the third time in a row, but the matchmaker enlightened me and gave me confidence.

Let's talk about shortcomings first. Tell the truth, Cherish. Com is a big one, but its disadvantages are also obvious. In fact, it is easy for people to find them on the Internet, and these traditional websites are not very good. For example, many places cost money, and online membership costs 399 yuan a year. If you want to send or read letters to others, you must be a member. At that time, as an online member, I was filled with joy. Later, I found it useless for you to be a member, because the other party can't read your letter like a member, and there will be many people who are obviously alcoholics and liars coming to you online. Of course, the most annoying thing is actually those wine trays and liars that can't be seen at a glance. They will waste your feelings and time. ....

On the second day of becoming a member in 2008, I received a phone call from the matchmaker, saying that someone had taken a fancy to me and said that we were suitable (later I learned that it was some of their routines that boasted me to heaven), so I went to their physical store. When I went to the store, the matchmaker first got to know my specific situation and told me to do offline business with a package of 108000 yuan. 65438+ ten thousand yuan is too expensive. I got up and wanted to leave at once. The matchmaker immediately said that there were other packages (later I calmed down and felt that they were actually testing my psychological price). After I was left, I talked for more than two hours. Later, I listened to the advice of the matchmaker. I think it is worthwhile to spend some money and find a suitable person for a lifetime. I can try, so I set up a two-month 8888 package.

Later, I went to a meeting. I met five boys back and forth, and two boys were not suitable. After meeting, there was no following. I thought the other three were all wrong. For example, one of them: the matchmaker said that the other person is an undergraduate and a civil servant, but judging from my words and deeds, I really don't think he has been to college! Besides, when talking with him about college life, he always prevaricates and changes the subject.

I'm not discriminating against low academic qualifications, but at least honesty can't be achieved. What's the need to keep in touch?

2. One-week CP (two weeks in the autumn of 2065438+06) Next, let's talk about a young official WeChat account (strictly speaking, it's not marriage) that I used for a short time: one-week CP. Although I didn't find anyone here, I met a lovely little brother.

First of all, the advantages: very creative, that is, randomly matching a heterosexual from all over the country to add to the WeChat group. The host in the group publishes the task, and you and he get to know each other after completing the online task for a week. For example, the daily task is like this: the first day: introduce yourself in a paragraph as detailed as possible (where people are interested); The next day: two people take selfies and give each other cups, surrounding buildings, the sky, etc. Use them in daily life and then put them together; The third day: sharing a heartbreaking music and a movie with each other ... This mode is quite interesting, so that people who can't chat will not be embarrassed, and it

Disadvantages are: the matching objects are random, the age is random, and the region is random. These people have nothing to enter the threshold. Once we had an interesting chat, and it turned out that my (then) 27-year-old aunt was actually 18-year-old brother. It was this lovely little brother who told me that their whole class was playing this game. ...

In addition, each task takes a week, because the work is busy, so it will be a bit cumbersome to do the task every day. If I were a college student, I would definitely go to play haha.

3. Right person (2016.10-2017.11) This is the last marriage and love product I used. My husband and I met here. Similarly, let me talk about its advantages first. This is a social platform for marriage and love based on workplace certification, which actually has many advantages. First of all, it is free, and there is no charge for registering vip.

Secondly, there must be workplace certification, that is to say, the people who have been certified above are all people with companies and units. I use Alipay's social security+my work number plate as the verification method. It seems that I can also use the corporate email to verify it. Because of this threshold, almost all the people I met on it are seriously looking for someone to get married (I have never met a liar), and I think most of them have a bachelor's degree or above.

I thought this platform was good at that time. I introduced a friend who works as an intermediary to the shelves. My friend said he was rejected because his career didn't match the platform tonality. Also, there will be some circles above them, such as Alibaba circle, Netease circle, returnees circle and so on. And there are many singles in large Internet companies such as iQiyi, JD.COM and Ctrip, as well as state-owned enterprises and institutions such as banks (my husband found me in the returnee circle haha).

Similarly, let's talk about its shortcomings.

First of all, there is no APP on this platform. It is only operated on the official WeChat account, and sometimes it will get stuck when playing. Secondly, because they are only open in first-tier cities and second-tier cities. Hangzhou and Shanghai were the earliest open cities with many people. I am in Hangzhou area. In recent months, Beijing, Guangzhou, Shenzhen, Tianjin, Nanjing and other cities seem to have opened recently (because I don't need them anymore, and I don't know the detailed latest status). There is also that when they register for certification, it is actually more troublesome. It took me a while to upload my social security ID card, and now I don't know if there is any improvement. The face on the platform will be blocked. If you want to see each other, you need to use their currency "dog food", but it is not expensive. You can meet a person in 90 minutes, and you will send it online every day to do tasks, which is troublesome.

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Recently registered the members of Zhen Ai and Lily. Lily bought a matchmaking service for three months, waiting for the result. A few years ago, I spent more than 30,000 yuan in membership fees in zhenai, but I got nothing. I am disappointed, so I will not consider the offline payment service in zhenai for the time being.

Explain why I use lily net. Just by explaining a few common questions.

Question 1: Are dating websites reliable?

The market with asymmetric information needs professional consultants.

If you want to sell a house, will you let your relatives and friends introduce the buyer? No, because the information in the real estate market is too large and the information is very asymmetric. You must find an intermediary to find a buyer as quickly as possible.

The same is true of finding a wife. The person who can finally prove that she is willing and able to accompany me for a lifetime, there is a huge information asymmetry between me and her, and it is too slow to rely on introduction.

Question 2: Why can't friends introduce you? Look at ABCDE. It's all introduced by friends.

I am not very good at dealing with people.

When I went to college, I didn't know how to get along with girls at all, which was the late stage of straight male cancer. After some failures, I learned how to chat up girls and date the devil teacher on Douban, and controlled my straight cancer cells. Until now, although I know how to control cancer cells, if I forget to control them in a few cases, straight male cancer will still bring a lot of influence to me and people around me.

Now, I have learned many ways to get along with people in the stumbling all the way, and I am still learning. In my bones, there is still a room where my unsuccessful feelings in the past are kept. There is a platform for matchmaking between men and women, which is very valuable to me.

Question 3: Seeing that your conditions are quite good, can't you find a girl at ordinary times?

1. This is mentioned in the first paragraph of question 2. I don't want to just "fall in love", but I want to find someone to live my life. Please note that I didn't say I wanted to find someone to "get married", but "experience life". Some people and things I contacted in the past let me know that marriage is not the end, but the starting point. Some people are divorced, and some people exist in name only although they are married-I don't want to be those people. A truly happy marriage and family is not common.

Therefore, I must make sure that the girl I am with today has the "potential" to walk with me all my life. Believe me, not everyone has this potential.

I am 27 years old. Not everyone at my age thinks the same about marriage. If I just look around, it is not easy for me to find a girl who thinks the same way as me "quickly" and "accurately". Marriage website is a platform with a large amount of data, which can help me find it faster.

3. Some friends will say: Who do you think is young and beautiful? How nice and easy to get along with.

I have repeatedly said that young and beautiful girls can arouse my physiological reaction, but my experience tells me that these things are not all, so I will not be nice to a girl just because she is young and beautiful.

4. Is it sour when I say that grapes are not eaten? Not exactly. I have a particularly beautiful girlfriend, or a girlfriend who is very kind to me, which makes others envy me. I have experienced all these things, but I finally separated from them; In the early years, I had a little romantic relationship with beautiful women because of more fitness and good figure. So when I say that being young and beautiful is not the only thing I value, I know the sweetness of grapes, but there are many sweet grapes, which is not the most precious quality of grapes.

Question 4: I think your conditions are not bad either. Is there any other purpose to go to the dating website?

No, it's actually a question of finding a wife.

Question 5: You are still young. What's the hurry?

Because I didn't want to be that kind of boy, I didn't get married until I was in my thirties, and I didn't find a partner until I was in my twenties, hoping to find a partner. The greater the age gap, the lower the probability that I can find a partner. I can accept it, but I didn't find it difficult until I was in my thirties. But I can't accept that I stopped looking.

I'm Liu Da, Baidu "foreverliuda", and you can see my personal website. Welcome to communicate.

The website is a platform, and the key lies in people. Where people are, there are rivers and lakes. Do you dare to say that exploring Mo Mo didn't really make friends? Tell me about my experience, and count it as several blind dates. To tell the truth, men seldom get married with sincere friends, and they start to fight when they meet. A man said that they are now focusing on efficiency in a fast pace. Who do you think has time to get along in college? When you get to the society, you have to understand that everyone is busy, and the result is. I don't know why some chats disappear as soon as they meet. I think some of them said "don't bother the liar". Seriously, I'm not unreasonable, but I don't know what you think when you treat others sincerely. I'm still on the website, and I can't help but have no friends and no circle of friends. I'm sure there are still prospective clients who want to get married. Maybe I haven't met them yet. Let me find them quickly!

Fate. Com is the biggest liar, netizens should be careful! I was cheated, 200 yuan. Before you joined the membership, dozens of people greeted you every day. If you want contact information, you must join the membership. I paid 100 yuan for three months' service. When you confirmed your purchase by phone, the system asked you to press the button repeatedly, and 200 yuan was deducted at once. I believe many netizens have been cheated in this link, forget it. Strangely, when you started membership, people who used to greet you came at once. I haven't heard from you. I've all gone back to the funeral. You have been a member for half a year, and no one has said hello to you. I'll buy you a wreath as this 200 yuan! I hope you can take this as a warning and remember the "friendship network"!

Professionals answer your questions. From the perspective of these website owners, the original intention is good. However, the original intention belongs to the original intention, and the economic interests belong to the economic interests. Enterprises can't play at a loss with themselves. You should be able to understand what the following staff will do.

Many people are single, not because of the circle, not because there is no one, but because they can fall in love.

If you don't believe me, you can think about your past. Did you not find the right person, or did you get the right person? You can't come or the negotiation broke down.

Giving money to a place like that is like spending money on comfort. Can't you find it yourself?

If you can't fall in love, give you 10 people, and you are still single.

Most websites are mature, and what they care about is no longer the success rate of matching, but the problem of making money. Therefore, after most of the registrations, the customer service calls to pay a return visit, that is, all kinds of tricks recharge the members, and all kinds of robots send you information online just to make you spend money to read the information, which is too fake. Some of them are just a p, so the older websites go astray. To say that there must be members, after all, so many advertising resources must be single, but after being fooled, few people care about this website, which belongs to a beat for a place. You can consider some relatively new dating websites, which may be a little better, but my website may be slower! Covenant of love

I don't think so. Look at fate. It's better to be cautious. You can not disclose personal information first, just chat and continue if you feel that you can get along. My partner and I met online. We had never met before. I didn't use my smartphone at that time. There seems to have been such a joke on qq. I can't remember clearly. I was in Jinan at that time, and my husband met me in Mingshui. We thought we could talk. Now that we both have two children, we have a good life.

In fact, my husband and I met on a dating website, and then fell in love and got married. It's been 1 1 year.

At that time, dating sites had just emerged, and many basic services were free, but if you want your information to be displayed on the front page or search results page, you have to pay to become a VIP.

Nowadays, people's fast pace of life, high work pressure and small social circle have spawned the emergence of various dating websites. They can survive for so long, indicating that the market really needs it. So I think we should treat it rationally-dating websites are not all deceptive, there are successful cases (such as my own O( _ )O), but there are also "trusts".

As a young man who is eager for love, it is also good to use dating websites as a channel to find the other half, but we should pay attention to keeping a cool head, defining our own position and reasonably consuming the services provided by dating websites.

At that time, in addition to searching on dating websites, I often participated in various offline study groups or interest groups to expand my circle of friends and make more friends.

This is to avoid putting all your hopes on dating sites and keep a relatively rational mind when consuming their services.

In addition, we should keep an eye on it and avoid being used by various "trusts". At that time, a friend of mine found that the online photos of this girl were very different when they met. He didn't think much at that time, so he went to a bar with her, and then she ordered a lot of expensive wine, and his friend realized that he had met a saucer.

In fact, dating website is a platform to expand the range of friends. Of course, there will be opportunities to meet scammers-in fact, even in life, can you say that you won't meet scammers?

Therefore, in the end, we still need to be clear-headed, don't rush for success, keep a good attitude, and don't overspend or be used by people with ulterior motives.

We interviewed Liu Chunyang, the founder of "Simple Marriage", and he felt that after the rapid growth from 2000 to 20 10, the whole marriage industry had gone out of the chaos of no standards and rules and mixed merchants. Now is the best time for the marriage industry.

However, in 20 13, the number of couples registered to get married in China exceeded 130,000, and by 20 16, the number had dropped by 2 million. There will be fewer people getting married in the future, and the competition in this industry will become more and more fierce.

Although the number of people getting married is decreasing, the cost of getting married is increasing. Therefore, it is very likely that a number of new enterprises with "marriage ties" as the core will emerge in this industry. Traditional dating companies will gradually be replaced by new platforms (even Momo). After all, the pursuit of the shortest path and excitement is the general trend of social communication. The rising post-90 s are not adapted to the serious qualification matching and making friends, and it may be more in line with their ideas to look at their faces and interests.