University dormitory problem

Young people today are really not like us at that time. Most of them are self-centered and go their own way, perhaps because they are only children.

You are embarrassed in this atmosphere, just don't want to offend your friends, but you want to have your own space.

In fact, there is a question here, which is what do you want, friends or space?

If they are friends, are these brothers your friends? If so, why don't you just tell them about your discomfort?

If not, then why do you care what they think and comment on you?

The most important thing in college life is not study, but interpersonal communication! Even if you have a skill and can't handle interpersonal relationships well in the future, who will reuse you? Don't underestimate the dormitory relationship. In fact, this is a small society mixed with dragons and snakes, and people from all walks of life have it.

If you want to feel at home in the company in the future, imagine these people in the dormitory as your colleagues in the future office for the time being.

The first step is to analyze everyone's advantages and disadvantages, likes and dislikes [W u]

The second step is to start with the most peaceful and cowardly person and develop him into your best friend. You can take him to the library to read books, go to the canteen for lunch and so on. Let him be your shoulder in the dormitory, that is, someone who is willing to speak for you.

The third step is to observe whether the remaining roommates don't get along well. If so, don't get involved in their confusion, and remember not to talk behind their backs. Don't talk nonsense even if the people in the same dormitory tell you something and ask you something, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble.

The fourth step is to see who is the strongest in the dormitory, sometimes alone, sometimes a couple. Don't cling to the humble past, it will only get twice the result with half the effort! Be good at grasping his preferences. If you like smoking, occasionally bring him a good cigarette that he has never smoked. If you like drinking, you can buy a bottle of foreign wine on a good day (for example, the Chinese New Year is coming soon) (go to Carrefour and don't buy anything above 150 yuan! Don't let them think that your money is inexhaustible. Don't always do such things. 1. If you get used to it, there will be no surprise. 2. Your wallet can't be damaged! Smoking once a month! Wine, once every six months! When you are close to the strongest, others will not bully you too much.

The fifth step is to accompany you shopping. If it is something you feel comfortable with, you will happily agree. If it is not something you feel comfortable with, you will dare to refuse! However, there is a small door here. When you refuse someone, he must be very sad. Then the next time you want to go out, you can take the initiative to bring him something back (don't ask him what to buy), such as a pack of cigarettes, a few packs of snacks, etc ... Over time, once you accept the rejection, no one will think anything about you because of this. They will understand that you are not their buddy!

Finally, about smoking at night and loud stereo, in fact, the quality of people who do this is not too high. If you want them to change, unless you are better than them, 1. You are not 2 years old. Even if you are, you will make them hate. So you just need to continue living off campus for a long time.

After handling the dormitory relationship perfectly, it will be of great help to your future office life, don't you think?