Talking about the wife struggle between the son and the son Xi

According to Zuo Zhuan, in Shao years, Dr. Zheng married his sister, and Zi Nan had given her the dowry first, so Zi got in the way and tried to steal his wife. After the game, Zi Nan won the beauty's heart and Zi Xi lost. Later, Zi Xi wanted to intervene by force, kill Zi Nan and recapture the beauty. However, quilt Nan "hit with his brother" and finally "returned from injury".

From the perspective of modern people, Zixi is a good destination. Rich and shaped like beautiful jade, this is a typical handsome man. Compared with him, Zinan is dwarfed. Qinan is a soldier, weather-beaten and dark-skinned. His appearance may not be Zhou Zheng. Their actual appearance is not described in Zuo Zhuan, but it is Wu Xu's sister (the heroine) who evaluates them.

"Purple Xi believes in beauty." To put it bluntly, Zinan is not pretty.

We can also see their differences from the way Zi Nan and Zi went to Xujia to send betrothal gifts.

? "Zi Sheng ornaments in, cloth money out; Zi Nan enters, shoots from left to right and rides out. " Zi Xi is beautifully dressed and elegant, with a lot of bride price; Zi Nan wore a military uniform and went in with a bow and arrow. She is aggressive and has no dowry. However, after all, Zi Nan was the first to propose, and Zi Xi's practice was really unkind. As a result, Zi Nan took the beauty home.

Then there is a problem. Zi Xi is a Gao Fushuai, and Zi Nan is inferior to Zi Xi in looks and wealth. Why did Wu Xu's sister choose Zinan?

Now many people think that Zi Nan is a tough guy, Zi Xi is a "bitch", and people in the Spring and Autumn Period are martial, so they like Zi Nan as a tough guy. In fact, this is to evaluate the value of ancient people from the perspective of modern people. Imagine who doesn't look at a handsome guy twice. Even men choose to talk to clean and fair men.

Zinan is a tough guy, but Zinan is also a noble with status. Zi Nan can go to war, but Zi Xi doesn't, so Zi Nan's status is more noble than Zi Xi's. Because at that time, state affairs were all planned by meat eaters, ordinary people didn't have the opportunity to discuss state affairs, that is, Chen Duxiu said, "I only know that there is a home, but I don't know that there is a country." .

In the Spring and Autumn Period, people attached great importance to identity. My sister's marriage to Zinan shows that she belongs to the upper class, which is more conducive to the development of the Xu family in Zheng State. This is one of the most important reasons. At that time, people "would rather be fathers than fathers." Family interests are above everything else, and they do not hesitate to offend the king for family development. His family will be respected in the Xu family.

Modern women choose Xi for the sake of their own and family's face, and happiness and misfortune should be put in the second place.

Compared with modern women, Wu Xu's younger sister has another most important factor, and that is life. In modern times, the life safety of female friends can be guaranteed. But women at that time, especially beautiful women, did not come to a good end. Praise became the favorite concubine, and was finally condemned for fatuity and captured by Rong. In a foreign land, I miss the king, my motherland, and the strange strange bedfellows, the leader of the barbarians. Every time she dreams, she always dreams of Chrysanthemum Palace, but when she wakes up, it is a strange land. Zhou Youwang's fatuity has little to do with praise, but even without praise, Li Si will fill this gap for her. In the China dynasty, when male power reached its peak, later generations could always find various excuses to share mistakes with women for men with the highest power.

Therefore, Wu Xu's sister chose Zinan. Zi Nan, a soldier, has thousands of disadvantages, but she has one small advantage, that is, she can protect herself. Shortly after the wedding, Zi Xi and his men tried to kill Zi Nan and get his mistress back, but quilt Nan "attacked him and took him home injured".

If Wu Xu's beautiful sister chooses Xi and Zi Nan to rob her relatives, the result may be just the opposite. Zi Nan killed Xi and took her wife. Even if Zi Nan was finally dealt with according to law, Zi Xi's grievance was cleared. Wu Xu's sister will also be rejected. As a "jinx", she will probably be kicked out by Xi's family, and Wu Xu will refuse to take her sister in for the sake of family reputation. If it was in the Ming Dynasty and later, perhaps Wu Xu would take the lead in drawing a line with his sister, and even return home to be similar to Sister Xianglin. Some old women didn't hear what she said in the street, so they deliberately sought to hear her sad story. Until she sobbed, they all shed tears in the corner of their eyes, sighed to meet them, and commented on them one by one at the same time ... Soon, people were tired of listening, even the most compassionate old lady recited Buddha, and there was no tear in her eyes. ...

Facts have proved that Wu Xu's sister chose a good home to avoid being a sister-in-law and flattering. However, not everyone is Wu Xu's sister. They all have beautiful appearance and foresight.

In today's society, many people still dream of wealth, and dream of being a housewife to be rich all their lives. President Zhang Guimei has been very popular recently. Some time ago, it was because of her silent dedication to education. This time it's because she is a full-time wife to her students.

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President Zhang? Although the words are too extreme, we can see from here that President Zhang is worried about the stay-at-home wife, which is really dangerous.

Many people may say, don't discriminate against occupations, all occupations are equally sacred and great. However, most people will choose to respect the management of a company, rather than a company cleaner. If you regard idealism in propaganda as realism, you will lose. As the saying goes, "if you are serious, you lose."

In an ideal society, we can certainly say that a full-time wife also creates value, which is not easier than a husband who works outside the home. But in real life, maybe your husband will boss you around when he comes home. What's more, the husband who is bullied by the leader will torture you both physically and mentally when he comes home. When your family is most short of money, you can only follow anxiety and can't contribute to your family. At this time, you will feel that reality is so cruel. At this critical moment, your husband filed for divorce. As the custody of mother and child, you must fight for it. You finally got custody. The days that followed were even more difficult. Because you are a full-time wife all the year round, you don't know much about society, so you can only start from scratch. At the job fair, do you think that "more than ten years' experience of taking children to do housework at home" is comparable to stacks of certificates and a diploma from a famous school, as well as people's good temperament and young enthusiasm? All you get is "waiting for notice".

Will you really regret it?

Now, how many people dream of becoming the wife of Zi Nan or Zi Xi without Wu Xu's sister's looks and knowledge? What should I do if the saliva flows down the corners of my mouth when I snore and sleep?

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