JD.COM will lay off 10% of its executives. Behind: People are over 30 years old, why are they more timid as they get older?

Unexpectedly, another wave of tragic resignation came quietly.

In mid-February, JD.COM announced that it would adopt the "last elimination system".

But this time, the situation is special, mainly for senior executives, and the elimination ratio is as high as 10%.

After fierce competition, executives are still holding hundreds of thousands of annual salaries one second, and they will face elimination the next.

It is both realistic and cruel.

Executives are still like this, how can ordinary employees escape easily?

Every time the company personnel changes, the most worrying thing is the middle-aged people around 40 years old.

Their physical strength is inferior to that of young people, and their energy can't keep up. Sometimes they are labeled as greasy and obscene.

There is no promotion and salary increase, but there must be a salary reduction and elimination.

Some people say that people over the age of 30 are really "timid" every year.

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"My heart thumped."

This sentence was said by a programmer, 38 years old.

He posted on the Internet that he received the news of the company's dismissal the day before yesterday, and the company laid off a project department. The young programmer was transferred to other departments, while two old employees and I were fired. I am old and young now, and I know that programmers are young. It is difficult to find a job and change careers at this age. I cried alone in the quilt last night and felt the crisis of middle age for the first time.

Middle-aged people in the workplace are really embarrassed.

On the one hand, it was rejected by the company, on the other hand, it strongly relied on the company.

I once made a joke about not yelling at young people, because they would resign immediately.

But you can curse those middle-aged people, especially those who have cars and houses.

When I first read this sentence, I only thought it was a joke. But then, I felt very sad.

Those middle-aged people who have cars and houses are more likely to rely on companies.

And this sense of dependence is suffocating.

Because middle-aged people are burdened with expenses such as mortgage, car loan, children going to school, and the elderly getting sick.

Moreover, the recruitment of many companies ends at the age of 35. After this age, people are not competitive.

Middle-aged men dare not lose their jobs at all.

Even if you are unhappy in the workplace, you can only bite your teeth and endure it.

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Once, I went to Beijing on business with a big brother.

When it's time for dinner, I suggest going to McDonald's He said that McDonald's is not affordable, so it is better to find a small restaurant.

Finally, we went to a noodle restaurant. I ordered a bowl of tomato beef noodles from 28 yuan, and he ordered a bowl of1sauerkraut clear soup from 5 yuan.

This eldest brother is a management post, and his salary is obviously much higher than mine, but he is reluctant to eat a lunch of 20 yuan.

After dinner, we found a corner to smoke.

He said that he was burdened with mortgage and car loan, scrimped and saved every day and worked hard, but he still couldn't satisfy his family.

His wife scolded him for running away from home all day, and his son complained about his incompetence.

Even so, he caters to his family's face. Don't argue, let alone quarrel.

I don't know how to comfort my eldest brother after listening to his words. Just said, take a rest when you are tired.

Eldest brother gave a wry smile: "You are not married yet, and you still don't understand some things. What should I do if I am tired? The whole family depends on me. If I rest, how can several people in my family eat? "

Middle-aged men just don't want to live and dare not die.

Zhang Ailing said that people often feel lonely in middle age. Because when you open your eyes, you are surrounded by people who want to rely on you, but there is no one to rely on.

I once saw a sad news.

In the news, a takeaway brother fell asleep on the fitness equipment.

His name is Ge Zhenxing and he is 40 years old.

At three o'clock in the morning, he got up to deliver food. I got up in the morning and slept for a while. 10 went on working.

When the reporter asked, what effect did bad reviews have on him? He said that a bad review deducted 100 yuan, and the whole day was in vain.

At some point, he actually began to cry.

In middle age, people like to force themselves to be strong by pretending to be free and easy.

He forced himself into a "superman" in the eyes of his family. Even so, he sometimes receives complaints and incomprehension from his family.

In fact, middle-aged men are far more fragile than we thought.

A word can bring middle-aged people into unspeakable pain.

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When many people still think that the midlife crisis is only the privilege of people over 35.

I didn't notice that the midlife crisis had been advanced.

Last week, a friend of mine bought me a drink.

He said he made a little mistake at work and was scolded by his boss, saying that he was a waste and didn't want to leave.

From what I know about this friend, he will definitely slam the table and leave, and even give the boss a heavy blow when he leaves.

But the next words, but out of my expectation.

He bent down and apologized repeatedly.

"This kind of problem will never happen again. Please calm down. "

Even if you are badly scolded by the boss, you can only admit cowardice.

When he got home at night, he took a deep breath, then smiled brightly and said, "Wife, baby, I'm back."

He looks sunny on the surface, but his heart is full of storms.

He was afraid that he was at a loss and wanted to hide and cry.

"I'm only 30 years old. How did this happen? "

Why do we enter the midlife crisis ahead of schedule?

The reason is very simple, that is, everything changes too fast in the Internet age.

There is no word "stability".

I used to stay in one post until I retired, but now I don't even think about it!

In addition, with the development of cutting-edge technology, it is obviously normal for human work to be replaced.

Take artificial intelligence as an example. Some experts predict that it will replace 50% of human work in the future.

So in such an environment, companies are more inclined to absorb more young people. They are energetic, energetic, keep pace with the times, and can easily upgrade and fight monsters.

With more and more post-95 s and post-00 s entering the workplace, post-80 s and post-90 s are virtually squeezed into the echelon of "middle-aged people"

It's really sad

04

Is middle-aged man hopeless?

Don't be so sad, of course it can be saved!

The existence of "crisis" is a good thing.

The word crisis consists of two words-danger and opportunity.

This means that threats and opportunities coexist.

First of all, we should recognize the essence of middle-aged crisis, which is actually self-anxiety.

Psychology has a formula:

Self-anxiety = the uncertainty of the future x the importance of things x the degree of helplessness.

When any of these three items tends to "0", the sense of anxiety will decrease.

Let's analyze them one by one.

Obviously, "future uncertainty" is beyond our control. No one can predict what the world will be like in ten or twenty years, unless that person has special functions.

"The importance of things" is also a variable. People are dynamic, and at a certain stage, they will have different ideas. One second you may think that making money is more important, and the next you think that spending time with your family is more important.

Then, there is only one last factor left.

Changing "helplessness", that is, you have to gain a sense of control over your life, which is the only feasible way for us.

How to do it specifically?

First, you should control your body. Health is the capital of the revolution, no matter how much money you can earn, your health will collapse and everything will be over!

Secondly, you should control your mentality. You can cry and mourn, but don't be a coward. Fall, get up again!

Finally, you should control your core competitiveness. Don't blame the company for being heartless. Who wants to raise a lazy loser? So don't forget to charge at any time!

Sometimes, we like to tease middle-aged men with "greasy".

After all, my hair is bald and my stomach is bulging.

But think about it, those middle-aged men were once young and handsome.

I only blame my life for killing pigs.

While they are struggling for survival in the workplace, they are very wronged at home.

You can't take care of yourself after a long time.

Ugly and oily.

It doesn't matter.

I remember a saying: When people reach middle age, they feel that they have been turned into a journey to the west by the pressure of the Monkey King, the belly of Pig Bajie, the baldness of Lao Sha and the nagging of Tang Priest.

30 is a hurdle. Every year after that, it's like a journey to learn from the scriptures, a house and a car, getting married and having children, elderly parents, children to support, promotion and salary increase, and running a marriage. ...

Every road is uneven. The more worry, the less courage. Without hair, people are really getting more and more timid. But there is no lack of eighty-one difficulties.

Crush your head and rush in. That's it.