How do teenagers shape a good self-image?

1, pay attention to the language. Language is the basic tool of human communication. People exchange ideas, transmit information and express their feelings through language. Civilized language sets up the image of human civilization, eloquent language sets up the image of human eloquence, humorous language sets up the image of human humor, and hypocritical language sets up the image of human hypocrisy. 2. Be polite. Manner refers to a person's style, appearance, manners and attitude, and also refers to the explicit expression of a person's spirit, temperament and personality. Therefore, demeanor actually includes mental state, appearance etiquette, behavior attitude and manners. It actually reflects a person's morality, character, temperament, knowledge, attitude and so on. Some people say, "Elegant manners are an unimpeded passport to a friend's heart." This is a "passport" that every college student friend who is eager to succeed in choosing a career deserves. 3. Pay attention to the instrument. Instrument is an important aspect of college students' self-image. Appearance image mainly refers to a person's appearance and figure. It is an intuitive external image composed of individual physiological characteristics and clothing. Beauty in appearance is the natural beauty of human beings. People with beautiful appearance won the first chance of success, because people in modern society are used to looking at, evaluating and choosing people by the standard of beauty. 4. Pay attention to specific behaviors. When recruiting, the job-seeking image of college students seems subjective, which is the subjective impression of recruiters, but it is actually objective and the effect of college students' behavior. From the physiological point of view, behavior is the action made by various parts of the body, including the face, which can be conscious or unconscious. People's gestures and smiles will leave a lasting impression and produce unexpected effects. People's behavior and actions should not be taken lightly. Perfect image can make people fight in the torrent of society, and healthy posture can make you soar in the vast sky. The times have given us college students a new mission, and the new mission needs new quality and new image. Believe in yourself and overcome everything. Let us shape ourselves in perfection and succeed in self-confidence. First, be full of energy and look natural. Maintaining vigorous energy, full enthusiasm and generous and natural expression in social interaction is the primary factor to optimize personal image. When interacting with people, you are full of energy, energy and self-confidence, which can stimulate their enthusiasm and activate the communication atmosphere. If you are depressed and listless, you will appear perfunctory and indifferent, which will make the other person feel bored or even unhappy. A dynamic and natural-looking person often gives people the impression of self-confidence, optimism, enterprising and enthusiasm for life. A person who looks tired, inattentive or shows nervous limitations and is at a loss will give people the impression of lacking social experience, immaturity, inattention and contempt for others. Therefore, in social communication, we should always pay attention to each other with great enthusiasm, be interested in what he is interested in, and respond naturally and appropriately with each other's manners. In other words, if you want others to like you, you must like others first, and if you want to attract their attention, you must pay attention to them first. Second, the instrument is neat and well dressed. John Locke, a British philosopher, said: "The purpose and function of etiquette is to soften the original stubbornness, soften a person's temperament, and make him respect others and get along with others." Clothing can reflect a person's aesthetic taste and accomplishment. If a person's clothing can match his temperament and occupation, his figure and age, and the atmosphere and occasions at that time, it will make him look more chic and attractive. Third, talk humorously and elegantly. Speech can directly reflect whether a person is knowledgeable or ignorant, educated or shallow. A man of few words. A taciturn person can hardly attract others' attention. Being able to talk about Kan Kan in social life, his words are elegant and appropriate, his words are meaningful, he has profound opinions on problems, his thinking is quick, he can respond freely, he can express his thoughts and feelings concisely, accurately and vividly, which shows his extraordinary temperament and demeanor. Writer Yu Lingsi said when talking with Mr. Lu Xun: "Mr. Lu Xun's speech is profound, rigorous, powerful and vivid, and every sentence attracts us." With the progress of the conversation, she exudes sincere enthusiasm more and more strongly, and a severe and powerful force is transmitted from her thin face. "fascinating, there is a feeling of' listening to you is not as good as reading for a year'. However, elegant speech cannot be concealed. Showing off gorgeous words will only appear shallow and grandiose; If it is too literal, it will make people feel sour. Don't talk behind people's backs, pay attention to your discretion, praise people behind their backs, talk more about their advantages, criticize people face to face and correct their shortcomings. Especially don't be glib and swear. Fourth, be generous. Simple and generous, mild behavior habits, steady behavior, decent civilization, correct and elegant posture of sitting, standing and walking, which can correctly show a person's good upbringing and leave people with a sense of maturity and trust. Vulgar and vulgar behavior is boring. Appropriate communication distance makes the other person feel comfortable and calm psychologically, while excessive intimacy and coldness are easy to cause misunderstanding. A person's behavior can be natural, free and easy, and informal, which is mainly based on his self-confidence besides his social experience. Only those who have confidence in themselves and believe in themselves and their abilities can be natural and generous in social interaction. A person's natural and unrestrained behavior also comes from his usual cultivation. This line is fine. It's time to stop. Time to sit down. Speaking of it, it is to be steady and weighty, enthusiastic and measured, and polite and informal. Xu Longli: Strictly speaking, optimizing personal image is a non-standard and non-format social art, which requires each of us to carefully ponder and experience, constantly sum up experience and form our own unique style and charm. (1) leave a deep impression on others. In social occasions, everyone wants to leave a deep impression on others and let the other person or people around him remember you as soon as possible. To do this, you must stand out. Professor Danny Lu, School of Psychiatry, Hawaii Medical University, USA. Burns once said, "Being conspicuous means not only making others pay attention to you, but also making others remember you. "He believes that as long as the following establishment is followed, it will leave a deep impression on people. (1) Wear colorful clothes. If you are a man, you might as well wear a bright red tie with a pair of gray eyes. If you are a woman, you should wear a bright turquoise scarf and a black background dress. Choose a special perfume that you often use. People almost always react subconsciously to aroma. People's sense of smell is amazing, and a little foreign fragrance will leave a lasting impression. (3) Wear interesting and distinctive decorations. For example, if you are a lady, you can choose hand-made ear defects with unique style. Netizen: the display of the image is not necessarily what it is. It is best to stand out if it suits you. Xu Longli: This was originally for your reference when optimizing your personal image. 4 Cheer up. Professor Burns said: "Many people are often depressed. On the contrary, people tend to remember energetic gestures. "Upright generally does not produce listless burnout, on the contrary, it will appear energetic. ⑤ Create a slightly mysterious atmosphere. You can hint according to your own personality or some interesting things you have experienced in the past, causing suspense. Don't tell the whole story too early. For example, if you are a chef, you may lead the topic to cooking, but don't call yourself a chef. If you don't tell everything right away, you can stop others from asking questions and pay more attention to you. 6. Cultivate an interesting hobby, or master some strange things. For example, if you know a certain period in history or someone's "unofficial history", or can repair cars, people will be interested in you. ⑦ Speak clearly and directly. Especially in the workplace, don't beat around the bush, be vague, and don't add "Do you understand?" After every sentence. These are all impressions. (2) How to make others like you How can you make a good impression and make others like you? An American expert once put forward the following suggestions: ① Give full play to your strengths. If you give full play to your strengths, others will like to be with you and cooperate with you easily. A person must first know himself and grasp his own characteristics, such as appearance, energy and speed of speech. The ability to attract others' attention, such as the level of voice, intonation, movements, gestures, facial expressions, etc. You know, other people's impressions of you are formed according to these characteristics. Therefore, when dealing with people, you should be confident and give full play to your strengths as much as possible. Looking back, how much do you know about yourself? Have you played your strengths in your work and life? How much can you give yourself? People who keep their true colors and know how to communicate with others will never change their personalities because of different occasions. Keeping your true self and your best self is the secret of making a good impression. Whether it is intimate conversation with people or giving a speech, we should keep our true colors unchanged. Don't give people the feeling of dishonesty. 3 be good at using your eyes. Whether you are talking to one person or 100 people, you must remember to look at each other with your eyes. Some people look at you at first, only say a few words, and then look away. When you enter a room full of people, you should look around naturally, take care of all the people with a smile, and don't avoid all the eyes. This will make you look relaxed. Xu Longli: Back to what I said just now, it is mainly about how to make others like you. Let's move on. (3) How to make each other happy? Without happiness in life, the atmosphere is as monotonous as a desert. And if a person can generously sell happiness to others in communication, make others live happily and interestingly, and create a harmonious atmosphere in his own life and environment, then he is a popular person and invincible in social communication. So, how do you sell your happiness? (1) Inspire others with self-confident personality strength. Self-confidence is a great virtue in life and a magic weapon to defeat the enemy. In social interaction, with a confident person, you will feel relaxed and happy, even if you encounter difficulties and setbacks, you will overcome them with an optimistic and confident attitude. This strength of personality itself is also an inspiration to others. Infect others with charming smiles. Everyone wants others to love and value themselves. Smiling can shorten the distance between people, melt the contradiction between people and ease hostility. No one in life refuses the "bribe" of smiling. Make each other happy at all costs. Netizen: No one in life refuses the "bribe" of smiling! All right! ! Xu Longli: Who doesn't want to be happy? If you are a person who can bring happiness to each other, you will also be a popular person. In order to make each other happy, you should find more ways to make people happy. Sometimes, in order to make others happy, you can do anything. ④ Let humor lead to laughter in awkward scenes. Humor is the lever of happiness, the source of happiness in life and the lubricant of social communication. Humor is often the most magical weapon to deal with the most nerve-racking embarrassing situation in daily life. Humorous language often brings people happiness. If you want to sell your happiness, the best advertisement is humor. Only in this way can we make each other happy. What can we do? Think for yourself. Xu Longli: Let's talk about how to shape a true self. In interpersonal communication, we always want to leave a good impression on others and let others like and trust themselves. To do this, we often have to change our manners, speaking habits, hobbies and so on, in order to meet the needs of social interaction and make each other feel good about themselves. However, this conscious self-change does not mean that you have to become another person, become an "actor" who imitates or caters to others' tastes, or even deliberately hide your true feelings, or cover up your true colors, completely give up your inner temperament and turn yourself into a mask on the social stage. In fact, this practice is not desirable, not only makes you lose your true colors, but also makes you counterproductive once others see through your practice. Some people force themselves to strut in the crowd, be majestic, shake hands with others too hard, stare at each other when talking to others, and laugh exaggeratedly to show their sense of humor ... If they really pose like this, they will have a sense of humor, which will make others feel annoying and even uncomfortable. In fact, the best way is to keep your original personality and characteristics and shape a true self. Inner temperament is the most precious. A person who really knows how to get along with others will never give up his inner characteristics because of the change of occasions or objects, and blindly cater to and follow others. You should appear as yourself, not as someone else. We often find that some people always feel that they are inferior to others, so they constantly change themselves with the changes of environment and objects, and the results are beyond recognition. Being true to yourself doesn't mean being different or unconventional, or even sticking to your own opinions when you know you are wrong or have some bad habits. To be true to yourself is to maintain your unique and healthy personality. A person with personality may have a certain charm.