Why do more and more women choose to be single?

Recently, a study conducted by Morgan Stanley based on the data of the US Census Bureau shows that by 2030, 45% of the best working-age women aged 25 to 44 in the United States will be single.

This phenomenon occurs not only in the United States, but also in China. According to the data of Zhaopin's "20 18 survey report on the concept of marriage and love of working people", 76% of men think that marriage is a necessity, while only 49% of women hold the same view.

I have to admit that these figures all reveal that the trend of single women in the workplace has arrived. Why do more and more women choose to be single? Can be discussed from the following aspects:

1/ The inner world is rich enough/

Living in first-and second-tier cities, colorful social activities and convenient services have greatly enriched women's time after work, making them no longer confined to home, having more life possibilities and gradually enriching their inner world.

Just like my friend Mix, she has lived in Shanghai for a long time. She is no longer young, but she is still single.

She thinks her present life is very interesting and beautiful, and she is not worried about not finding a boyfriend at all.

Every week, she meets a group of friends around her regularly and organizes various activities, including cycling, reading club, food salon and so on.

Through the activities of the food salon, she gradually became a gourmet who loves cooking from a small white chef.

From Mix, I can see that she is constantly trying all kinds of things to have fun and please herself, which is exactly what many modern women in the workplace have in common.

2/ Heavy work makes love tired/

Life for adults is not easy, especially for single professional women. What will heavy work and long overtime bring?

As my friend said, "I have money now and have no time to spend it." I want to get down every day when I go home, and I have no time to fall in love. "

Heavy work, coupled with daily troubles such as overbearing bosses and lazy colleagues, will only lead to new fatigue if you have to deal with your partner.

So many women are willing to drink a little wine and sleep late on weekends, dissolve in jazz and instant coffee, and look for a little luck in life.

3/ Men don't take on more family responsibilities/

Recently, the fire variety show "Men Doing Housework" continues to attract everyone's attention, among which there are many "fairy husbands" praised by everyone. Get up every morning to make breakfast, take care of the baby, pack things and do housework, which is unambiguous.

The boasting of the standard husband in the program just shows that the husband does too little housework.

We can look at it more objectively through a set of data: China ranks fourth from the bottom in the world in terms of male housework; On the other hand, women in China spend 8 1 minute more than men, which is close to 1.5 hours.

When a woman is doing housework, her boyfriend who doesn't touch Yang Chunshui is playing games and playing mobile phones.

When such things persist for a long time, women will become anxious and their mental load will gradually increase.

Men who have no sense of family responsibility and are unwilling to share housework together will really make women lose interest in love and marriage.

4/ The career of working mothers is more difficult/

Women will inevitably go through the stage of having children after ending their single state and falling in love and getting married.

According to the data of Zhaopin's "20 19 Survey Report on Living Conditions of Working Mothers", more than half of working mothers think that after giving birth, they will be distracted, which will affect their work effect and career development.

40% of working mothers missed the opportunity of promotion and salary increase because of having children; 33.7% of working mothers are marginalized by the company because they have children, and there are few opportunities for promotion.

A child less than one year old, the predecessor of the heroine in the Japanese TV series "I get off work at one o'clock", suddenly fell ill and couldn't get away from her busy work. As a result, he can only go to work in a daze.

In "Little Joy", the working mother whose children are about to enter the college entrance examination frequently asks for leave because she is worried about her children's study, and finally loses her original executive position.

After marriage, children become a concern, which will have a negative impact on the mother's career to a certain extent.

How should I handle my feelings in the workplace?

Women in the workplace are gradually becoming independent, but this is by no means the same as being single or unmarried.

They are worried that getting married and having children will affect their lives, and they are unwilling to give up their current free single life, but they yearn for the sweet time of interdependence with their other half. So what can we do to embrace love and marriage more happily?

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/Take the initiative to share your love and marriage views and feelings with your family and get their support/

I once discussed the topic of marriage with my mother. She said something that impressed me deeply: "If you can't find the right person under the premise of economic independence, I'd rather you stay single all your life than make do with it at will."

Some people may say that not all parents are so open-minded.

That's true, but if we treat our family as friends, share our emotions and thoughts with them, and admit our sadness, pain and loneliness in front of them, they can actually understand.

If you choose to simply ignore or fight hard, then the resistance from your family will be even greater. In the end, you will not only have to bear the pressure of work, but also resist the obstruction of your family, and your heart will only be more tired.

2/ Struggle more when you are single, and be prepared for uncertainty/

If marriage may affect your career, you might as well plan ahead when you are single, cultivate your own strength and let yourself have a second career in the uncertain future.

For example, my last leader had 10 years of marketing experience in foreign companies before he got married and had children last year. In addition to managing the company's business, he usually goes to business school as a lecturer every weekend.

A year after giving birth, she resigned.

Although I don't have a full-time job now, my income is not lower than before because I have enough experience and qualifications to work part-time as a market consultant for two companies.

The key to this is that you need to exercise your hard power in the early stage and temper your professional ability to be irreplaceable, so that you are not afraid of the risk of being fired.

3/ Make your partner your life partner/

Cheryl Sandberg, the chief operating officer of Facebook, once said in her work "Step Forward" that she could not stand because she pulled a tendon during childbirth. So in the first few weeks after delivery, Dave, the husband, took care of the baby most of the time. Although there are worries, in fact, the husband takes good care of the children.

"If you want the other half to be your real life partner, first of all, you have to trust each other's ability and treat each other as an equal partner with yourself." Cheryl said.