Does the fear of death increase or decrease with the increase of human age?

In the face of death, as long as he has brains, thinking and imagination, he will feel fear. Except for people who have lost confidence in life and are desperate, such people are not afraid, even if they know they are going to die, they will do it. Such as hanging, taking poison, jumping off a building and other suicidal behaviors.

My father is 62 years old and strong. He has never been to the hospital. In the early spring of that year, he always felt choked when eating, and he often burped like a cold wind back to his stomach. I took him to Jinhua Guangfu Hospital for examination, and the result was advanced esophageal cancer. The doctor told me not to tell him, buy him something to eat and go home to prepare for the funeral!

When Jinhua comes home, his father always asks me what's wrong. In the first few days, I always faltered. Later, I asked him many times and I made it clear to him. He also told me, what are you afraid of? Ten cancers and nine deaths, don't go to see it when you are dead. Look at the people who have surgery and chemotherapy. If you go home, you won't die. You have money and money. Anyway, you are all old and dismissive.

I also think dad is very open-minded, so it doesn't matter. But as the illness worsened day by day, my father's thoughts began to waver. It is often said that what medicine is good and where doctors can see cancer is good.

In fact, my father didn't know that Jinhua Guangfu Hospital was a specialized cancer hospital. It signed a contract to give birth to cancer, and it was fatal if it didn't coagulate. Later, when he even wanted me to carry him out in the sun, his fear of peace and death intensified. My eyes are wet, and I keep saying, how could I be like this? How could I be like this? Don't take me to the hospital again. Dad is afraid of death, but he blames me. In fact, my father is eighteen or nineteen years old, and my family can't lift their feet and raise their hands before going to Jinhua.

Later people lay in bed, never got up again, and even vomited after eating soup. He is lying in bed, always watching us eat. Always say, look at your delicious food, I really want to eat it. When I prepared for his funeral and bought a coffin, my father cried, but he said that the materials were good and strong, and I was really blessed.

That day, dad finally left us, tears streaming down his face. He really doesn't want to leave, and he can't bear to leave us. ...

Increase first and then decrease. When people were children, there was no concept of death. When they first knew about the existence of death, they were more curious than afraid. With the growth of age, people's awareness of death is getting stronger and stronger. At this time, fear began to appear and gradually increased. When people are old and have rich life experience, people will gradually start to look down on life and death. At this time, the fear of death gradually decreases until death, and their attitude towards death will become very peaceful. At this time, the fear of death will reach the minimum in adulthood, and finally they will face death and go to death.

The fear of death will deepen with age. Although many elderly people say that they have lived enough, they have no regrets about death. That is a insincere lie, and the biggest regret is that it is about to die. With the gradual spread of death, the desire to survive will become stronger and stronger, and this bitterness and pain cannot be confided to the younger generation. Once death comes, if the old man's consciousness still exists on his deathbed, few people will greet him with a smile.

It is common sense to avoid talking about the word "death" in front of old people. Especially don't tell the old people who are familiar to their peers and have passed away! Yes, it is undoubtedly reading "countdown" to the elderly. You can deliberately tell stories about long-lived elderly people, suggesting that the elderly are still young and have enough living space and time. If you can do this, praise your filial piety!

The fear of death should first be based on the cognition of death, that is, if a person doesn't know what death means, he won't be afraid; For example, newborn babies have just begun to understand the world, and death is a phenomenon that cannot be described at all for them, so there is no fear or no fear;

On the other hand, death represents the end of life. Humans are emotional animals. Some people lose their enthusiasm for life or basically have no worries, so their fears will be reduced. Just like some old people who are in their twilight years, they have no worries about people or things around them, and their attitude towards death will be more peaceful.

Therefore, there is no necessary connection between age and sense of death, and the cognition of death is the most direct connection.

I only say my personal experience. (1) At an age when you can't remember, you don't know what death is. (2) In the pre-adolescent age, I am particularly afraid of death. (3) Death is the most feared in adolescence. (4) In young adults, after having a sense of responsibility for family and society, you can't just die. ⑤ In old age, the fear of death is becoming more and more indifferent, but I don't want to die. Therefore, people's cognition of death is a process: I don't know death, I'm afraid of death, I'm not afraid of death, I can't die, I don't want to die, and I hate death.

Generally speaking, with the growth of age, people's fear of death is increasing year by year.

This is my observation and experience.

When I was young, I felt that death was far away from me, although some people died young, after all, the probability was not great. The death of my grandparents at home didn't touch me much. I think it's normal for them to die after all.

After entering middle age, with the increase of life experience and the death of relatives, friends and elders, I have different feelings about life and death. Especially when my father died a few years ago, I felt the pain and feeling of birth, illness and death.

Stepping into middle-aged and elderly people, the annual physical examination report also reminds me that there are more and more physical problems, so I need to take this medicine and do that examination.

The older you get, the more the word death will hover in your mind, tossing and turning. It's not that we take the initiative to think, but that it comes uninvited. Especially the death of peers around us reminds us: will it be our turn next?

Of course, we often hear some old people say: I'm not afraid of death! I've experienced everything in my life.

Is that really the case? I believe that no one is not afraid of death, and everyone has a desire to survive. For ordinary people, people who are not afraid of death do not exist.

A few days ago, an old neighbor of mine died. It's cancer. It was late when it was discovered. The old man is in good health, because it is too sudden, which is a great blow to the old man. There's nothing the hospital can do. Let the family take the old man home. After returning home, the old man cried all day and felt very depressed and helpless. Fortunately, her three daughters are around and take good care of her. Because of the epidemic, her friends are not convenient to visit, so they can only comfort a few words on the phone. Before long, the old man passed away.

Being old is a very helpless thing. Before that age, others can't understand the sadness and helplessness of a dying old man.

Let's make some preparations for our old age early. Personally, I think the elderly should have four elders: the old nest, the old capital, old friends and old music. It's best to have a house in your own name to spend your old age, have a certain pension and savings for daily life and emergency, have some good friends to walk around every day to ease the loneliness in life, and have some hobbies as spiritual sustenance.

May we all live a peaceful and happy old age.

My grandfather passed away painlessly at the age of 99. Three weeks before his death, he slowly reduced food and water and only ate a little porridge every day. At the same time, he refused to take the medicine prescribed by the doctor, and he refused to give him an intravenous injection! Whenever our younger generation goes to see him, he smiles and shakes hands with us! My feeling is that grandpa chose to give up himself. He died laughing. There is no fear of death on his face, so we all say that grandpa is a blessed man. Grandpa, have a nice trip. We will miss you!

Fear has increased.

With the growth of age, there are more and more things to contact, more and more desires, and more and more responsibilities. For example, when you were three years old, you dreamed that there was only one bag of spicy strips. When I grow up, what I want to do most is to eat spicy strips every day. If you think you're dead, it's a bag of spicy strips.

By the time you were a teenager, you had not left home. Your wish is to go out and see, at least earn money by yourself. If you accidentally meet the king of hell at this time, you will feel sorry for not seeing the world clearly.

By the time you are in your twenties, you will see many new things and eat many rare delicacies because of your broad vision. By this time, you already have parents, children, lovers and are responsible for your family. Once I think of death, I will be afraid of what I haven't eaten enough and what I haven't owned, such as no house, no car, no LV bag and no passbook. Who will support my parents and children after I die, and how will my lover live?

Finally, until the children get married, the family burden is reduced, and then there is personal regret. I feel that I haven't done this thing, I haven't done it, and I won't be famous. When I want to do it, my physical skills can't keep up with my thoughts, or I feel old. Every day is like counting down. Obviously, I still have a lot of nostalgia, but I have to accept that time is running out. Although it is a natural law, waiting for death is the most terrible, so my fear is even greater.

This should not be a problem. Now that you have raised this question, I will clarify my point of view.

Every stage of human life in the world has its sensitive topics, interesting topics and taboo topics. As time goes by, the original sensitive topic may become indifferent or calm after coming back. The original topic of interest may come back and become a topic that we are not interested in or interested in with the transfer of interest. Especially at every stage, people will find taboo topics, that is, people often say that "everyone has scars that they don't want to uncover."

What are the topics we avoid? This is our shortcoming. As the saying goes, "Don't talk about short people". When interacting with people, you should know each other's situation, especially the topics he is interested in and taboo, so that you can know what to say and what to avoid in conversation. Doing so is the embodiment of our self-cultivation and respect for each other. Of course, the result was that our conversation went smoothly and we were both very happy. If you deliberately bring up a topic when you know that the other person doesn't want to talk about it, you are embarrassing the other person and putting yourself in an awkward position.

What is the topic that people avoid? They are all their own "short". For example, the other person has been in prison, and you have always been the darling of society. When people talk to you, they feel shorter than you. You also deliberately got rid of some of their bad behaviors in the past. I believe that such a dialogue is impossible, unless they ask you for help, it is difficult for others to do it.

The topic of death doesn't matter to young people, because they are far from "death". However, with the growth of age, our own health level is deteriorating, and the word "death" is becoming more and more sensitive and even more taboo. Because of this, if you talk about death in front of a terminally ill old man's bed, or even directly tell the old man on this bed that "the future is numbered" and "you can eat whatever you want", if you have no irreconcilable contradictions, then you must be out of your mind.

As we grow older, we approach death step by step. Death is a topic people don't want to talk about. However, for children, they are too far away from "death", of course, they are not sensitive enough to talk about this topic with them, and even have the taste of casting pearls before swine; For middle-aged and elderly people, it is different. With the increase of their own diseases and the painful death of relatives and friends around them, their fear of death is increasing day by day ... Generally speaking, people who are closer to death are more afraid of death. However, once people set foot on the "road to death" (from the moment of death), they found that death is not terrible. On the contrary, the road to death turned out to be a golden path full of flowers.

God deceives people how beautiful the world is and deceives a person into the world. As a result, we regretted it when we came into the world, so people born regretted it one by one and cried one by one. God deceives people how to fear death, but once people open the door of death, they find that it is really a place suitable for survival, so once people enter the state of death, they all leave with a smile.