? Is it poor self-control or weak will? Why can't we resist the temptation?

Do you want to lose weight, but you can't control the temptation of food? You want to study, but you can't resist the terrible and fatal attraction of all kinds of entertainment; You can control your emotions towards strangers, but you can't stop yourself from yelling at your parents. You tell yourself to work hard and study hard every day, but every day you are confused and lament your inefficiency and weak willpower!

What makes us repeat yesterday's mistakes every day and get deeper and deeper in the mire of depravity? Are we really saved?

Terrible "moral permission"

Do we really have no self-control? Is there really a lack of willpower? To put it bluntly, in fact, we don't lack these things, we just consciously choose to give in to temptation. Why can't you persist and give in to temptation?

Bernoulli Moline, a psychologist at Princeton University, once did an experiment. He gave different students two different sets of propositions. The first set of propositions: proposition 1: Most women are really not smart. Proposition 2: Most women are more suitable to look after children at home than to go out to work. The second set of propositions: proposition 1: Some women are not smart; Proposition 2: Some women are more suitable to look after children at home.

Obviously, the first group of propositions has obvious discrimination against women, which causes strong opposition from the survey students; The second set of propositions is more neutral. The following two groups of propositions judge that different people go to the same job interview. The result may be quite different from what you think. Those who take part in the first set of propositions and strongly oppose female discrimination have more gender discrimination in the recruitment process and rarely hire women. Participants in the second set of propositions show neutrality. According to common sense, it is easier for us to act according to this criterion after expressing an attitude, but this experiment seems to be an exception.

Why? This is what psychology calls "moral permission". The first group of students feel that they have obtained moral permission after clearly expressing their opposition to racial discrimination, so they will feel good about themselves. At this time, they will trust their impulses more, which will lead you to do bad things. If you don't understand, I'll give you a simple example. If a person wants to lose weight after exercising all morning, he will probably eat some fried chicken at noon. French fries are rewarded with high-protein food. In fact, eating these foods is tantamount to ruining your weight loss plan.

When we start to forge ahead towards a goal, when we feel that we are making progress in every small step, we always hope to get rewards and compensation. It is because of this impulse that we often fail. Because when we make progress, we always get a sense of moral superiority. This sense of superiority will make us not question our impulses, forget our goals, and unconsciously succumb to temptation. This phenomenon is everywhere. For example, you want to take the postgraduate entrance examination. On the first day, you played all day. The next morning, when you don't want to get up, you will tell yourself: Yesterday, I was so diligent. It's nothing to steal some laziness this morning. In fact, this is the first step for you to slide into the abyss. We often fall into the trap that we are too good and deserve a little reward. We have worked so hard that it should be okay to play for a while now. It turns out that this devil's idea will immediately break your angel plan.

■ Solution:

Don't make yourself feel good, forget the excuses that can make you fall, but always remember the reasons you wanted to do at that time. When you make progress in losing weight, this is not an excuse for you to start eating high-calorie foods. Remember yourself and the reason for losing weight: have a healthy and slim figure. Say no to those short-term temptations. Li Ao has a saying that is quite accurate: not bitter, bitter for a lifetime; Will endure hardships, endure hardships for half a life. So learn to choose between short-term temptation and long-term interests.

"Tomorrow is followed by tomorrow, how many tomorrows are there?"

You didn't exercise today. Tell yourself to make up all today's exercises tomorrow and double them. Dinner will eat those foods with higher calories. You should take care of your money. You tell yourself to buy the last skirt today, and then stop shopping for the next three months. You want to start studying, you tell yourself that this weekend I will finally degenerate and start studying on Monday. In fact, it is very likely that you will fall on Monday.

Our high optimism about the future allows us to indulge in the present. In fact, we are not generally optimistic about the future, but in reality, the future is no different from what you are doing now.

Two marketing professors at the University of Wisconsin-Madison once conducted a survey, which proved that our brains are such a means of self-deception. They surveyed those who bought fitness equipment. In fact, most of those fitness equipment fell in the basement, but the survey found that people who bought it obviously had an overly optimistic estimate of the number of exercises in the future. In fact, this question is quite understandable. You've never exercised before. After buying fitness equipment, will you find time to exercise? Everyone has inertia. Many times, tomorrow is the repetition of today's life, and there will be no big changes. In other words, when you promise to double your exercise tomorrow to make up for today's lack of exercise, it is likely that tomorrow will be the same as today, and you are just looking for an excuse to paralyze yourself with optimism about the future in order to seek the indulgence of the present.

■ Solution:

Don't be too optimistic about the future Tomorrow is the same as today. Don't make any excuses for yourself. Any little excuse is like Panduna's box. Once opened, it will get out of control.

Don't be fooled by those "auras"

Will you pay for environmental protection? Research shows that when people plant trees on Arbor Day, they will feel at ease about which products will pollute the environment. In order to prevent parents from picking up their children late, kindergartens charge every parent who picks up their children late. As a result, more people pick up their children later. Why?

When you do something beneficial to the environment, you will feel noble and get a green license. Therefore, it is found that enterprises that donate a lot of money to environmental protection agencies every year often discharge more sewage into nature later. In short, it is the virtue of green consumption that gives them an excuse to lie and steal.

The same is true of kindergartens. After paying the money, parents will feel at ease, no longer feel morally guilty, and will be more indulgent. So, don't be fooled by these "auras".

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