Saving the crisis of middle-aged women in the workplace: after 35 years old, you need to do these four things!

at the age of p>35, it's the age when the silk is wrapped in pearls.

But at the age of 35, many women are in a state of panic, anxiety and confusion.

Because the 35-year-old in the workplace is the dividing line of career gold, those who have risen to the management level have already gone up, while those who stand at the bottom still stand at the bottom, unable to see the direction of future career development.

At this time, if you want to change careers or want to be promoted, it is not so easy as Qian Shan, and you have to face the pressure from your family.

after the age of 35, facing the work and life, many people feel as if they are standing in a dark forest and can't see the light.

Facing the bottleneck of development at work and the pressure of life and family, it vividly shows what is the crisis of middle age.

So, what kind of bottleneck will women in the workplace face after the age of 35?

First, the three major bottlenecks faced after the age of 35

1. Breakthrough in work

We all know that 35 years old is the golden line of career in the workplace, and many companies have written that they should be under 35 years old in their recruitment needs.

Therefore, this line has become an important watershed for many people in the workplace.

for the breakthrough in face-to-face work, we need to look at it from two aspects.

first, middle and bottom managers

if some women have been promoted to management, middle and bottom managers will also face the problem of being promoted again.

Because the more restrictive the position is, most companies generally consider promoting men, while women are less likely to be promoted.

in addition to the weak management ability of female managers, most companies will also consider that women will put their time and energy on their families.

Therefore, even if women and men spend the same amount of time and energy on their work, and some people even spend more than men, they will be prejudiced by the workplace.

For middle and low-level managers, although they have certain advantages over ordinary posts, they are equally dangerous when they are subjected to company reform or project changes.

second, ordinary employees

if you are still ordinary employees in this period, the dilemma you face is very dangerous.

At present, many enterprises implement the bottom elimination system, and age will also be an important consideration.

besides, I didn't go to the management and didn't have any management experience during this period, so it was not so easy to change jobs.

There are many women around me who are over 35 years old. They have been doing ordinary jobs in ordinary posts. They want to change jobs but are limited by external environmental conditions. If they want to be promoted, they are long past the promotion age.

companies generally promote the underachievers, who are full of vigor, vitality, ideas and creativity, and dare to work hard.

Although women aged 35+also work hard, they still can't resist the prejudice from bosses.

Women in this period are particularly looking forward to seeking a breakthrough in their work.

2. Family Care

A 35-year-old woman has to face the pressure of her family in addition to her work.

After the age of 35, most women basically have their own children, so they need to spend more time and energy to take care of their families.

After the opening of the second child policy, most families will have 1-2 children, so it will be easier for them to take care of their children if they have someone at home, and it will be harder if they don't.

I have a friend who is 36 years old today. Because she got married and gave birth earlier, her children are older now. One is in junior high school and the other is in primary school, which is a relatively independent age.

because the old man is old and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, she resolutely refuses to let the old man help and insists on taking care of herself.

every weekend, she will buy the dishes of the week, then get up early every morning to make breakfast for the children, and come home from work at night to make dinner for the children.

Sometimes because of busy work, I have to work overtime at night, so I can only order takeout food for my children, or finish dinner for my children first, and then work overtime. By the time I go to sleep after working overtime, it's already around 1 am.

My husband travels all the year round and basically goes home once a month, which can hardly help her.

I once asked her, "You work so hard, why don't you ask the old man to help you bring it? At least I can help you cook dinner."

She said, "Old people are old and have different educational ideas for their children. Even if they work hard, it doesn't matter. That is, at present, this job is too busy. I want to change to a less busy job, and my age is limited. I have submitted several resumes and no company wants it. "

In fact, there are many working women like friends, who insist on taking care of their children even if they are busy at work.

besides working, they also need to spend more time and energy on taking care of their families.

Even if there are elderly people at home to help take care of the children, the education of the children has to come by themselves. The elderly can only help with housework, cooking and so on.

The treasure moms around me either go home to tell stories with their children at night, or help their children with their homework until late at night, and all the time when they come home from work is devoted to their children.

Therefore, during this period, women in the workplace still have pressure from their families.

3, the realization of self-worth

Besides work and family, women also have troubles from the realization of personal self-worth.

Especially when you are frustrated in your work, it is easy to fall into a sentimental or confused stage and feel that your value has not been reflected.

Everyone wants to do a job that they like, are good at and can make money, but few women meet such job requirements.

So, even if you have a fixed income every month, it's still like chewing yellow wax, just working for the sake of work, which is unbearable.

after 35, they hope to realize their self-worth and find some sense of accomplishment in their work and life.

when the peers around them have made remarkable achievements, the gap in their hearts will be even greater, and they are more eager to realize their self-worth and ideals.

In fact, everyone is eager to make some small achievements, have their own career and reflect their own values, instead of just being a small employee in obscurity.

The realization of self-worth and the embodiment of self-achievement have caused many women aged 35+to fall into anxiety.

Most working women, as they get older, will easily fall into a middle-aged crisis if they are not handled properly when they are faced with a broken job, family pressure and internal demands.

So, what can be done to avoid the middle-aged crisis?

2. What can we do in the face of the crisis of middle age?

1. Set goals

A person should have goals at all times.

Even at the age of 35, when you are under heavy pressure from work and life, you need to set a clear goal for yourself.

when facing the work, clearly plan what you want to achieve at work, instead of going with the flow.

If you abandon yourself and let it develop, the anxiety of 35 pairs will become a crisis of your 4-year-old, or even 45-year-old, and this crisis will be with you all your life.

Therefore, whether you continue to be promoted in your original post or change jobs, you should set a goal for yourself.

I have a senior sister, who is 42 years old this year. Four years ago, she was in charge, but she saw the trend and state of her future career development.

So, she is determined to change careers and decided to do English education for children.

She began to set personal goals and plan her personal time, and she used her spare time to learn the knowledge of children's psychology and English, which precipitated her knowledge and skills in changing careers.

Two years later, she still quit her job and started an English education and training institution in partnership.

in the two years of starting a business, I was very hard, often staying up late to work overtime, and even didn't have time to rest on weekends.

But she believes that a person who has suffered will always repay you in different forms.

After two years, the business of the organization has slowly improved, and her career is on the right track, and she can control her work and time with her children freely.

Moreover, she said that the psychology and English she had learned before can be used to educate her children.

so, it's a good harvest for both career and family.

So, even if we set a watershed for our age in the real workplace, as long as we have a clear goal and work hard, we can still reverse our success.

most of the time, our goals are not clear enough.

The more confused and confused we are, the more we need to calm down and think about what career goals we want to achieve.

only by setting clear career goals can we reach the other shore.

otherwise, there will be sailing boats in the sea without a course, drifting and not knowing where to go.

2. Keep learning

Besides setting goals, the most important thing is to keep learning.

No matter work or life, we are always in a state of change, and if we want to keep up with the rhythm of the times, we must keep learning so as not to lag behind others.

Penelope Fitzgerald said, "Everything you have learned will come in handy at some point in your life."

So, don't be afraid that what you have learned today is useless. It will definitely come in handy one day.

every step we take will count.

After the age of 35, many women in the workplace will pay attention to their family and neglect their study time.

This is just wrong. In order to avoid encountering career bottlenecks, we should take time out to keep ourselves focused on our studies.

You can keep learning, whether you are studying the professional knowledge of the job itself, or researching your qualifications, or things you like.

because you don't know that these things will help you one day.

I have a friend who has worked in an enterprise for five years, with a mediocre salary and a mediocre position, but fortunately, the company has better welfare and a yoga and fitness and entertainment department.

My friend also joined the yoga club and kept studying and practicing with the teacher every week.

Later, I gradually improved my skills and became more and more interested. I also took a private yoga class outside and got a yoga certificate.

Finally, at the age of 35, I resolutely quit my job in the company and started a yoga studio with my friends.

In fact, when she first studied yoga, she didn't think she would be a yoga instructor, but she also dug up this career information from her interests and hobbies.

if you are over 35 years old, you must meet two conditions if you want to change jobs or transform.

one is to have professional knowledge and skills that are common in the industry, and the other is to accumulate solid experience and skills as a leader.

If you don't have the latter, then study the first one in a down-to-earth manner, and make these knowledge and skills become tools and means for you to make a living.

So, many times, when we are confused and don't know what to do, we must keep learning, and learning will definitely take you out of the confused area.

3. Maintain self-discipline

When people reach middle age, the biggest problem is that their bodies can't keep up with their mental energy.

Even if you want to do something very much, sometimes you will be very tired and lack of energy.

especially after 4 years old, this situation is more obvious.

Therefore, for women, on the premise that both work and family need themselves, only by maintaining enough energy can they better work and take care of their families.

and the early stage of having sufficient energy must be to maintain self-discipline.

In terms of exercise, you must set yourself a fixed exercise time every week, and keep a certain amount of exercise even no matter how busy your work and trivial your life are.

Many people are too lazy to exercise because they are very tired from work, and feel that sleeping and lying down can restore their energy.

actually, the best way to maintain and restore energy is to exercise.

Because during exercise, the human body's oxygen consumption and energy consumption will increase, the blood circulation speed will increase, and the oxygen and glucose in the blood will increase, and the brain needs oxygen and glucose for its operation, which makes the brain's metabolism accelerate.

especially aerobic exercise, the effect will be better.

So, make an exercise plan for yourself and get yourself moving.

Secondly, don't stay up late. After a busy day's work, many precious mothers go home at night and finish their children's work, so they start to brush their mobile phones in bed and stay up late.

For women, sleep is not only a beauty treatment, but also a rest for our tired body after a day's work. Getting up early the next day is not so painful, and we are energetic at work.

So, make an alarm clock time for yourself, when to do what kind of things, and don't waste time on some useless things.

In fact, a self-disciplined person will have a greater chance of success in doing anything than a non-disciplined person, and he can overcome any difficulties.

When people reach middle age, maintaining self-discipline means having a good physical state and mental state to face work and life.

4, adjust the mentality

After the age of 35, the workplace is no longer like when I was in my twenties. When I was wronged, I wanted to escape. When I met unreasonable demands, I wanted to resign.

In the workplace, we may be depressed, we may not get the expected position or salary, and there is a difference between us and our peers or those who are backward in the company, but don't be anxious or anxious.

we accomplish our goal step by step according to our own plan, and we are not in a hurry.

at the same time, we should also admit the current situation and practical problems, otherwise we will only get ourselves into anxiety.

At this age, the gap between peers has widened, or I am inferior to others.

But there are many criteria to measure a person's success, mainly depending on how you look at success yourself.

Family harmony and happiness, family health, these are also a kind of happiness, not the level of position, salary, wealth is the only yardstick to measure success.

So, when there is a gap between us and the people around us, we should try our best to adjust our mentality and do what we should do now.

in short, everyone has different goals, different goals and different abilities.

The goals we set must be based on our ability, so that we won't fail to achieve them, and we won't be lost or depressed because we fail to achieve them.

Besides, we may encounter all kinds of difficulties when we reach middle age, and only a positive and optimistic attitude can overcome this hurdle.

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