I'm busy, but you're not qualified.

? A few days ago in Weibo, I got such a dynamic: Why do some people suddenly become indifferent when chatting well? One of the comments with the highest praise is: Maybe I saw the photo! Can't help but make people snow.

? Read the following comments carefully: her ex-boyfriend came back to find her; Because suddenly someone who is easier to talk to came; You have been released ... for every reason, people have to laugh. After laughing, I feel inexplicably sad in my mind, as if I have experienced a lot of such things. In fact, most people will have such an experience: obviously, the chat is ok, why did you suddenly break contact? Or you try your best to ask someone out to eat, but others have various reasons to refuse. In the end, he and others go to see the sea, climb mountains, and go on vacation ... No one else is busy, but you are not qualified.

? What is the "grid" here? It is the most basic bottom line for you to get along with others. What is the bottom line is a passport to communicate with others with your character. In this era of network flooding, for a stranger, most people chat and ask for photos, or you send a voice to others. If you don't like it, the chances of you having the following are very small. You see, you don't have any qualifications. Why should others give you a chance?

? Some time ago, I hooked up with a cute girl on social software. At first, I chatted with her very well. Every day, I took the initiative to talk to her, made an appointment with her to watch the sunrise together, and also made an appointment to watch a movie. Even if I was a netizen, the feeling of chatting was good. The day when I made an appointment to go to the seaside was getting closer and closer. I still used to chatting with her as usual until she suddenly asked me, "Why are you so free?" Don't you think it's annoying? " This face turned a little hysterical, and I didn't realize it. This girl who talked very well caught me off guard because of his careless words. Later, she always used her busy time to shirk the opportunity to chat with me. I knew that she had just resigned, so I also wanted to take the opportunity to find a free time to go out for fun. Just yesterday, her friend updated and went to Guangzhou to play with a boy. In the photo, she smiled sweeter than flowers, and I happened to know this boy. This time, I didn't ask her anything. Some things don't have to be said. It doesn't matter whether I guessed right or not. You're not busy, but I'm not qualified.

? My friend Komatsu interviewed a state-owned enterprise during the winter vacation. Manager Li told him to go back and wait for three days after interviewing Komatsu. If he passed the initial test, he would enter the second interview. Three days later, Komatsu called Manager Li, and Manager Li told Komatsu that she had something to deal with. She waited for two days to tell her the interview result. Two days later, Komatsu called again and got the same reply. After waiting for a week, Manager Li's phone couldn't get through. Later, Komatsu learned from his uncle that his interview was unsuccessful. His uncle, as the director of the company, wanted to pull Komatsu in through some connections, but several other interviewers liked Zhao Jin, who graduated from 985 college, and thought he was more suitable for this position. Manager Li didn't want Komatsu to interview, so he waited for a few days to try to let him pass the initial test. Later, Manager Li couldn't convince other interviewers, so he had to. It turns out that Komatsu's experience in all aspects is not as good as that of Zhao Jin. The reason why Manager Li wants Komatsu to pass the initial test is because Manager Li is entrusted by Uncle Komatsu to give him a hand.

You see, when others don't want to talk to you, a word "busy" solves everything, but are others really that busy? This reminds me of the day when I was just looking for a job on the eve of graduation. I knew Xiao Ye had a wide range of people and wanted to find a suitable job through him, so I became close to him for a while and tried my best to get him to recommend a job that was more suitable for me. It's getting closer and closer to the campus job fair. I want to find a job before the job fair, but Xiao Ye keeps using his busyness to shirk and ask him to meet him. He either says he's on a business trip, or he works overtime, and he doesn't send messages back, and he doesn't answer the phone. However, he was online three minutes ago in a social software, and I made five phone calls, thinking about giving up. Later, he finally agreed to call back and said that he just got off work, without a word of embarrassment. He hung up the phone with the bad reason of poor signal. In fact, he didn't have to call back specifically to emphasize that he had just left work. The distance displayed on social software was not where he went to work at all. Only when he deceived himself would he feel particularly stupid. He was not busy, but I was not qualified. Xiaoye knows that even if she introduces me to the job, my current ability may fall short even if I take over. It is hard to sayno. Why? It's easy to hurt each other's feelings and trust, and it's better to procrastinate than to deny it.

? We often say that we should be with excellent people, but on the other hand, why should excellent people be with you? Is it because you want to be beautiful? In fact, this kind of thing is not so complicated. A word "busy" can get rid of many things, such as "I'm not available" and "next time". There are so many "no time" and so many "next times". There are only two reasons for this: one is really busy, and the other is just an excuse to be busy. If it is really an excuse, we can easily feel it. At this time, Either be conscious and know your own position, and others don't want to come out because they are not good enough or don't like each other? Set out to change the current situation ... Except for debt collection, if a "good friend" doesn't reply to you for three days, there is no need to look for him again. Your position in his heart is just that, even less than a stranger's words of caring and attentive, which requires so many "why", a crumpled piece of paper can't be smoothed, and a flawed relationship can't be restored to its original state.

? Cai Kangyong said: At the age of 15, I found it difficult to swim, so I gave up swimming. At the age of 18, I met someone you like and asked you to swim, so you had to say, "I won't." At the age of 18, I found English difficult, so I gave up English. At the age of 28, there was a great job that required English, so you had to say, "I can't." The more troublesome you are in the early life, the more lazy you are to learn, and the more likely you are to miss the people and things that interest you and the new scenery later. Excuses are like taking drugs. Once you have them, you will have them twice. These excuses that you can't even refuse are the reason why you are becoming mediocre. After all, whoever is wrong should pay the bill. Time is the fairest and most unfair judge. It is 24 hours for everyone, but it is not 24 hours for everyone. Some people make full use of these 24 hours, such is Xiao Zhou, who has just been promoted to super daddy. As the leader of the company, he arranges the contents of meetings for the employees of the company every day, analyzes the advantages and disadvantages of the company, arranges customers every afternoon, and must come back to accompany his wife and children before six o'clock. It seems that this is nothing serious, but I later learned that during the rising period of his career, he has published five economics books and was admitted to IELTS. Every night, I will spare about an hour to accompany my children and teach them to express all kinds of things in English when they are only two and a half years old ... According to my friends, he is rarely absent from the party with his old classmates, and he is still free and independent after marriage. Work, life and entertainment are never confused. "Busy is defined by myself, and work is work after all. How can it be confused with things other than work? If I really want to be busy, then I will push everything away in my life. A word "busy" can solve many things, but there will be more such things waiting for you to solve with this word.

? Therefore, when you encounter similar things, don't blame others for your dissatisfaction, and find reasons from yourself.