Lovers always cheat me. What do you mean?

Lovers always cheat me. What do you mean?

Lovers always cheat me. What does this mean? Love is a beautiful thing. Love can make people feel full of water, forget their troubles and make them cry. So no one can define what love is, so today we will talk about what it means that lovers always lie to me.

Lovers always cheat me. What do you mean? 1 Extramarital affairs are doomed to be short-lived, because extramarital affairs are inherently impure. People who have extramarital affairs cannot escape from three reasons: emotional needs, sexual desire and interest pursuit. Of course, these are three internal motives. These three motives may also be mixed. On the surface, it is likely to show emotional needs, but the real motivation is the other two.

Because extramarital affairs are often disguised as feelings, in the form of externalization, lovers often demand psychological and emotional purity, seek a new marriage or pay for each other.

The most typical situation is that one party seeks a long-term relationship between two people, even marriage, but the other party only wants to pay a limited amount, or just wants to have sex, not feelings. Therefore, it is difficult for extramarital affairs to achieve consistent goals and requirements. "It's true when it's fake, not because there's something there."

This is an unspeakable state of many extramarital affairs. Moreover, extramarital affairs often survive in darkness and cracks, and they are doomed to have a sense of suffocation in addition to reckless pleasure. Too tired, too tired to suffocate, doomed the extramarital affair to be difficult to last. Extramarital affairs that focus on the pursuit of excitement will often be boring if you can't get married soon. It's only a matter of time before it collapses.

It is precisely because extramarital affairs often exist in darkness and cracks that the relationship between extramarital affairs becomes strange and inexplicable. For example, both sides have their own families, relatives and friends, which are all in the light. But the secret admirer is doomed to be subject to various relationships in this light. For example, if an extramarital lover wants to date, he has to find a way to create a dark side or a gap between time and space, which is the nature of cheating.

In fact, this relationship between light and shade also affects the psychology of lovers. The most common external manifestation is that there are some things that you don't know, but are implied. Of course, this hint is sometimes an emotional expression, and sometimes it is also a temptation to advance and retreat freely, even deceptive or misleading. But at that time, some words seemed to be full of romantic poetry. When these words are drained by time, they are finally found to be a pile of deceptive garbage. If you don't believe me, please see:

If you are sincere to me, I will do anything for you!

This sentence comes from the mouth of a lover and has several meanings. First, you are not sincere enough to me, and I am not satisfied with what you have paid. Second, it is unreasonable for you to ask me how I feel, because you are not sincere. Third, I pay on the premise that you must pay sincerely. But usually, some lovers, hearing each other's words, will think it is a promise to him. Only when you are sincere, the other party will really pay for yourself and even marry him after divorce.

Finally, I found that this sentence can advance and retreat. Is to ask you to pay more, and then at the critical moment, give you the prevarication: because you are not completely sincere, don't blame me for shrinking. The ambiguous feelings of the lover when he said this sentence, and the sharp contrast with the cold ending, will make people feel that extramarital affairs are a sword that hurts people.

Second, when lovers talk about feelings, money is nothing!

There is a particularly interesting phenomenon, and there is a rule that someone tells you when something happens. It's not a question of money. Nine times out of ten, it's about money. In other words, what your lover tells you is emotional problems, not money. Often it doesn't mean that I have to pay more emotion to you. In front of you, I have no intention of paying. The other person's intention is probably to let you talk about her feelings, and if you spend money on her, you must treat money like dirt.

People who really care about feelings and money will never use such words to enlighten you, but do less or not. Women cheat men to infatuation, and men often put love first, and will be generous to women in money, even at the expense of corruption, to pay off the debt of this love. Of course, there will be no good fruit to eat in the end. Excuse me: money is really nothing, but life is really important!

Third, I didn't expect you to be too selfish, which really disappointed me!

People who blame each other for being selfish are often dissatisfied with their own selfishness. Between lovers, selfish and anti-selfish questioning is often selfish. Between lovers who really have feelings, they often regard giving as happiness and think more about each other. This situation is very common in a happy marriage. Extramarital affairs are difficult to do.

Because extramarital affairs often have psychological barriers, they don't really rely on lovers for a lifetime, so there will be more choices in giving. In addition, impure emotions make the contribution more limited. If it is not to please each other, or to take what you want first, you must give it first. There are not many lovers who are selfless in extramarital affairs.

Limited remuneration is often the key to conflicts between lovers. Because lovers sometimes come for the benefit, which intensifies the psychological balance between giving and getting. The gains and losses of this kind of interest are often linked to whether there are feelings, which makes the feelings in extramarital affairs a bait for fishing and makes extramarital affairs a shameful act.

I gave you everything. Isn't that enough?

Anger of extramarital affairs is a common behavior. For example, jealousy, even if you don't really love each other, is often jealous when the other person shows intimacy to the other opposite sex. Why? First, because the extramarital relationship itself is a kind of derailment, it is extremely sensitive to derailment again. Second, because of possessiveness, I feel that my privileges are occupied, so I am angry.

In extramarital affairs, the party who doesn't really love or want to marry the other party often doesn't directly express that I love you or promise to marry someone else. On the one hand, he is afraid that this kind of commitment and confession will make him have no choice but to tell the truth, and he is afraid that the contradiction will intensify immediately and bring bad consequences to himself.

Therefore, we often take the middle road and use ambiguous words or substitutes to make the other party misunderstand and achieve psychological balance. Through the communication with many consultants, I found that many people who were cheated attributed their final breakup to some objective reason. In fact, this is the effect of love cunning. Don't drop words at critical moments, don't intensify contradictions, and then find opportunities to let yourself have nothing to say, preferring to quit automatically.

I really want to fly away with you and enjoy romance in a deserted place!

At the beginning of extramarital affairs, this sentence can easily capture each other's hearts. When the relationship between lovers reaches a certain level, saying this sentence often makes lovers feel warm and romantic. But in this sentence, it implies a special meaning. In other words, our emotions actually have no way out. It's just too romantic and unrealistic to want to be together for a long time or really.

Because lovers seek survival in darkness and cracks, have no place in the bright world, and are afraid of the cruelty of reality, they have such an overly romantic vision and sentiment. If rational people are not tempted by extramarital affairs, then only restless and irrational people will fall into extramarital affairs and eventually return to a normal life covered with scars, or stay in pain, or never come back in a broken reality.

Lovers always lie to me. What do you mean? 2. Expose three routines for husbands to cheat their lovers.

First, when he was in love, he lied when he was chasing you.

The betrayed husband lied because he wanted to continue his extramarital affairs. He wants to maintain this marriage, and he wants to maintain his value as a man.

In an extramarital relationship, you are obsessed with whether he is telling lies or telling the truth. Are you tired?

Because extramarital love itself is a thing that needs to be lied.

Many times, there is no need to lie about extramarital affairs. For example, if you meet a girl and you think she is beautiful, you say "you are beautiful and I like you very much", which is not a lie, but your pursuit of her.

Then, the other person may ask, "Are you married or single?"

First reaction: Your first reaction is that I am single, which is a direct lie, "I am single, so I like you".

The second reaction: You ask her directly, "Do you think I am single or married?"

Women will shoot such a man to death when he replies. He is married.

Many men flirt with women just to arouse her curiosity. Curiosity kills the cat is a woman's favorite.

When he asks this question, you will wonder whether he is married or unmarried.

If a person pesters you on such a question, you kill him.

The third reaction: He told you "I am married" directly. On the surface, it seems that he is not lying.

You will say, "Now that you are married, how can you pursue me? You can't pursue me, I will refuse your pursuit. "

He will tell you, "I don't have a good relationship with my wife."

Who, after marriage, will say that life is particularly happy and there are no distractions? It's impossible, I can't concentrate. Sometimes I see beautiful girls, "Wow! "So beautiful, beautiful things who don't want to get.

The first reaction is, can you think of it? The second reaction is to get what she wants. Do I deserve her?

You are not qualified to quit directly. People like us have an extramarital affair, which directly destroys our careers, unless we don't want to.

Whether a person betrays or not is related to whether anyone can restrain him and what is restraining him.

When he tells you that they don't have a good relationship, we often say, "If you don't have a good relationship, then divorce."

He also said that he would not divorce, indicating that his marriage can still satisfy him. As an unmarried girl, why do you accept his pursuit? Of course, your first reaction is to refuse.

Then, you were confused by his sincere pursuit, and you forgot that he was married.

He asked you out once, but he never asked you out. He asked you out two or three times, but he couldn't ask you out for a month. He can't ask you out in two months, nor can he ask you out in two months for a year or so.

I was tutoring a client, and a married man chased her for three years and finally got rid of her.

You have your own emotional desires, so he can handle you.

When you were in love, he had to lie in the process of pursuing you, so why did you listen to him lie so beautifully? Turn to the second aspect.

Second, you two lied when you were in love.

When you were in love, he had a family, didn't you notice?

Obviously you can detect it, even if they are in a long-distance relationship, you can also detect it, but you have a halo effect or a pregnant woman effect in love.

You just saw that he loved you, didn't see him not answering his phone in front of you, didn't see him not calling you at night, didn't see that there was something wrong with your information after he left you, and you didn't see anything.

A man in his forties and fifties tells you that he is single. Shouldn't you doubt it? What do you believe in him?

Many people will say, "I don't care anyway, I love him, and I believe everything he says." You believe it yourself.

The [lover] I tutored the other day, she firmly believed that a married man just loved her and didn't love his wife, and the married man had clearly told her, "I want to return to my family."

You firmly believe that you are choosing what is good for you. He talked with you for a year, two years and three years. Don't you think it strange that he just won't talk to you about marriage or meet his parents?

Don't you think it's strange that he will tell you "I love you, I can't part with you, I love my wife too, or I can't divorce my wife"? He said such a thing and you believed it.

Why would you believe that? Teacher Zhu won't believe it.

Teacher Zhu's logic is that since you say you can't divorce, it means that this marriage is valuable to you. You said your wife won't divorce, which means you won't divorce either. Marriage can't be divorced, and it's not up to one person.

Since you think this marriage is meaningless, you will choose to leave this marriage, and you can't leave this marriage, which shows that this marriage is valuable to you and conforms to your intrinsic value.

Marriage must be valuable so as not to collapse.

Here you say that you have no feelings for your wife, but the marriage will continue. There you tell your lover that I want to be with you and love you all my life. You're talking nonsense.

I often tell my lover that it is true that he wants to be with you, and he wants you to be his lover for life.

The way men think is simple. It is best that all the women on the earth are used by him and will be used by him for a lifetime. If there is no burden, it is a lifetime.

He talked about several relationships. He and his wife were impulsive, too. He is married and has children. He can't stay with his wife forever. Can he accompany you for life?

Third, after the extramarital affair is exposed, lies are produced.

The extramarital affair has been exposed, and he is faced with the choice of marriage or extramarital affair. Finally, he chose to get married.

"My wife called and I'm going home." "My wife wants me to break up with you." But he continued to contact you secretly and told you, "I love you, I can't bear to part with you, and I can't live without you."

Why do you still believe what he said?

You have been having an affair with him for so long, and the sunk cost is too great to be recovered.

You have an emotional attachment to him, and you won't break it easily. You have also been greatly satisfied with your emotional attachment.

Married men have an affair, and everything they say is nonsense.

Nonsense is to coax you, nonsense is to intimidate you, nonsense is to create a link with you, nonsense is not to cash, nonsense is a blank check, nonsense has the least pressure on him, and nonsense is most beneficial to him.

He can control his wife and his girlfriend through nonsense, and these words are what you want to hear, and so are his wife and girlfriend.

Lovers always lie to me. What do you mean? Why do many women lie to men repeatedly for a long time?

1, the result doomed by requirements.

There is a classic saying in Mao Mu's works:

"Why do many women, will be repeatedly cheated by men for a long time? Because of their demands, only scammers can satisfy them, and normal people can't. "

It can be said that it hit the nail on the head.

The types they like and the requirements for choosing a spouse always revolve around romance, interest, handsomeness, warmth, loyalty and affection. Obviously, only swindlers can meet these requirements and can meet their requirements through disguise (half-truth and half-falsehood).

The internal content needs to be confirmed in-depth understanding. Therefore, the reason for being cheated repeatedly is the disguise of a liar and the self-fantasy of a woman. Through his wealth, leisure, romantic taste, handsome and warm heart, through subjective inference and generalization, he will unconsciously form a beautiful and complete impression.

With in-depth understanding, the liar will become more and more indifferent after getting her, and will really see what kind of person he has met.

And a good man always feels boring. Even if the inner quality of a good man is what he needs, the external attraction is often not enough, and then he misses it in hesitation and consideration.

What kind of person will you be attracted by what you pursue?

2. "I am good to you" is a lie.

If I can't give you a family, a future or money, what can I do to impress you? To get close to you? To gain your trust? There is only one way to go, and that is to pay for you very cheaply and at low cost.

I can't give you anything, and I won't be nice to you again. It doesn't make sense.

However, many women are always easily impressed by these low-cost efforts. I don't know that "I am good to you" is a lie. When a man's hormones break out, there is no reason to be bad to you.

So what we really want to see is each other's talk, mood, knowledge, vision, and most importantly, how to cope with the changes in life and the way to maintain social relations.

Beware of those who can give you nothing but kindness.

What kind of person is the most worthy of love? Wuyue said this view:

"I think whether men or women, there is a kind of person who must be worthy of love, and that is an honest man. If a person can be honest, then many things are possible. If he dares to be honest, he dares to be responsible. He will not be too selfish or too narrow-minded. "

But the problem is that a woman doesn't look at a lot of inner things at all, only looks at whether he is good to himself or not, and judges everything by this.

3. Disappointment is rampant.

They don't know love, don't know what true love is, and always let emotions flood. When the passion strikes, they fall in love, and when the passion disappears, they doubt it. So after the passion disappeared, they gradually found that he was not as beautiful as expected, and they were disappointed and thought they had been cheated.

The less I know about love, the more I like fooling around with different lovers and looking for love. In this way, you will repeatedly feel cheated and confused about love.

The meaning is simple.

When the passion comes up, she thinks he is cute, and then she will love him, but when the passion disappears, she will never discover his cuteness, or when he becomes less cute than before, she will be disappointed.

It can be seen that true love is a kind of tolerance.

I won't lose my appreciation of the advantages as the shortcomings are exposed. Even if the passion fades, I can still appreciate your strengths and tolerate your weaknesses.

No one can meet all your presuppositions. You always idealize everything, and finally one day your ideal is shattered by reality, and then you feel cheated.

As long as you observe carefully, you will find that this kind of thing is not due to bad luck. Love rat likes to cast a wide net. You are cheated because you will be cheated. Obviously being cheated is not a problem, but why.

Don't be blinded by those cheap efforts, deliberate camouflage and deliberate obedience. Really reliable things need to be observed, and they have to pass the test of time and the scrutiny of years, leaving the most authentic things.

The more people you feel impeccable, the more you should be careful and do everything perfectly, because the other person is smarter than you and handles everything before you.

The truest person is a flawed person, and the truest thing is an imperfect thing. What kind of person you want, you will meet, because only such a person can meet your requirements, and the other way to pursue will always experience some temptations and tests, depending on whether you have judgment and know how to judge.