What kind of man can stand out and accomplish great things?

Sometimes, a person will appear. If he had been born a few years earlier or a few years later, he might have become an outstanding leader with world status.

This is Richard. What Nixon said. What he said may not be the truth, but at least it is a fact. In life, we face countless choices. But often some people seize the opportunity and succeed in career or life. In that case, their choice is "right"; while other people are also very smart and hard-working, but due to various reasons, their choice fails.

The "opposite side" is gone, and life begins to spiral downward. Here, no one, not even the wisest person, can say that he or she has experience to learn from and follow when choosing the direction to walk on the crossroads. Richard. So did Nixon.

Choice is an objective part, and choice is also a subjective part.

The eleven choices in history

King or beauty: A man who was supposed to inherit the throne suddenly fell in love with a woman, and he had to make a choice. In the end, he didn't want the throne and resolutely chose beauty. Yes, there may be a less outstanding king missing in history, but there is an extra legendary story. He is the Duke of Windsor.

Survival or destruction: This is the biggest dilemma that Hamlet, Prince of Denmark, faces when he avenges his father. On the one hand, his father asked him to tell the truth about the murder in his dream. On the other hand, revenge involves not only a powerful enemy, but also an alliance between his biological mother and his uncle. Therefore, what Hamlet has to choose is the proposition of life and death.

Love or Death (Chinese version): The love between Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai is a choice that must be made when facing different levels. In fact, both of them have a way out. The woman will marry the son of a noble of similar family status, and the man will return to the mountain village and continue to be his "silly goose". But love is so elusive, Liang Zhu would rather choose death and become a pair of male and female butterflies to continue their love story.

Youth or aging: Due to being disturbed by the devil, Dr. Faustus suddenly realized that in his study, the most urgent choice he faced was "time": youth disappears so quickly, and in the blink of an eye, aging has become entangled Come up. Faust is a man with weaknesses. His choice is "frustrating". He has made an agreement with the devil. What is the meaning of the youth exchanged in this way? What he finally realized was the endless sadness of being human.

Patriotism or freedom: In every period, people always have a choice: in the 1940s, patriotic young people flocked from the Kuomintang-controlled areas to the bright Yan'an; in 1949, when the People's Republic of China was founded, some people with complex mentality of people went to Taiwan or overseas; in 1997, when Hong Kong returned to China, many Hong Kong people faced the choice of staying or immigrating... The choice is a personal decision, but different choices will lead to different life paths.

Persistence or compromise: Julien, a young French man with a low status, relies on love to win over the mayor's wife De. With the support of Madame Renard and Mademoiselle Larmore, the daughter of the Marquis, he embarked on an official career. However, the nobles will not easily accept this "invasion". They join forces to push Yulian to a crossroads of destiny, allowing him to choose whether to stick to the most precious free spirit as a human being or become a member of the ruling class.

Love or Death (foreign version): The love between Juliet and Romeo is not only faced with the problem of breaking up or staying together, but as long as they love each other, there is only a dead end. This is a century-old feud between two opposing families that cannot be reconciled by the love of two young people alone. However, love cannot be given up and there is no turning back. Although a kind-hearted priest designed to help, Zhu Luo accepted the invitation of death without hesitation. journey of love.

To admit or to deny: The war maniac Hitler’s “blood theory” plan suddenly made millions of Jews face the same life-and-death choice: If you deny your Jewish identity, there is a chance of survival, but you have to admit it Entering Auschwitz. However, what is shocking is that the Jews responded calmly when faced with powerful enemies: I am a Jew.

To go to the countryside or to stay in the city: This was a collective choice faced by China’s educated youth in the 1970s, and it was an ideological issue. The same "history" is repeated in the early 1980s, or is the choice of these young people who are no longer young more painful: continue to endure the tricks of fate with their wives and children in the countryside, or return to their unfamiliar city homes?

Reality or virtuality: The arrival of the "e" era has opened another window for people living in real life: Should we maintain the status quo of reality, or enter the virtual space and become a "CEO"?

Change or nostalgia: Suddenly a new fashion is coming, and "very" individual people appear on the streets of China - people called "new human beings" who dye their hair, dress up in trendy styles, and like extremes Sports and leading the trend of fashionable life, focusing on spiritual pleasure, in short, very cool. This is a new temperament in the new century, and it has formed a new force that cannot be easily rejected.

So, the question is before us, change the "old self" and suddenly integrate into this "cool" era, or keep oneself while watching the trend indifferently, and use "old photos" and "close to nature" to reminisce?

Choice——

12 factors that determine the destiny of life

1. Opportunity: It stands to reason that it is always around people’s daily lives. Just like everyone’s breath, it fills the space and time coordinate system of life. It is a flash of lightning and a stream that flows all year round. However, it is indeed a very subtle thing. Although it exists and although it stares, it will not speak easily or take the initiative to find anyone.

2. Appearance: It is the most direct business card of a person, and there are many innate factors. Temperament itself is not good or bad, it just reflects people's differences in psychological components such as sensitivity, tolerance, responsiveness, behavioral plasticity, emotional excitability, extroversion and introversion. Temperament does not determine a person's social value, but it affects the way a person does things. If you choose appearance, it is better to understand and grasp your own temperament, so as to better shape yourself. Appearance is the first mirror of a person.

3. Personality: Ten thousand people have more than ten thousand personalities. That is because some people have dual or multiple personalities. Your choice of personality is rather a "transformation" of yourself. Personality is a double-edged sword.

4. Environment: This is a forest, you will often struggle in it; this is a sea, you will drown if you are not careful; this is a maze, you will get lost in it, wandering repeatedly , unable to find the right direction, my whole life passed like this. No one wins the battle against it; your choice of environment is rather your adaptation to it. The environment is a huge existence.

5. Time: It is a river that can wash away and smooth the edges and corners of people and objects. It is not linear, it is curved, embracing people's weaknesses, ignorance, pride and impulses one by one. It has no fixed direction. If you work hard in one direction, you will find that there is not much gain and your life will be wasted. The coordinate system on the left is history and the right is the future. Your choice of time is rather a deep understanding of it. Time always brings endless sorrow and regret to people.

6. Dream: It is too huge and often lurks in people's minds and hearts. It is very greedy and desperately asks its owner to get this or that, just like a huge beast. After all, it is an initial driving force that promotes the take-off of mankind, the development of science and technology, and the progress of civilization. It is winged, sometimes light, sometimes crazy, but definitely not hedonistic. It is closely tied to its owner, but keeps asking him to realize himself quickly, just like a speeding carriage, the owner pulls the carriage and dreams of sitting on it. Your choice of your dream is rather a desperate and desperate resistance to it. Dreams is an “age-specific” psychedelic drug.

7. Language: Its life lies in who uses, develops and embodies it well. Few people understand that it is alive, that it can grieve, make cries of joy, and bleed if you forcibly "combine" it and "ravage" it. So treating language well means respecting human beings themselves. Words are powerful and when used correctly they can be more powerful than an army. If you say that your choice of language is better to say that you live with it with a kind of compassionate respect. Language is an art above the abyss of life.

8. Behavior: This is too tendentious and is a behavior controlled by the brain. It can tend towards a goal and ultimately produce a strong effect. It is an affirmation and support for the movement. It has two possibilities: positive force and counter-force. With its efforts, it will turn the nihility of "dreams" into reality. It will also encourage blind action to become recklessism. Therefore, behavior must have a self-controlled direction. If you choose a behavior, it is better to say it is a clear understanding and decision-making about it. The best policy is to act inaction and do nothing.

9. Educational qualifications: It is the lubricant for a person to move forward, making a kind of self-confidence reasonable and more confident. Generally speaking, the higher the academic qualifications, the higher the academic level. Likewise, the longer the person is separated from society. For people with huge minds, it is just a piece of paper that proves that they have been traveling with civilization for a period of time. Other than that, it proves nothing. Then, compared with this era where "talented people" emerge in endlessly, using it to understand people's superficial layers can save a lot of time. If you choose academic qualifications, it makes more sense to use it to bribe people who lack judgment. Educational qualifications are a sign that floats on the surface of life.

10. Background: This is a very deep thing, it is dynamic and has a dark blue or light gray color, close to the distant sky and history. It is often ambiguously connected to the present of the same person and cannot be severed. However, it cannot completely replace and prove "all" the person. It can make you happy or it can destroy you. For this reason, generally a strong person does not use it as a base point, but can make full use of it. It makes more sense to say that you choose a background than to let it "just be". The background is a fractured "text".

11. History: It is a voice from the deep valley, which always allows people to hold on to their scaly claws, some flashes of thought, broken thoughts, witty words, etc. It trailed a long shadow and looked a bit ferocious.

You can only maintain a distant relationship with it. Once you believe in it, you will get lost in it. If you choose history, let it serve as a mirror that reflects the current situation. History can dissect a person’s image and dismantle an “I”.

12. Others: various factors forgotten above.

Eight weapons for getting ahead

1. If you have competitions, you must attend, and if you have tests, you must take exams: If you are not amazingly good-looking, then don’t expect to see anyone walking on the road. Throw an opportunity to you, and from now on the sparrow will become a phoenix. Generations from shortcut.

Gao Yiping, the current host of Taiwan's popular column "Extraordinary Men and Women", first entered the entertainment industry by participating in various new talent competitions, and then stepped out step by step; the now popular Xu Ruoxuan was a member of the girl team back then... In short, there is a long way to go. You have to keep a normal mind and become a diligent, diligent and diligent person, so that you will have a great weapon to win.

2. One skill at a time: This means that you must work hard on your skills every day. No matter how leisurely and fun others are, you cannot relax or become discouraged. You can humbly worship experienced or successful people as teachers and learn from other people's experiences to enrich yourself, or you can find a school to recharge yourself in a down-to-earth manner. With a special skill, you will have the opportunity to make a choice, and the balance of luck will tilt towards you little by little.

Forty-year-old salesman Dick Cowboy became a famous singer; Feng Xiaoning, an ordinary foundry worker at Yanshan Petrochemical Company, became a famous film director; Feng Xiaogang, who was pulled out of a trolley at the Beijing Film Studio, was even more talented. , they are the best examples.

3. Looking for relationships: It sounds a bit awkward. Most people will say, can I not believe in my abilities? In fact, in the face of reality, this is a "channel" that gets twice the result with half the effort. Besides, in terms of human nature, it has been said since ancient times that "internal promotions always do not avoid relatives." If you have a person who plays an important role in a certain field, it is almost a piece of cake for you to "become famous" in that field. Therefore, if you have connections, you have to find them, and if you have relatives and friends, you have to make full use of them. When you knock on the other person's door or call him, it means the beginning of the choice.

4. Self-recommendation: Self-recommendation is the most direct way, but it is also the easiest way to die on the front line. Because a thousand-mile horse will meet Bole after running thousands of miles. If you have the spirit of being defeated repeatedly and becoming more courageous the more you lose, you should boldly choose this "brave" game. Although this choice is a bit awkward and laborious, it is very practical.

5. Try your best to imitate: Imitation is very painful for any young person with great ideals, but it is also the most convenient way to get started. Choosing to imitate means that you must first give up your "real body", and through various imitations, let others cheer for the imitator. In this way, you can also make others pay attention and talk about him. He is XXX. Grit your teeth and endure it, this choice is part of the purgatory you must go through.

6. A sparrow turns into a phoenix: This means that you completely package yourself, from your name to your origin, from your background to your residence, from your clothes to your makeup, from your voice to your smile... in a word If you are no longer the same person, although you are hiding your clumsiness and revealing your cleverness, it is almost a painful choice, waving goodbye to the beautiful past and a complete self. You have to come out with a new look.

7. Become the protagonist: If you are given a chance, or if there is no chance, you must be able to "fight" to take the lead, make full use of your talents, and become the protagonist in various occasions and opportunities. Although such behavior will make you a target of public envy and scorn, there is no other solution. Every time you make such a choice, you will gain something. I just ask if you dare.

8. Creating scandals: It’s so effective, although in doing so you have to develop the iron shirt of “shameless” and learn to be proud of being shameless. In fact, such behavior is no longer "being a person", but "doing things".

Your choice will become addictive. Once you make it, there will be a second time, and again, it will be very difficult to go back.