Why do many parents not live their lives because of their children?

First of all, let's say this is a cultural heritage of China families. In our long history of thousands of years, countless families have come from generation to generation in this way. Our parents, our parents' parents, who do not regard the next generation as the hope and future of the family? In the continuous blood inheritance of this kind of incense, the sustenance is that the younger generation is strong, the descendants are developed, the family is long-term, and the family is prosperous.

For this long-term vision that the head can't be seen at a glance, parents are willing to give everything for their children, even live completely out of themselves, regardless of their abilities, and also want to help the next generation get married, have children and grandchildren, and continue again.

By my side, there are many parents who are still busy for their children until they are old. They spare no time when they should belong to themselves, chasing their grown-up children, burying their families, managing their lives, caring for their grandchildren, and carefully safeguarding an unhappy family.

Some parents spend everything for their children, buy a wedding room, give a bride price, and help with the decoration of their new home, just to take their son's wife into the house, without considering their own role and the crisis of the elderly life near sunset. It's all worthwhile!

There are also parents who are diligent like an old donkey, who take care of all their children's daily needs, constantly turn around their children all the year round, serve their children as ancestors for no reason, and cultivate neets who are unable to support themselves. It is so natural and comfortable to eat with their parents.

Oh, it's too much, but now I see more of those tragic lives that don't come from my old people. Some of them have sold their houses and have no fixed place to live, some have prematurely divided their property and become poor, some have lived a very hard life because of helping their children in need, some are reluctant to eat and wear, some are overworked and sick, and some have no choice but to live alone for life.

Looking at the younger generation again, they are also quietly changing.

In my opinion, parents should also update their ideas, so it's better to live well. Your children have done their best, so why not let them work hard to create their own personalized life? No matter how much you give, it may not be what they want, so there is no need to be sentimental! What we older generation should do most is to live ourselves, live with dignity, live happily and live brightly.

It should also be thought that no one can look down on the old people who are poor in debt for their children, and no one feels sorry for the old people who are sick from overworking their children. The humble and poor old people who live for their children will only be rejected, and the old people who rely on their children to support the elderly and die may not be able to accept you!

I hope all parents in the world can stand on their own feet and live a good life!

Because our historical and cultural tradition is that many parents spend their lives for their children, not for themselves, so it is normal not to live their lives. Of course, in the real society, it is not normal for many men and women to fall in love and not get married and not have children after marriage in order to live their own happiness. However, I have a good friend who wants to live himself and cultivate children's growth. At the same time, he took the time to tell his children what he had learned by telling stories. When I was chatting with my good friend, he said that we should cultivate children into wealth instead of leaving wealth to children. I feel very reasonable after listening to it. Of course, it will take many years to change the lofty concept of parents all over the world.

the self of Chinese culture lies in the inheritance of future generations! .

This is another small focus of cultural collision between the East and the West.

Respecting the old and caring for the young is one of the essences of China traditional culture. It is the parents' responsibility to support their children, and it is the children's obligation to provide for the elderly and show respect for filial piety. China people have been loyal to this fine traditional culture for thousands of years, which can also be said to be the foundation for the creation of ancient Chinese civilization and the endless development of Chinese people. From this, a kind wisdom root of being a man and doing things is generated. Make Chinese people more cohesive.

However, the westerners' selfish and self-serving ideology and culture take the pursuit of personal pleasure as the most important task, and using the words of the subject is to live the self. Therefore, the children are fed by sheep until the adults are independent, and most of the old people die alone.

comparing the two cultures, I think Chinese traditional culture is still an excellent culture suitable for human survival and development. For children's growth education, moral character is the most important thing, and then knowledge. We are superior to the West in these two points. Our children have formed a win-win model of kindness, hard work, unity, cooperation and sharing since childhood. The west advocates taking me as the center. Advocating individual heroism, the three views formed are selfishness first. As long as our old people can open their eyes, all they want is children. However, westerners can only think about heaven when they die alone.

Therefore, I think that our parents put aside themselves for the healthy growth of the next generation and do everything for their children, which is the inheritance of China's excellent traditional culture. It is an excellent culture conducive to the harmonious survival and development of mankind.

Children are the future of the motherland, the future of the family and the future of parents. Children are good parents, families are good, and the motherland is good. Parents' ego is to see their children have a bright future.

Share a sentence in the Buddhist scriptures, "The mind is free from obstacles, so there is no terror. Stay away from upside-down dreams, and nirvana will be achieved". Children are the biggest concern of parents, and naturally you can't do whatever you want with care!

1. Nature of animals.

2. Traditional culture of China.

firstly, it is parents' emotional instinct, and secondly, it is limited by traditional culture.

Because China's education has never been centered on living the self, parents' own parents are not living the self, but also living for us. The parent-child relationship in China is not equal and balanced, but vertical. Since parents can't do things themselves, and they don't live themselves, how can they educate children who live themselves? Unless it is easy to teach, out of China's environment.

I have a high school classmate whose family of three emigrated for the sake of their children. I have repeated countless words to him in China before. After going abroad for a few years, he has completely changed, because this is the general environment of foreign education concepts. Respect every life, even if he is only one year old, his parents can teach him, but he cannot be deprived of the right to do things by himself.

that doesn't seem right. Parents don't live from me, it's because of parents' ability, not because of children. Don't blame children, make excuses for yourself, and transfer the incompetence of adults to children.

It is true that parents will pay a lot for their children. From the financial, material and spiritual aspects, I have paid a lot. Parents who have no ability and low income will find it difficult to raise their children. Those parents who have the ability, status, knowledge and money will have no children. People are still living a wonderful life while raising children, working and learning. Guo Jingjing successfully retired after winning the Olympic champion, and has raised three children after marrying into a rich family. Isn't she living a wonderful life? Didn't she live herself?

a person who regards children as his own burden is just because he is incompetent. After Deng Wendi successfully married the rich, she gave birth to two children with frozen sperm, which shows the importance of children to human beings. Children are not only the inheritors of parents' genes, but also the spiritual inheritors of parents. Families with children will be happier because of children. A family without children is difficult to be stable, and children are the bond that keeps the family together.

If you have a hard life, look for reasons from yourself. In this world, there are only a few successful people, but most mediocre people. Don't use children as an excuse for your unsuccessful career. Children are not outstanding, and a large part of the reason is because parents are not successful.

So, we should learn to accept mediocrity and accept failure.