When a woman reaches middle age, these three signs indicate that her life has not been in vain! Which three?

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I read an article a long time ago. The protagonist was 66 years old and used to be the software director of a Fortune 500 company. She took the college entrance examination at the age of 31. Now a mother, she returned to school to study. Later, I met my destined partner at work, and the two of them went to the United States together.

From a part-time hourly job in a Chinese restaurant, to re-entering college, obtaining a graduate degree, and then entering a top-ranked large company in the United States, her life has reset and restarted again and again.

She quit her job at the age of 60 to live her own life. She climbs mountains, runs, dives, practices yoga, goes where she wants to go, and does what she wants to do. Today, at the age of 66, she looks better than her peers. Knowing how much younger she was, her life turned around.

Everything that was never tried when I was young can be accomplished in middle age or even when I am about to enter old age. She mentioned at the end of the article: "We can't stop the passage of time, but we can choose how to live, make every minute of our life wonderful, and not waste every wonderful time!"

Looking at her entire life, she can shout loudly: "My life has not been in vain!" So, can you, who is aging at a speed visible to the naked eye, bravely shout this sentence?

When a woman reaches middle age, there are actually several signs that indicate that her life has not been in vain.

The first sign is financial freedom! What is the current situation of women around us? The salary is lower than that of men, and when you have children, you don’t have to work, or you have to ask men for household expenses and child support fees. In the 21st century, it seems that most women still have not achieved financial freedom.

Mianmian is a good friend I met a long time ago. She is good at everything, but she likes to rely on men. She said that the person she liked also liked herself, and it was the other person who promised her that he would support her throughout her life.

Mianmian believed it to be true. After the two of them lived together, Mianmian quit her job and concentrated on "serving" her man at home. Two years later, the two got married. Mianmian thought that she could live like this for the rest of her life, and she also thought that if the other party made a promise, he would keep it in this life. But before the seven-year itch came around, Mianmian discovered that her husband's attitude had changed. 02

In that quarrel, my husband smashed everything in the house. Mianmian asked hysterically why. It was obviously you who knelt down to ask me to marry you, and it was you who said that I wanted to support you. My whole life, why have I always had this attitude, full of negative energy? I think I only enjoy happiness at home, and I think I am not as talented as others.

These are what Mianmian was thinking. She also screamed and questioned the man, but her husband said: "Who has any rules? I can't change my heart or fall in love with others in this life!"

Mianmian’s marriage ended after 7 years of marriage. Mianmian did not receive any benefit or preferential treatment. She did not work all year round and only received 100,000 yuan donated by her ex-husband.

Not only does she have no financial freedom, she has even lost her most basic ability to make money. For such a woman, if she does not change in the second half of her life, her life will be in vain. It will be even more difficult than that of a woman who relies on her family and men. 03

The second sign is a happy marriage! For women, what should middle age be like? I remember the boss of my previous company, her usual appearance was probably the way I envied middle-aged women.

Wang was 45 years old when his company was closed. They were in their prime, so their family chose to immigrate.

She moved to the United States with her two daughters, and her husband continued to work hard in China. The couple had a clear division of labor. Mr. Wang took care of the family and children, and the husband earned money to support the family.

Every time I see the rare reunion between Mr. Wang’s children and their father in Mr. Wang’s WeChat Moments, I can’t help but lament that such a family, such a relationship between husband and wife, if it were not really strong, would be so missed across the ocean. How can we defeat the distance?

Looking at the middle-aged women around us, what is their life like? They are surrounded by children and husbands, quarreling, getting angry to the point of vomiting blood every day, and there is always tension between them and their husbands. I have never tried to communicate, and I just yell when things happen... This kind of marriage, this kind of life, makes many middle-aged women feel that their life is really in vain!

Indeed, in a wonderful state, couples should be of the same mind even if they are not rich financially. Only when a husband and wife work together can they break through the metal, and the husband and wife playing the piano and singing in harmony should live a life that is not in vain. 04

The third sign is physical abundance! Think back to the middle-aged women around you, what are the words that come out of their mouths most frequently? Husband cheated? Husband is having a cold war? The child is disobedient? Not going well at work? When these words frequently appear in the mouths of middle-aged women, their minds are full of negative energy and lack positive and sunny energy, which means their lack of spiritual energy.

We all have our own ideals, and we all have things we really want to do. When did it start and did these disappear? The rest is all firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Perhaps, in countless quiet nights, many middle-aged women are thinking about these issues.

Looking at the first half of her life, she looked after her children when she was young, and looked after her grandchildren when she was old. It seems that a woman has been dealing with children, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea all her life, but she has only lost herself.

For middle-aged women, how can they find themselves and how can their life be lived in vain? In fact, it is these three points: financial freedom, happy marriage, and spiritual wealth!

In fact, every woman dreams of achieving these three points, and we are also working hard in this direction. Even if you fail to do so, you are still responsible for your own life on this road of continuous pursuit.

We don’t need to envy other people’s lives, but we shouldn’t give up and ruin our own lives casually. Everyone has the same reasons for living in this world. Only when we understand our own hearts and live clearly can we be considered complete.

A life is neither long nor short. Doing nothing is a lifetime, and pursuing hard is also a lifetime. Why waste your life on the road of regret? Love us and make love, do what we think, and work hard to achieve what we want to achieve, not limited to family, not limited to parents, not limited to children, not limited to firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, then we will not live up to ourselves.

I hope all middle-aged women can have their own world!