How do sisters maintain a good relationship for life?

How can a pair of sisters who are different in all aspects cultivate a lifelong good relationship from childhood? How did you get through the difficulties?

This is the true story of my sister and me. We have lived together for more than half a century. Let's see how a lifelong good relationship is established.

My sister has been very sweet since she was a child, and there are two dimples on her cheeks. She is the kind of girl who makes you soft when she smiles. Her skin is a favorite of heaven-white and red, fried to pieces, tender enough to pinch water. Her big eyes, clear double eyelids and soft upturned eyelashes are sometimes innocent and sometimes radiant. Her light chestnut hair, naturally slightly curly and soft, is often blown into various beautiful hairstyles by her skillful hands, which makes me stare enviously. Her legs are well-proportioned, and her calves and feet look particularly good in shoes, so she always likes to wear short skirts to show her beautiful legs. She has a good temper, too. She goes to the market to buy food and is always called. Besides, people think she is petite and lovely, and she is very kind to her. When her mother tried to beat her when she was a child, she was beaten on her knees.

My sister is black, thin and tall, with no dimples on her cheeks. My eyes are nearsighted. I don't know if I've seen too much. My eyes are prominent. One of her eyes has double eyelids, but the other one doesn't, but with or without double eyelids, it is covered by her straight eyelashes, so people see her slightly protruding eyeballs and can't see her eyes. Her hair is hard and thick, and she is not good at using a hair dryer. She wears watermelon skin hairstyle all year round. She has a bad temper. If someone asks her, "Where's your mother?" She gave him a nail and said, "I don't know, you won't find it yourself, will you?" If mom tries to hit her, she will run away. Once she gets into trouble. In the middle of the night, her mother wanted to hit her, so she ran to Clarification Lake. She was unwilling and wanted to jump into the lake to find fault.

Our sisters are different in appearance, height and personality. When I was a child, I thought that the two sisters should be the same.

On one occasion, my mother took out her unique skills and sewed a beautiful little dress for each of us. The design of two small dresses was high waist and two bows on the shoulders, which was very fashionable at that time.

My sister put on her pink plaid cotton dress, and she looked really cute and sweet. Everyone praised her. Sister, I put on my green tweed dress, and everyone was silent, and I felt ugly myself. Because my skin is dark, plus dark green soft close-fitting fabric, it is not fashionable, but a little awkward. Plus, my figure is thin, flat and tall. It looks like this dress is hanging on a bamboo pole like a rag. Because I am tall, my mother made my skirt a little longer, and it just fell on my strong calf, which made me look ugly. My heart was broken at that time, and I immediately burst into tears, blaming my mother for being eccentric. She did so well for her sister that nothing she gave me was good. I remember my sister liked that dress very much and often wore it. And occasionally barely put it on once or twice, it will still be worn, and it feels awkward. I can only press it at the bottom of the box in anger and sadness.

When we grow up, we gradually understand that we always envy what others have and ignore what we have. In fact, my sister also envies my high nose, oval face, neat white teeth and tall figure. She felt sorry that although she was well-proportioned, she was not tall enough. Her eyes are big, but her nose is short. She has lovely dimples, but not charming lips and teeth. In other words, I have an oval face, a straight nose, tall and neat teeth and standard beautiful lips. However, what we have, what we take for granted, is not important, and what we don't have, we always miss it; In this way, I walked in the shadow of "I am not good enough".

In fact, when I was a child, my sister really got more love from adults than I did, because she had a baby face and I had a proud and smelly face. However, when I grew up, everyone began to pay attention to grades, and I got more praise, because I was born to love reading, and even fascinated by reading; My sister prefers beautiful things to reading. So I went to a famous school along the way, and my sister chose to study nursing school after graduating from high school. In reading, I have an advantage, and I have been going straight to college, master's degree and doctor's degree towards my ideal. Therefore, my sister has always respected and worshipped me. Although I am a grumpy sister, she has taken risks with me since childhood, going to friends' houses and traveling in classes. Hee hee, she is my little sidekick.

Many people envy our sister's feelings. Looking back now, perhaps because my family was poor when I was a child and my mother often went out to make a living, I lived with my sister for many years. "Older people are mothers", that's all. My sister often follows me back and forth. Little sisters go to the market to buy food, wash the clothes of the whole family, and do cleaning and housework together. On poor days, I drove my sister to Zuoying Military Academy to watch a movie with two yuan, dreaming that one day, we could earn 100 yuan every day. This moment of sharing weal and woe and living alone has cultivated our very deep feelings.

Of course, as a sister, I will inevitably bully the weak from time to time. When we were young, we seldom had a chance to eat a bowl of noodles at the booth. My sister likes to save the delicious food for later, while I like to finish the delicious food first. Because I eat fast, I often take away the delicious food my sister left at the bottom of the bowl and shout, "I'll help you eat if you can't finish it." My poor sister watched me take away all the good things she had saved, and I don't know how long it took before she learned to eat the delicious food first.

The most classic scene is: choose an apple. Every time I choose something, my sister doesn't have Kong Rong's spirit of making pears, but she chooses the best first. Once, as usual, I chose a big apple from two apples and my sister kept a small one. When I took a big bite, I found that the inside of the big apple was rotten, so I angrily threw it under the table as a ball. My sister was stupid, so I said, "That sucks. I want yours. "

Fortunately, these habits gradually grew and changed after I entered high school because of my love for spiritual and psychological topics. I participated in the Christian fellowship and felt a lot of love, so my temper was mild. My sister followed suit and embarked on the road of faith. We all learned to let go of ourselves and avoid pride. Later, my sister studied psychological nursing and rehabilitation, and I studied psychology. Our interests are very close, and we have been growing.

As I grow older, I yearn for freedom more and more and dream of traveling around the world. So I immigrated after my master's degree. My sister is a traditionally patriotic person. I couldn't let go of my sister when I left my hometown. Every time I go home, the happiest thing is to see my sister. Every time I go home to see my sister, I feel that I have roots, a home and a childhood. We meet almost once a year and travel around Taiwan Province Province or abroad. Every year, this is the most exciting time for our sisters. We also agreed to give each other a ring on their birthdays every year. Only when they are very old, will we count together and tell the story behind each ring.

But on a foreign trip, we had a conflict. In the most beautiful Switzerland, leave the most painful memories. We had a quarrel that day, and my sister left a foreign land in the middle of the night. I am so worried that I have been desperately looking for her on the snowy mountains in Switzerland. I'm going crazy. All the possible unfortunate scenes flash through my mind, and my heart is full of fear. How did this happen? My dearest sister and I went to my dream Europe, but we were caught in such a fierce conflict! I was so happy when I couldn't find it anywhere. My sister went back to bed and lay down. However, my heart suddenly rose with great anger. "Damn, you slept well, but I was desperately looking for you in the cold wind."

The next day, my sister didn't want to go to the most beautiful Swiss mountain with me, so I stubbornly went by myself. Although the scenery is beautiful-black and white cows with bells are scattered on the green grass all over the mountain, rows of red flowers are in full bloom on the black wooden balcony of European architecture, and the cable car rides on the snowy mountain and lies on the snow-all this is so beautiful, just like the scenery on a postcard! But why is there such a big hole in my heart? My dear sister didn't come up with me, which is my biggest regret.

In view of this conflict, I have made countless reflections and reviews. The main reason is that we have all changed. I have been abroad for so many years, and I have become foreign unconscious. My stomach has adapted to bread, salad and pepper, while my sister has China's stomach and needs hot food and rice. Her yearning for exquisite travel in Europe is completely different from my self-help tour.

There is also a communication problem. At that time, there was no European Union, and we had to change money when we went to every country. As a result, we lost a lot of money on the exchange rate and the money on hand became tight. I led my sister, but I didn't make it clear about the money and didn't give him pocket money. My sister can only rely on me completely helplessly. Moreover, Europe is a place where English is not spoken. I am under a lot of pressure, but my sister doesn't know. I always mistakenly think that I can communicate with them in English in Europe, but I leave her alone and even let her go by herself.

In short, I was a bad leader that time. My sister has been a supervisor for a long time, and she shouted at me at the top of her lungs, "Don't treat me like that ignorant little sister!" " "My heart was wronged and sad. For this matter, we had a cold war for about a year.

At that time, my sister couldn't stand shouting at me: "I don't want to talk to you anymore!" " "Fortunately, she didn't do it. After more than a year, we let go of this bad blood and accepted each other again, embracing each other and respecting each other. We dreamed again, hoping to grow old together.

My sister has changed from a naive little sister who completely relies on me and trusts me to a good supervisor, a good queen and a good mother at home. As for me, I am a wandering soul who loves freedom and ideals. I learned to let her lead me and enjoy letting her take care of me.

Following my example, my sister completed her university degree and even got a master's degree in business administration. She is a lecturer, a researcher, a supervisor and a supervisor. She likes to paint oil paintings and give her feelings to flowers and plants. She loves children and family. My sister's life is very tasty.

I will continue my deep journey around the world, give lectures, dream and realize my dream. I like cooking, making tea, art therapy, painting, space, spirituality, dancing, yoga and writing. I have been an executive and a celebrity, but I prefer to leave like a wild crane in the clouds.

I'm glad that we can all do what we like and do what we like. Different from what we thought before, after half a century, we found that the two sisters met again from their respective hemispheres. We meet again, with a more complete and generous self.

Now the sisters have become a circle, but they are integrated.