Is it okay for children to emigrate overseas?

Is it okay for children to emigrate overseas?

Depends on who you ask. Immigration agents and 65,438+000% who already have children abroad will say OK. Well, the others are mixed. Personally, I think it's good for children to emigrate overseas. Yes, that's for sure, but it's more harmful to children!

Everyone and every family are different. You may not agree with what I think is right, and I may not agree with what you think is right. What I'm talking about is my personal overseas experience, which is not necessarily universal, but absolutely true.

There is only one reason why many people want to emigrate, especially those parents who are going to let their children go abroad. Children are more relaxed and happy abroad, and education at home is too strict. It is not normal for such a young child to start competing.

But these parents never thought that genius is easy to become a genius, and it is only after strict tempering and hellish experience that it becomes a genius. If you want to relax, don't think your child can be a genius. It is not easy to succeed anywhere. Mediocre people will be relaxed wherever they are.

/kloc-immigrated to the United States in 0/2 years, and my daughter 10 years old. In the United States, except for the poor language, all other classes are suspended for students of the same grade, even the fourth-grade students one grade higher than her (my daughter just started attending the local public school, and lunch is free). During that time, not only was the child relaxed, but I was also an old mother! When I was in China, my daughter had to do a lot of homework every day after school. I didn't want to sleep until I finished writing. Accompany my daughter with her homework until late at night every day. Fortunately, I didn't go to work, otherwise I really couldn't stand it!

It's finally Sunday, and I have to accompany my daughter to the training class to learn piano, English and painting. More tired than going to work. I don't know if my daughter has learned it. I learned it again, so I can practice!

I never did my homework with my daughter until I came to America. The school teacher didn't leave homework, saying that children's nature is to play, so that children can grow up happily, and too much homework can't suppress their game nature, which is not good for their growth. How philosophical! The teacher's words inspired me. Yes, my daughter is really an active age. Why suppress her nature? Happiness is stronger than anything! But a year later, I regretted it. Go back to China for reunion during the Spring Festival. My cousin's son is the same age as his daughter, and they are both in grade four. I remember this child is very stupid, because she and her daughter are in the same class, and her daughter is in the top few in every exam, while her cousin's son is in the bottom few. But I haven't seen her this year. The child has surpassed his daughter in learning, especially in mathematics. I wouldn't have believed the result if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes.

One year in the United States, because my daughter's school is better educated, my daughter has no pressure, and as a mother, I have no pressure. Besides, I also found a job in the local area, so I don't have time to ask my daughter about her academic performance. I always thought my daughter was studying in a domestic school. Until today, the competition between the two children made me re-examine my daughter's current study.

It turns out that my daughter has hardly learned anything new in school this year. The teacher just comes to take them to play a game every day to talk about the lessons in the book, and there is nothing else. Only then did I know what the so-called happy education in America is!

After returning to the United States, I transferred my daughter to a local elite school (that is, a private school, the tuition is expensive, which is several times higher than that in China). When I got here, I found that, except for the white students, they were basically China children with yellow skin, and there were no blacks. I haven't seen them anyway. Private school education is worse than domestic education. In addition to normal teaching, there are all kinds of extracurricular tutoring, more than in China, such as boxing and tutoring. Much stricter than in China. Only then did I know that American public schools are only responsible for literacy. If you want to be a talent, you must go to a private school and enter the upper class. But the high cost basically keeps people of color and some poor white students out!

Therefore, those who want their children to go abroad and become talents easily can only be said to be "idiots dreaming", how is it possible!

Instead of spending millions to send children abroad, it is better to save money for them.

More importantly, when a child goes abroad, he will misunderstand himself when he grows up, because he has lived and studied abroad since childhood and accepted foreign culture. How can you let him know about China culture when he grows up? If you are determined to be a foreigner, it doesn't matter whether you recognize China culture or not, but if you want him to be a China person again, this cultural identity is a big problem.

Children grow up overseas, and their Chinese reading and writing skills are almost lost. Chinese is too difficult to learn. It is unrealistic to expect to master Chinese through interest classes. If one day, your child speaks fluent English, but can't speak Chinese, can't read his own words, can't understand Chinese songs, doesn't know Li Bai and Du Fu, and doesn't know the four classical novels, what would you think?

Life and career are inseparable from contacts. Think about your own circle, which is full of classmates from primary school to university, plus later colleagues. If you live overseas since childhood and your circle is overseas, it will be very troublesome to return to China to live and work.

Even if you are determined to make your child a foreigner, you are not prepared to let him return to China. But have you ever thought that foreigners can be treated as you don't want to be treated, and only when they say so?

You think you are a local, but the local people treat you as a foreigner. No matter how long you have lived there and how much you have contributed, in the eyes of local people, you are still from China. Because of your yellow skin and clear black eyes, the locals will naturally treat you as a foreigner. This is not xenophobia, but subconscious behavior between different races.

They will never treat you as one of their own. Think of Japanese-Americans during World War II. Some of them have lived in the United States for generations, but after the war broke out, they still did not escape the fate of being monitored and confiscated!