What's the experience of immigrating to America to be a housewife?

What's the experience of immigrating to America to be a housewife?

Yang Ni has friends around him. She used to be a Shanghai girl from a prestigious school who dominated the workplace. Now she is a full-time housewife in Silicon Valley, USA. With two children, I am responsible for washing, cooking and growing vegetables every day.

After living in the United States for nearly half a year, she shared her story with Yang Ni.

To be a housewife in America, you must have three heads and six arms.

I just came to the United States from Shanghai, and I really felt chest tightness for a while, and my heart fell, not a little. An educated intellectual woman suddenly degenerated into a complete housewife.

It's like one minute I was dressing up in the office and pointing fingers at the contract; The next minute, all of a sudden, rice, oil and salt pots and pans, deal with the baby's shit, cry for a day. Compared with the American housewives around me, my ability to survive is really shameful.

American mothers seem to have three heads and six arms. They are all strong and original. Things weighing dozens of pounds are picked up and left, and it is effortless for three or five babies to take them out shopping. Driving, taking care of children and cooking are just basic skills. Besides, you can sew clothes, change oil and change tires.

The mother of her son and classmate, with two children alone, has to go to school to volunteer from time to time. I asked her where she had so much time, and she said, "I am too idle at home. I must find something to do. "

The same two babies, why do I feel that I don't even have enough time to sleep?

And my female classmates who stayed at home, after becoming mothers, still struggled in the workplace.

So-and-so, got the certificate of certified public accountant; So-and-so, got the first-class construction engineer qualification; So-and-so, became a partner of the law firm; Who else, a small company that used to run, now has a profit of millions a year.

Every time I see their good news, I am envious and my heart will be sour.

But going to work is really unrealistic.

For example, in China, children go to private high-end kindergartens for up to one or two thousand a month, while in the United States, private kindergartens cost $65,438+0,600 a month. Although public schools are free, they only attend school for three hours every day. 12 after school, there is nothing to do and no food to eat.

If you want to ask your aunt to cook and take care of your children, it will cost 3,000 dollars a month, and two children will go to private schools, at least 5,000 dollars a month.

If you are a single young man, 40% of your monthly salary is used to pay taxes.

So my value as a housewife is as high as $65,438+0,000 per month. So, until I find a job worth $65,438+0,000, I still have to stay at home and buy daily necessities.

Strong hands-on ability stems from their lifestyle.

Labor costs in the United States are particularly high!

In new york, if your electrical appliance is broken, the manufacturer will provide free replacement service during the warranty period, but you have to pay the repairman a high labor cost. This is the case with a friend of mine, who replaces the heating for free, but the labor cost of the repairman is 1500 yuan.

Because labor is expensive, my American friends are all DIY experts.

They repair roofs, connect pipes, paint walls and mow lawns themselves; If the sewer is blocked, go to the cleaning company to borrow equipment to do it yourself; Rent a carpet cleaner when the carpet is dirty; If you move, rent your own van and move yourself. If you can't walk, please ask an old ink to help you.

My neighbor is a mechanical enthusiast. Open his garage door and you can find a small garage. He even used his spare time to assemble three grotesque motorcycles! I found out later that the industriousness and courage of the American people were actually cultivated from an early age.

American family education

I have a neighbor who has two daughters. She goes to the community college to study every day, and she can also go to the bar at night.

I asked her what the secret was, and she said, "My eldest daughter 12 years old. According to the law, she can stay at home alone, and she can take care of her sister. They can also cook for themselves. If you need them to do any odd jobs in your home, just say so. They can also do hourly jobs to help you bring your children to earn pocket money. "

Another time in the park, I saw a mother with six children. She easily pushed the stroller in front, and a long line of children in the back were crying and laughing, which was completely solved by the boss and the second child.

In China, which children don't have grandparents, parents and nannies?

After that, I was deeply inspired. Now my son can help my sister wash her face and get dressed.

In fact, children are not as helpless as you think. It's just that China's parents' way of education helped their children do everything. Children naturally feel they don't have to do anything. Even parents think that children are too young to help, and children naturally feel that they can't do anything.

Began to discover the happiness of housewives

I am used to living in America, and I find some lovely places here.

For example, in our community, there are big trees that one person can't hold. You can see a large forest within half an hour's drive. There are clear rivers, lakes, blue transparent sea and beautiful starry sky.

Hundreds of kilometers of coastline with invincible seascape in California, the Loki Mountains are winding, and there are free big parks everywhere. So Americans go hiking or camping on weekends, or riding, boating and surfing.

In America, many people drive on the road in a broken car that they can't afford to repair. Behind the pickup truck is often a luggage compartment with sleeping bags, food and drinks, cats, dogs and children, bicycles hanging in front of the car and kayaks tied to the top.

In domestic tourist attractions, I often see many hurried tour groups. Everyone got off the bus in a hurry, took photos and ran.

When I came to America, I was far from my hometown, but closer to my family.

We study recipes together, cook together, take our children to sing together, go hiking on weekends and travel on holidays. Slowly, I learned to roast steak, cook desserts and cook all kinds of complicated Chinese dishes. I can also grow vegetables, flowers, water and fertilize, and catch slugs. Best of all, I also learned to cut my family's hair.

Slowly, I learned to slow down, to appreciate life, to enjoy the time with my children, to practice for a long time, and then to wait for a flower to bloom slowly.

You can be happy without money.

When I was in China, I was often anxious, forcing myself to work hard, and I often felt insecure, because at that time, I felt that I would not be happy without money.

In the past, my husband always said that he was tired from work. Anyway, there were nannies and old people to help. After returning home, I often have nothing to do with my hands, or go to dinner, and I often have dinner at night and weekends. I am also very busy, going out shopping with my girlfriends and watching movies in the early morning.

It's all right now. Shopping malls and supermarkets have long been closed, and few restaurants can enter the eyes of China people. The almost zero American nightlife made us go home at once.

When I arrived in America, I began to feel that I could be happy even if I didn't have much money. That night, I stood at the door watching the stars. My neighbor, American aunt, just went out and stopped to watch the stars with me.

She told me which is Mars and which is Jupiter. Planets don't blink, but stars do. She told me the name of each constellation and described the spectacular meteor shower in August. In fact, this American aunt is an ordinary person. Her only job is to help her nephew take care of the children.

At that moment, I suddenly found that even a housewife, I can be very stylish, stylish and cool!