Survival is the most important thing. Living is as simple as that.

v is alive, and everyone has ups and downs. No matter how big the ups and downs, it is still dull when you look back. Recently, an unfortunate suicide case of a doctor from the United States and Canada in Toronto has aroused the anxiety of Chinese society. Two years ago, this newspaper made a special report on how to treat the suicide case and the mainstream society's ideas about it (see www.cctimes.ca, newspaper reading area, a1 and a4 editions on July 3, 24, "The Crossroads of Confidence and Despair" and "Unfair Accusations to the Mainstream Media"), and this incident has caused waves, which undoubtedly triggered more shocks. For this reason, this newspaper specially interviewed some local Chinese doctors, who told the feelings of emigration from their personal experiences, so that readers could have a deeper understanding of the meaning of survival.

Last Saturday, Jiang Guobing, a Ph.D. student from the United States and Canada and a top science student in the 1979 college entrance examination in Hubei Province, committed suicide by jumping off a bridge in Toronto, which triggered a great response from the Chinese community. All parties discussed the survival of immigrants, and even the "Professional Employment Forum for New Immigrants in Ontario" organized by Chinese groups made a high-profile discussion on the case. Mike Colle, director of immigration in Ontario, also said that he would consult with Chinese organizations and cooperate to set up an emergency assistance plan to help new immigrants.

But no matter how hard the social follow-up assistance is made, it is impossible to save a precious life and a happy family. Many doctors who used to be in the same situation did not choose to escape, but took every step in a down-to-earth way. Even if they lost their previous dignity, they would still live in tears and live better.

It's a joke to say that you can't survive in Canada.

Jin Ping once obtained a master's degree in chemical engineering in China, then moved to Australia to study for a doctorate, and finally settled in Toronto. Like many new immigrants, he adapted to the living environment, gave up his original major and started his own Xinkang furniture store. His business has been quite large for more than six years. His most classic words are "survival is the most important and simple."

Although he used to specialize in chemical engineering, Jin Ping's speech was full of philosophical flavor. For survival, he concluded: from the animal nature of human beings, survival is living, and there is nothing else; In terms of social responsibility, survival is about accepting all kinds of challenges; From the perspective of being a human being, I am born to be useful.

Jin Ping believes that the happiness of life depends on the mentality, and it is precisely in this respect that there are problems in China's traditional education and culture. "We ignore the concept of self-cultivation regardless of family or university education, and lack self-control. Suicide is a lack of responsibility and optimism."

Is there a psychological gap when you switch from a professional to another life? Jin Ping said happily, "I can do anything as long as I can survive. It's a joke to say that you can't survive in Canada. Profession is only a small part of life. Whether you are capable or not depends on your personal understanding of life. I have no psychological gap when I come from Australia because I know what to face. "

Jin Ping developed from a simple life. When he first came to Toronto, he thought about everything to survive, from opening a restaurant, running a food company, trading, etc., but the earliest thing he started was making wine, because there was no fresh wine in the market at that time, and he is still very proud of his creativity.

Hard work is an asset of life.

Wang Qiang is a businessman who invested in local tourism earlier in the mainland immigrant circle, and has similarities with Jiang Guobing. Wang Qiang is a "prodigy" in China and the most outstanding college student in China. He graduated from university at the age of 18 and obtained a master's degree at the age of 21, and later transferred to the United States to study for a doctorate in economics.

His experience is that no matter how highly educated you are, the boss who used to be in too many senior positions came to Canada from scratch. "No matter how great you used to be, you should forget it."

He said, there is no suicide at all, and it is extremely irresponsible. "Life always has ups and downs, and it is normal for Deng Xiaoping to have three ups and downs. Suffering is an asset of life. How many big companies on Wall Street have experienced the crisis of closing down many times before they grow up. Big waves wash sand and don't believe in tears. If you can't do all the small things well, even the business of 1 thousand yuan won't work, how can you do the big things of 1 thousand yuan? Everything is proved by yourself, not by your education. Others want to see what you can really do now. It's useless to complain and fantasize too much. "

But is Wang Qiang a lucky immigrant, and some doctors may not have such a good chance? Wang Qiang strongly refuted this. "All luck is not accidental, and success has also experienced many failures, but everyone has a different attitude towards it. Things in the world are actually very simple. The number of people who are richer than us is unclear, and there are countless people who are more knowledgeable than doctors. We just don't fantasize about survival. When I first came here, I went to sell flowers with my wife. I remember that I sold 13 yuan on the first day, except for my own food and bus fare, and there was only one yuan left. When I first started my tourism business, I had only $1, in my pocket, and I didn't have any business for half a year, so I got down. "

Wang Qiang is reluctant to talk more about personal adversity, but his most honest words are always on his lips, starting from scratch and starting from small things.

Complaining and sighing hurts one's spirit

Xu Jie, who obtained a Ph.D. in physics from China University, moved to Toronto three years ago because of his wife's and children's studies, but he has never found a professional counterpart. He once worked as an assembly worker in an electronics factory. Last year, he was recommended by a friend and was valued by an American boss, and moved to the United States to do medical commodity trade between China and North America.

He learned about the news of Jiang Guobing's suicide case from the Internet. He said that the main reason why Jiang Guobing's suicide case caused such a sensation in Chinese society was to see his doctor's degree. If only a laborer or a stowaway committed suicide, would it have such a response? I believe everyone has an answer. This is the misunderstanding of Chinese social psychology. In fact, a doctor does not mean that his survival ability is better than that of others. In rural areas, he may not be as good as that of a farmer. Why do some people think that the doctor's experience is particularly worthy of sympathy? On the other hand, should a doctor be discriminated against by society if he can't find a good job? This is the wrong idea that Chinese society values academic qualifications.

Xu Jie himself has experienced setbacks. He once got a professional job and lost it because of discrimination in the company. He also had times when he was disheartened. Looking back on the past, he lamented, "Looking at the age, I am afraid of losing my value, sometimes I will be very nervous, but the more I sigh, the more gray I am. Thanks to the guidance and help of a group of former classmates and friends, I have a chance to get rid of it. So now I see a lot of online comments, full of complaints, scolding this and that. What's the difference between them and the mentality of those people who are desperate? Those people who complain, if you give them another chance, will achieve nothing, because they can't do things down-to-earth, and they won't want to make more friends. In the end, they will sigh alone and can't get out in society. China people are superstitious and say that it is not unreasonable not to sigh casually. "

Xu Jie thinks that although the employment environment in Canada is not as good as that in the United States and other economically developed regions, people can still find their own way out as long as they can be flexible.

The contrast of doctor's aura makes people unable to lift their heads

In fact, in the Chinese immigrant circle, there are many people who hold doctor's titles and change careers, such as opening trading companies, operating service industries, opening convenience stores, etc. They are brave enough to face the reality and challenge their viability again. But the aura of the doctor is still in their hearts, which often makes them afraid to show it to others.

The reporter interviewed several doctors by phone or face to face. Perhaps because they feel that their current profession is "inferior", some people are very worried about the exposure of their identity and are unwilling to talk about their personal experiences and feelings. Some people are willing to share their personal experiences, but they are sharply reprimanded by their families and repeatedly wave their hands and shake their heads to stop the interview.

It is understandable to protect personal privacy by nature, but we can still feel the pressure of the doctorate in their hearts and their families and their nostalgia for the past glory in the conversation. There are doctors and masters in eastern Europe who can stand in the mainstream society and shout, "I can't find a professional job, so I drive a taxi." However, for Chinese people with high academic qualifications, there are very few people who can speak their minds bravely. Different cultural backgrounds also lead to different expressions. Even if many people have countless complaints or sulks in private, they will not be known to the public, let alone understood by the mainstream society. Getting out of the predicament of the mind is often more difficult than starting a business.