What do you think about "the child caused trouble on the plane and the parents ignored it, and the whole family was deported from the United States"?

The incident of a child causing trouble on a plane and his whole family being deported from the United States went viral on WeChat Moments. The first reaction was that someone finally took care of the naughty child. The second reaction was, what kind of trouble did this child cause? The whole family was deported, so they took a closer look at what happened. It has to be said that behind the naughty children, there must be more than one naughty parent. The original story of the incident: A Chinese couple took their 6-year-old son to Los Angeles for vacation. On a flight from China to Los Angeles, this naughty kid kept harassing the guy sitting next to him. The younger brother suggested that the bear’s parents should take care of their children, but the parents on the other side not only did not stop him but also insulted the younger brother, which later turned into a physical conflict. After the plane landed, more than 20 law enforcement officers from the FBI, airport security, and border security were waiting for the naughty family of three. After investigation, it was found that because it was the parent of the naughty child who struck first, U.S. Customs refused to allow the naughty child and his family to enter the country for intentional injury and deported them back to the country.

After reading the whole story, I just want to say that the blame cannot all be shouldered by the naughty children. Behind every naughty child, there is one or a group of naughty parents. Putting aside the education of the bear children before boarding the plane, the fact that the harassed brother was beaten when he asked them to discipline the child was shocking. Children are a mirror of their parents. If the parents themselves are well-educated, their children will rarely be particularly "bearish". The naughty children are all kinds of weird, but they have some unique characteristics, which are the "naughty reasons" of these naughty children. The most common thing for children with no sense of rules or disregard for rules is that they don't know what the rules are, or they don't follow them even if they know them. If it is understandable that children do not know the rules, what parents have to do at this time is to educate the children about what the rules are. If the education is fruitless, appropriate punishments should be considered to make the children remember that there are some things that they must abide by. Ignoring the rules is already an advanced version of the no-rules consciousness. Like this naughty kid on the plane, he ignored a series of rules such as "no making noise in public places" and "no disturbing others easily". The reason for this situation is the unlimited indulgence of parents and relatives. Children will think that this is not an important matter, and therefore think that everyone should indulge me in this way. Therefore, everyone complains about the noisy and even constant quarrels on airplanes and trains. A naughty kid who disturbs passengers. The losses caused by this type of naughty children range from financial compensation to "repatriation" as reported in such incidents, making it almost impossible to go abroad again. The naughty child with antisocial personality can no longer be summarized by the word "bear". What he does can cause serious personal injury, but the law cannot punish him. There was a report in 2014 that a 10-year-old boy on the 8th floor used a knife to cut the safety rope of a construction worker because he thought the construction outside the building was too noisy and disturbed him from watching TV. The construction worker was left hanging outside for 40 minutes before he was rescued by firefighters. . If a construction worker fails to hold the rope, a life could be lost. What's ridiculous is that the punishment at that time was that the child's father apologized to the builder and paid for a new safety rope.

Discipline of naughty children. Many naughty parents use the excuse that their children are still young and ignorant and condone their children's "bearish behavior" again and again. As everyone knows, if you are reluctant to discipline your children now, society will help you later. You discipline your children well. There was a complaint about naughty children on Zhihu. The naughty children came to play at home, but because they did not meet their requirements, they deliberately kicked the cabinets and destroyed a cabinet of models. The parents finally paid more than 30,000 yuan. There is also a story that has been widely circulated before. A naughty child in a restaurant was naughty. Two men asked their parents to discipline them to no avail. Then there was a verbal conflict at the checkout. In the end, the two men killed the child and his father. A child doesn't understand the rules at first. If his parents teach him to obey them, he will learn to abide by them. If his parents allow him to be rude, then the society will tell him what it means to be polite. According to my country's criminal law, adolescents under the age of 14 will not be held criminally responsible if they commit any act prohibited by criminal law. However, family discipline and residential education often have little effect. In 2002, a fire at Beijing’s Lanjisu Internet Cafe claimed 25 lives. Among the two minors suspected of arson, 14-year-old Song Fu was sentenced to life imprisonment, while 13-year-old Zhang Zhe was sent to a institutional rehabilitation center and regained his freedom after three years. Can we say that with only one year difference, their social cognition will be much different? For this kind of children with anti-social personality, I hope there will be more sound laws and better discipline so that they can abide by the rules and stop harming society. Children's education is a big issue. It not only requires them to have good academic performance, but more importantly, they must live in this society as independent individuals. So please teach your children what etiquette is, what rules are, and what the law is. If the children are not "bears", the society will be peaceful.

The author Wen Weixin is an expert and a live sharing guest, WeChat ID: wenwxsz