How to get along with stubborn people?

Men must kill: never say the first sentence after a quarrel. If you are not a master of endurance in the cold war, you will definitely lose a lot of points in the link "Who speaks the first sentence". Ordinary days, reading books and surfing the internet, passed quickly, but the time of the cold war always passed slowly. Even if there is only a few hours of cold air, it is also a great consumption for you. You remember the quarrel painfully, and you felt wronged and angry enough to scratch the wall. On the other hand, questions such as "Does he love me or not" and "Will this experience have sequelae on our feelings" linger in your mind ... In your opinion, instead of being driven crazy by suffocating silence, it is better to have another big argument or discuss the problem calmly. Female take: small note to save the cold war. When two people live in harmony, please sign a "family convention" with him-within 24 hours after the quarrel, each person takes turns to be the first speaker. Hanging in a conspicuous position will increase your consciousness at ordinary times and remind you to "act according to the rules" when you really quarrel. However, since they are 100% stubborn men, it is not surprising that they failed to perform their duties under the Convention. Then your note should play the role of "emotional mediation ambassador". Write him a letter of complaint complaining that he will sulk if he doesn't quarrel, and it is immoral and uncivilized to let you wait alone on the battlefield. The next challenge in the letter is to get him to have a clear argument with you about the unfinished issues. The rule of quarreling is that you are not allowed to leave halfway. A stubborn man like him, since he promised to fight you to the end, will keep his promise. You can take this opportunity to communicate with him and study the solution. 80% stubborn men kill people: you have to tell me clearly today. "I this idea how not line? You must make it clear to me today ... "Some men, once their ideas are not recognized, can't accept them, and they must lobby others to accept their views. At this time, if you tell him the truth, he may not really listen, because as a man with a stubborn index as high as 80%, once his ideas are formed, he is very confident in himself. At this time, they really can't admit that they are wrong. W: You're right, but ... if he asks you to "explain" your point of view to him again, don't repeat your original idea like a fool. To start with his idea and praise the correct part, you can say, "Your idea is very good, I agree with it, but …" At this moment, you unconsciously put forward your own solution and ask him to help you revise it. "You're right" is equivalent to an introduction with honey, so that he can listen to the "but …" behind you calmly. 60% stubborn men will kill people: I insist on such stubborn and willful men. If he finds that he doesn't agree with you, he won't argue with you verbally, but will immediately make up his mind to give up your approval-it doesn't matter if the lesbian doesn't agree, I can still do it. Female: Let's "go together", pay the property management fee in the property management company and buy glasses in the equipment store ... In short, as a woman, you should end his "I" era, participate in his activities more widely and understand his psychological needs. Whether he is "determined" or not, you always make up your mind with him. Also, when raising an objection, don't blindly proceed from your own point of view, but carefully evaluate his decision: "You can buy a lens, but don't worry for the time being, because we have a lens to use at present, you can choose it slowly ..." In addition, when you pay the property management fee, you should also bring him in to let him know that another expenditure of life is equally important, and he also needs to participate in the distribution of family money. Men, who have no temper. For a man with a stubborn index of 40%, his stubbornness is completely within the normal index range. For example, insist on refusing to admit that your family investment plan failed; Never bring a wallet with a sticker to work; Never willing to borrow money from others ... in short, you can't meet a man who is absolutely stubborn and immune. When a man is close enough to you, his communication style is likely to become impatient. When communication is not smooth, or you throw cold water on him, he gets angry easily. "Do whatever you like" and "Do whatever you want" can easily become his "mantra". Woman: Take turns sitting in the windward position. Upwind position, men and women take turns to sit. If there is an argument between them, you can't always rely on one side's tolerance. When one party's voice is loud enough to drown out the other party in marriage, there are usually two situations: one is that the other party joins another team in order to be able to speak; Second, because of the lack of encouragement, voice talent can only wait for gradual degradation, and more and more dislike pronunciation. Therefore, in order to maintain a good and healthy marriage relationship, never break the balance between husband and wife. Everyone has shortcomings, and stubbornness and impatience are common. Accommodate some of his shortcomings and lay a peaceful environment for the people you love. This is the way for a good woman to win.