Recruitment in Wang Yongqing

Benefits of setbacks: developing cooperation ability

Self-reliance doesn't mean that you have to solve the problem alone in every situation. Children need to learn how to mobilize others to help themselves when they are beyond their power. Either ask parents for help, or find other children, kindergarten teachers, or even strangers. We don't want to raise a child with autism, or a child who can do anything in Dont Ask For Help. It is to educate children to have the ability of cooperation and teamwork, know how to communicate with others, and know how to understand and care for others.

Your good idea: The younger the child, the easier it is to find that many things are not done well, especially when playing games. Their crying is always a distress signal. For example, "I can't stack blocks at will!" ""I can't drink soup safely with a spoon! "At this time, if parents are impatient, let their children play other games, or simply do what he wants to do for him, it will deprive them of the sense of accomplishment brought by piling wood or eating. Any help we give our children should not make them feel incompetent, but carefully guide them to solve their own problems. For children, it is not important to pile up the most beautiful building blocks on his toy table. What is important is that he can do something by himself through some reminders from adults. Even if it's clumsy

This principle can also be clearly reflected in another very common daily situation: a child accidentally put a toy under the sofa and his arm was too short to take it out. The child ran to us and asked for our help. Maybe many adults will take their toys out from under the sofa without hesitation, but it's just a little effort. However, a better way is to give children a clothes hanger, or something longer, and let them take things out from under the sofa themselves. This is also in line with an idiom: "It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish." ..... be flexible, it's easier to educate children.

Children should learn to contact adults in time in an emergency, just as they look up new words in the dictionary. This is a natural thing for them. Even children who have the habit of not asking for help should learn to ask for help at an appropriate time, which is especially important in the rebellious period of children. When children are sure that they can get help in times of crisis, they will feel more secure and confident to solve problems. ..... 52 ways to help children's self-esteem.

Benefits of frustration: bring a sense of honor.

Our children should learn to regard setbacks as challenges, not as reasons to give up immediately. They should gradually form persistence and persistence.

Furthermore, our children should learn to have a sense of honor like athletes when solving problems. The solution of every problem will give a strong-willed person a unique sense of success! In other words, when encountering setbacks, there are usually two kinds of reactions. Some people will say, "Forget it, let's talk about it next time!" " "Others said," Come on, it's hard. I'll fix you! " "If we can successfully make the child tend to the second attitude, then this is a rare gift in his life.

Your good idea: Is honor a bad thing? I don't think so. Sometimes we can appropriately stimulate children's sense of honor. For example, when walking: "See who can run to the next tree faster, I can let you walk ten meters." Or in the bathtub: "See how long you can hold your breath in the water, and I'll watch the time for you."

Through many examples, children can understand that they should not flinch easily. As long as we persist, we can overcome setbacks. Let children know that there will be some headaches in study, work and life. When children choose to persist at these moments, praise will play an important role here. When children overcome difficulties and solve problems, encouragement and praise will encourage children to grit their teeth and continue to work hard in the following time.

In some areas, children are willing to stick to it (such as climbing mountains, moving beautiful small stones to their homes, building beautiful building blocks, and building building blocks). In other fields, it is difficult for children to mobilize their emotions and stick to it: cleaning the room, brushing their teeth and taking out the garbage. It's best not to use the tone of admonition, but to set an example. After all, example speaks louder than words!

The ancients said: life is not as good as one, and the unsatisfactory things on the road of life always account for the majority, especially those who are successful. The greater their achievements, the greater their difficulties and setbacks. Difficulties and setbacks are always accompanied by achievements. In addition, the growth of ability is also inseparable from difficulties and setbacks. Every time you overcome difficulties and setbacks, your ability will grow once, and the degree of ability growth is positively related to the degree of difficulties. The greater the difficulty, the faster the ability will grow. On the contrary, if we can't overcome and be intimidated by difficulties, our ability will not grow. We don't know how many difficulties and setbacks we will encounter in our career, so we need to face them positively.

First, the source of adversity

How is adversity caused? One is an individual, the other is the workplace, and the other is the society. Unfortunately for some people, all three have met.

1, from individuals

For example, I lost my parents when I was a child, or I was disabled, or I was mentally injured in the process of growing up, or I didn't finish my studies because I was young and playful, or even my marriage was unhappy, or I was embarrassed because of disagreement with my parents. These adversities from study to life to marriage are all related to me.

2. From work

When you enter an enterprise, you may encounter poor business conditions, be forced to be laid off or leave, or arrange positions you don't like, or even be assigned arduous tasks by the company and transferred to places you don't like. This is all the adversity brought by work.

3. From society

In the era of market economy, we can only look forward, not backward. Everyone is facing competition, and some people in society are treated unfairly, resulting in various pressures, which is actually a kind of adversity brought by society.

Second, the role of adversity.

No matter where adversity comes from, it plays an encouraging and inspiring role for those who love life.

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Gandhi in India, like Mandela in South Africa, was imprisoned for more than 30 years, and finally became the founding father of India and the Republic of South Africa respectively. This is the best example of adversity helping tenacious people survive and enhance their fighting spirit.

Li Ka-shing's father died at 16, and he became an apprentice at 17. Wang Yongqing of Taipei lost his father in his early years, studied business with his uncle, started selling rice and firewood, and finally became a wealthy businessman.

Shoichiro Honda, the founder of Honda Locomotive in Japan, said: "People all over the world know my success, but in fact they don't know my 99% failure. I started to work on Honda motorcycles, that is, motorcycles, and almost died. I succeeded today. Those people only saw my 1% success, but did not see my 99% failure. "

Why can adversity help survival and boost morale? It can be summed up in three sentences: opponents help growth, crises raise vigilance, and difficulties stimulate thinking.

1, opponents help you grow.

There will always be competitors in the process of study and work. Let's call him an "opponent". Today's achievement is due to the stimulation of my opponent. If it weren't for those powerful opponents, it would probably not be like this today.

For example, Sima Yi and Zhuge Liang. No wonder China said in an ancient book: "Invincible foreign invasion forgets national balance", which means that a country will soon decline if it has no enemies and no foreign invasion. Both the prosperous Han and Tang Dynasties in China and the Roman Empire in the West experienced ups and downs.

Step 2 be alert to the crisis

Wang Yongqing once said, "To be a boss, there are three conditions: the first sense of belonging, the second sense of pressure and the third sense of crisis. Without these three senses, you are not qualified to be a leader. "

◆ To be a boss, you must first regard the company as your home, which is called a sense of belonging;

◆ Always bear the pressure brought by performance and market;

You may face bankruptcy at any time, which is called a sense of crisis.

In an enterprise, the higher the position, the heavier the sense of crisis, the stronger the sense of belonging and the more obvious the sense of pressure;

Kmart was eliminated by Wal-Mart competition without crisis? McDonald's has a poor sense of crisis and was recently given a chance by KFC? Coca-Cola's sense of crisis is not strong enough, and Pepsi's performance in 2002 exceeded Coca-Cola's?

3. Dilemma stimulates thinking

At the beginning, it was hard to imagine that Pu Songling would stay in Laoshan and write the famous Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio if his life was not unsatisfactory. At the beginning, if Cao Xueqin had a good life, it would be difficult to write such a literary masterpiece as A Dream of Red Mansions.

Marx was a rare scholar who got a doctorate in modern times. When Marx couldn't stand him in Germany and France, he went to England. Marx's situation in England is not good either. A beautiful young lady from a noble family married Marx and went into exile with him. Both his children died of malnutrition. His wife's last words when she died were: "I really want to eat a boiling hamburger." In this difficult environment, Engels constantly inspired him, and he wrote Capital, which caused a sensation in the world. Therefore, when a person encounters difficulties, he will certainly stimulate his thinking and make extraordinary achievements.

Sometimes we have to thank the enemies we face. Without their competition and huge market pressure, we probably won't grow.

Third, treat adversity correctly.

There is a kind of person whose adversity increases slightly and his ability to change the result decreases, that is, he has no confidence to change the environment. Mao Zedong put it well: "If a person can't adapt to the environment and change it, then he will be eliminated". There is a person whose AQ is very high, but when he encounters adversity, his AQ is still very low.

1, correctly understand adversity

A person with high adversity quotient, the stronger the adversity, the stronger the fighting spirit. A person with a low AQ will lose morale immediately when adversity increases slightly. To be an AQ person, it is probably difficult to survive in the face of too much adversity, because there are not many people with high AQ after all.

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Lee Kuan Yew grew up in Singapore, which was originally a state in Malaysia. He went to study in England and came back as a member of Parliament of Malaysia. However, Lee Kuan Yew, because of his modern education, believes that Malaysia needs reform and conservatives make Singapore independent.

The first thing after independence is that there is no water to drink. I ask Malaysian Prime Minister Mahathir to reach an agreement that Malaysia will provide water, Singapore will purify it and return half of the purified water to Malaysia. Lee Kuan Yew's last wish was to see Singapore go home when he was alive. Lee Kuan Yew asked Mahathir of Malaysia, and Mahathir said to think about it. So far there is no answer.

Lee Kuan Yew, who was kicked out of Malaysia at the beginning, can make the country so powerful today, ranking in the top 30 in the world, and Singapore ranks in the top 10 among open countries, which is really not easy. If he wants to return to his ancestral home, people have to confirm that his AQ score is really high.

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Arafat led the Palestinian guerrillas to fight Israel all his life, and insisted on opening up the territory in the Middle East, settling down his citizens and establishing the Palestinian Republic. It can't be said that his AQ is very high. Under the strong pressure of Israel and the United States, Arafat wanted Palestine to be established.

Be good at looking at the adversity you face from different angles.

In our life, there are so many happy and happy things. Why don't we pay attention to them, but never forget some of our own pain? Some people feel that they are the most unlucky people in the world when adversity strikes. Actually, it's not exactly like this. You may be unlucky in one thing, but you may be lucky in other ways. Compared with those less fortunate, you may still be a very lucky person. Thackeray, an English writer, famously said, "Life is a mirror. You smile at it, and it smiles back at you. " You cry to it, and it cries to you. Indeed, if we treat life with a happy smile, life will "smile" at us and we will feel the warmth and happiness of life. And if we always look at life with a painful and sad mood, then the whole tone of life will become gloomy in our hearts.

The knife cuts bread and fingers. Prosperity and adversity will transform each other under certain conditions. In the face of adversity, if we can properly change the angle and way of thinking and re-evaluate and examine the adversity we encounter from other aspects, it will also help us get out of the predicament.

2, the correct concept of frustration

It is not easy to correctly understand setbacks. When you are in a bystander's position, when you see others encounter setbacks, you may sometimes be able to make some correct analysis, but when setbacks come to you, it is not easy to make a correct and sober understanding. Therefore, we should have a correct view of frustration. This is manifested in:

(1) Setbacks are common.

Frustration is also an indispensable part of life, and everyone will encounter it. The so-called "smooth sailing" and "all the best" are often just people's good hopes; It is quite common that "the weather is unpredictable, and people are doomed to misfortune." Throughout the ages, many famous scientists, writers and politicians were honed in adversity. Someone specially studied the biographies of 293 famous foreign writers and artists, and found that 127 people had encountered great adversity in their lives. Adversity exists objectively, and the key lies in how we know it and how to treat it. If we have a correct view of adversity, realize that adversity is an inevitable part of life, and dare to face it squarely and challenge it, we can take it as a stepping stone to progress and the starting point of success, so as to make continuous progress.

(2) Frustration is twofold.

The great writer Balzac also said: "Things in the world are never absolute, and the results vary from person to person. Suffering is the stepping stone of genius, the wealth of capable people and the abyss of the weak. " That's true. Adversity and tribulation in life are not all bad things. A quiet, comfortable and comfortable life often makes people content with the status quo and indulge in enjoyment; Adversity and tribulation can temper and test people and make them strong. "Since ancient times, great people have suffered a lot, but there has never been a great person." That's probably why.

(3) Don't stick to setbacks.

If setbacks have occurred, we should face them and find a solution; If it's over, forget it, don't always keep it in your memory, and don't always stare at it. The pain feels like a muddy swamp. The more you can't get out quickly, the more likely you are to be trapped and get deeper and deeper until you can't extricate yourself.

Fourth, improve adversity quotient.

1, never give up

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Churchill's most wonderful speech in his life was also his last speech. At a graduation ceremony at Cambridge University, there were tens of thousands of students in the whole auditorium, who were waiting for Churchill to appear. At this moment, Churchill, accompanied by his entourage, walked into the venue and walked slowly to the podium. He took off his big farmer and gave it to his entourage. Then he took off his hat and looked at all the audience silently. After a minute, Churchill said: Never give up.

Churchill put on his coat and hat and left the meeting. The whole venue was silent, and a minute later, the applause thundered. Never give up! There are two principles of never giving up. The first principle is: never give up. The second principle is to look back at the first principle when you want to give up: never give up!

In practical work, many people often come to the conclusion of failure prematurely, and when they encounter a little setback, they have doubts about their work, or even give up halfway, so the previous efforts will be in vain. Only those who can stand the wind and rain and all kinds of tests are the final winners. So, don't give up until the last moment, always believe that the winner will never give up, and the quitter will never succeed!

2. bravely say "try again" to yourself.

A drop of water wears away a stone, and persistent people often succeed. Those who have fought and failed many times in life but never give up often become the best winners in the end. Only when you know failure can you understand the meaning of success. People grow up in failure, and trying hard after failure can often achieve final success.

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A young man went to a company to apply for a job, and the company did not publish a job advertisement. Seeing the general manager puzzled, the young man explained in broken English that he was passing by and rushed in. The general manager thought it was very new, so he made an exception and let him try it. The interview result was unexpected, and the young people performed poorly. His explanation to the general manager was that he had not prepared in advance. The general manager thought he was just looking for an excuse to go down the stairs, so he casually replied, try again when you are ready. "

A week later, the young man walked into the door of the company again, and this time he failed. But compared with the first time, his performance is much better. The general manager gave him the same answer as last time: "Try again when you are ready." In this way, the young man stepped into the door of the company five times and was finally hired by the company, becoming the key training object of the company.

There are many swamps and thorns in our life journey. It took us a long time to find light in the dark. Just say to yourself firmly and confidently with the courage of the brave: "Try again!" Try again and you may reach the other side of success.

Only a firm will can overcome the difficulties.

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Huang, born in Shanghai, 1970, was born deaf. He went to a blind school since childhood, left his parents' arms, formed the habit of taking care of himself, and learned to be self-reliant, confident, self-respecting and self-reliant. 1985 Huang joined the track and field team of the school for blind children and began his sports career. His main directions are sprint and long jump. It is conceivable that disabled people engaging in sports will bring him many unimaginable difficulties and accidents. At that time, a very backward run-up device was used. The pedal is supported by a slender nail. In a training session, the nail was crooked. If it is a normal person, it is easy to see it, but he can't see anything. When he stepped on it, there was a terrible pain under his feet, and he suddenly fainted. Later, I learned that the nail passed through the sole of the running shoe and his sole, and then protruded from the surface of the shoe. Because of congenital defects, he has to pay a lot of unnecessary prices for sports in the eyes of normal people. He can't see the coach's demonstration clearly, so he can only decompose and ponder step by step like "the blind touch the elephant" and practice it over and over again. The bunker leading to the long jump was originally covered with grass, but two years later, a bare runway appeared at the foot of Huang.

1992, Huang participated in the Barcelona Olympic and Paralympic Games. Calm, play beyond their own level, beat Juan of Spain by 3 cm to win the championship. When he stood on the podium and listened to the solemn national anthem, his heart was full of pride.

If Huang is pessimistic about himself, if he steps on a nail, he will yield to fate and give up his pursuit. If he loses his will in the face of setbacks and failures, people will sink down quickly and forever, and fate will trample him under his feet. As long as you get up after falling, persist after failing, and continue to work hard, difficulties will be afraid of you, and setbacks and bad luck will bow to you.

The secret of success is actually very simple, that is, despite repeated setbacks, we can be strong and unyielding.

4. Success requires patience

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A famous marketing guru is about to bid farewell to his marketing career. At the invitation of trade associations and all walks of life, he will deliver a farewell speech at the largest gymnasium in the city.

On that day, the venue was packed, and people were eagerly and anxiously waiting for the wonderful speech of the greatest salesman of our time. The curtain slowly opened and a huge iron ball hung in the center of the stage. For this iron ball, a high iron frame was set up on the stage.

An old man came out and stood on the side of the iron shelf in the warm applause of people. He is wearing a red tracksuit and white rubber shoes under his feet.

At this time, two staff members carried a big hammer and put it in front of the old man. The host then told the audience: Please come to the stage with a strong body. In the blink of an eye, a young man came to the stage.

Then the old man told him the rules and asked him to knock down the hanging iron ball with this big hammer until it swung. The young man grabbed the hammer, opened his posture, swung the chain and threw it at the hanging iron ball with all his strength. There was a deafening noise and the ball hung still. He swung a sledgehammer and hit the ball one after another, and soon he was out of breath. People thought everything was in vain, and the meeting was calm again.

At this time, the old man took out a small hammer from his coat pocket and then faced the huge iron ball seriously. He aimed a small hammer at the iron ball. Someone knocked, then paused, and someone knocked with a small hammer. People look at it strangely, and the old man is like that. Knock "dong", then click, and so on.

Ten minutes passed, and twenty minutes passed. The venue has already begun to stir, and people vent their dissatisfaction with various voices and actions. The old man is still working with a hammer. He seemed to hear people shouting.

About forty minutes into the old man's performance, someone suddenly shouted, "The ball has moved!" "

The old man spoke, and all he said was: You should be patient on the road to success. You must face success with a lifetime of patience.