Eight hidden rules, you should take a good look.

Find the position that suits you best.

The ancients said that oranges were born in Huainan and oranges were born in Huaibei.

In other words, different environments can make a person look completely different.

I once read a little fable.

Said that a rare jade fell into the ruins.

Everyone talked about it: "What's the use of being so small? You can't build a house or lay the ground. "

"It is. You can't stand on the bench if the light doesn't slip away. "

"Even if a cesspit is built, the owner will feel that he is flashing his ass."

In this disdain, I am also full of denial of myself and feel that I am useless at all.

However, one day, it was picked up by a person who knows jade, polished a little, and turned into a treasure of the whole city. It was presented to the palace, decorated with gold wire and decorated with gold ornaments, and enshrined on a shelf, which was amazed and appreciated by countless people.

Of course, this is a story.

However, there are still countless life projections in it.

You might think that when the Monkey King was in the Heavenly Palace, he could only become Bi Marvin, or he was regarded as an extremely stubborn Po Hou.

But on the way to learn from the scriptures, he became a great sage who crossed others and himself.

When J.K. Rowling was a secretary, she was sloppy, unenthusiastic and even cut corners.

She is always dreaming and talking about the little wizard and Harry Potter.

Later, the employer got fed up and fired her.

When she returned to her study, she wrote the most successful series of books in history with passion.

Young artists in China also have countless idols, Wang Xiaobo, who once went to the countryside when he was young.

At that time, he was too lazy to be surprised and had no interest in the repeated mechanical work around him.

However, when he writes, he is diligent and dedicated.

After becoming famous, a reporter went to the place where he cut in line and asked his fellow villagers, "Do you know Wang Xiaobo?"

The other party replied, "Is that the lazy one? ! "

It's really ridiculous.

Fortunately, the Monkey King didn't stay in the Tiangong all his life, Rowling didn't stay in the office all his life, and Wang Xiaobo didn't stay in Yunnan all his life. They went to a new place, found a new position and created their own life value.

Goethe said: You should stand in your most suitable place.

You are an aquatic plant, so you live by water.

You are a mountain pine and cypress, so you are beside the cloud.

You are a galloping horse. Find an endless grassland and run there.

Location is more important than we thought.

Because, if you go to the wrong place and meet a bunch of people who consume you, your attention and time will be spent on confrontation, not creation.

If you choose the right position, your creativity will not be hindered.

Only in this way can you develop your greatest potential smoothly and surging, and bloom your passion for life.

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The more stable the salary, the greater the risk.

A friend said that their company has two compensation systems.

One is that the basic salary is low but the commission is high. That is, wages fluctuate greatly.

One is that the basic salary is high, but the commission is low. Is that the salary is very stable.

As a boss, he said, in fact, the former will make people really grow up.

Because jobs with the greatest degree of freedom and greater challenges require higher growth.

It will summon your fighting spirit, mobilize your skills, urge your knowledge, supervise your implementation, and challenge difficulties again and again.

In a few years, you will become a brand-new person.

Employees who rely on stable wages, although working, are still too easy to weaken their potential talents.

Well done, my monthly salary is 5000 yuan.

Muddle along, I am also 5000 yuan a month.

So, why should I work so hard? !

People are lazy, in such a short-sighted balance of interests, of course, you will not be so active. You will be lazy and be a monk for a day.

You think you made a deal.

Actually, it is not.

You bought out your future with a monthly salary of 5000 yuan.

Because of hard work, others are like houses, rising and rising all the way.

You have become a devalued product. Nothing, nothing, nothing to love, but also consumed the most precious time.

The most cruel thing is that age discrimination has always existed in the workplace.

A few years later, you look for a job. People ask, you are 30 years old and want a job of 6000 yuan. Sorry, people younger than you only need 4000 yuan. Why should I give you 6000 yuan?

Only in this way will you know that all stability is a career trap.

Will make you give up the most precious thing in your body-fighting spirit in the illusion of stability.

Without fighting spirit, time is distributing value to others, but it belittles you.

At this time, the workplace will quietly give you a yellow card warning: you are about to be eliminated.

20 14 There is a report in China News. Ms. Chen went to look for a job and found the school she applied for. Almost without exception, tell her not to be over 35.

20 17 Huawei is a retired employee over 34 years old.

In 20 18, IBM laid off 20,000 employees over 40 years old.

The risk is just around the corner.

I believe we all feel something.

So what should we do? In fact, the best way to deal with risks is to adapt to risks in advance.

It is to let yourself be free in action, career, speech and thought, embrace change, embrace the unknown and challenge yourself, and then you will increase your ability to resist risks bit by bit.

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Self-discipline is the foundation of all achievements.

If you choose your favorite industry and find your favorite job, you should remember one thing: self-discipline.

Any great cause, done in a streamlined and daily way, will face trivial, ordinary and boring day after day.

But you must stick to it as always with strong self-discipline.

Haruki Murakami has a book called "What do I talk about when I talk about running?" In the book, you will see a man running from 30 to 50.

This number tells us:

In fact, each of us is not a natural person.

You may be ugly, I may be fat; You may be stupid, and I may be poor.

We are all far from the ideal central figure.

But it has nothing to do with it.

As long as we work hard, live a regular life and find creative happiness, we will get closer step by step.

There is a psychological study to investigate what factors affect college students' grades.

The researchers first listed all possible useful qualities, such as being positive, cheerful, humorous, rigorous, talkative, calm, introverted and fond of reading.

Then, hundreds of students were asked to test one by one.

Finally, it is found that these qualities have no fundamental influence on performance.

The only thing that can affect your grades is self-discipline.

Even this is a more important indicator than IQ.

If he can control himself, study when he should study, attend classes when he should, and do his homework when he should, then he will certainly achieve impressive results.

And in life, it is the same.

People with strong self-discipline have less mental illness, higher work efficiency, more empathy, more trust and easier success.

Therefore, Roy baumeister said this passage at the beginning of Willpower:

No matter how you define success-having a happy family, close friends, wealth, financial security, doing what you like, mental health, inner wealth, and so on. You often have several qualities.

When psychologists are looking for this quality, they unanimously find that self-discipline is the most important.

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More important than success is growth.

Many people will ask an urgent question when they first enter the workplace: "How long will it take me to do this job before I can buy a house in Guangzhou?"

"How many years does it take to work for an annual salary of one million?"

In fact, these questioners are paying attention to the wrong direction.

We should pay more attention to our own growth, not to our success in the secular sense.

Because people are the most precious resource-

Even if the times are surging, I am unmoved; Even with inflation, my income and authority will multiply.

Therefore, when entering an industry, don't just focus on salary, but take the initiative to learn from the people you admire most in the industry.

Learn how he strives for perfection in ordinary work; Learn how to deal with crises; How to deal with people, things, things and resources, and learn how to surpass yourself step by step.

In this way, your growth will be faster and faster.

Our company has an applicant.

Her resume is particularly amazing and her ability is extremely outstanding. However, her expected salary is only 3000 yuan per month.

I asked her, "Why only 3000?"

She said: "Because what I want to achieve is independence in a few years. At that time, the salary will definitely not be low. Therefore, it doesn't matter if the starting point is low, as long as you can learn something. "

She is a really smart person.

Because she understands that when you become a sophisticated talent, you will attract many top resources.

These resources include money, important contacts, authority, specialty, influence, followers and self-built communication networks.

Matthew effect will also make these resources swell.

At that time, you will find that these things are inexhaustible wealth that one can't take away.

It will really give you a value.

It will crown you.

It will also be the guarantee of your life.

Even if you suddenly become poor, you will soon become a middle class or even a rich man.

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Don't associate with that lazy man.

Every company has veterans.

You don't associate with them.

Because, they will quickly assimilate you with their own greasy.

I have a friend, born in 1990s, who just graduated and went to a company.

It's a pity that the leader in charge assigned to him by the company is a workplace jerk.

He wants to revise the plan he has just finished and make it more perfect. The leader said, "Almost enough. You are not the boss, why bother? "

He wants to work overtime to make up for the unfinished work that week.

The leader said, "Oh, what's the point of being so positive?" How many compliments does the boss give you? What's the use? "

He struggled to say, "You can get a bonus for good behavior."

The leader said, "Do you believe the boss drew you a pie? I advise you not to be naive. It's important to leave when you're done. "

A week later, he continued to insist.

But two weeks later, three weeks later, four weeks later ... two months later, his enthusiasm disappeared.

He was assimilated by another new bastard in the workplace.

Of course the boss fired him.

Only then did he realize that the workplace can't be mixed.

Just mix it up.

He began to learn to stay away from lazy people and associate with positive people.

After a period of time, he found that positive people can form a positive magnetic field. When you approach them, you will be driven, infected and led.

Then, become more competitive young people.

According to the survey report of Stanford Research Center in the United States, 12.5% of the money earned by a person comes from knowledge and 87.5% comes from contacts.

This shows that with positive and excellent people, you will not only become better.

At the same time, the better your connections are, the more valuable you are, and the greater your chances of success.

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Find a good company or a good leader and follow it for a long time.

In the TV series Hunting Field, Hui succeeded in job-hopping again and again, and wrote a book called Job-hopping to the Richest Man.

I worked in company A in spring, in company B in summer, in group C in autumn, and resigned in winter. He doesn't know what to do.

He thinks he has many choices.

But in fact, such a frequent job-hopping person, HR will throw it aside when reading his resume.

Because it costs money to change people.

These costs HR must be calculated.

She will be very wary of people who change jobs frequently: no loyalty, no perseverance and no long-term cooperation. So I gave up.

What we have to do is to carefully choose a company or a person, follow it for a long time and work together.

Not long ago, an article exploded the circle of friends, called "Lei Jun: If you are not from a wealthy family, loyalty and diligence are your only chance to achieve your career".

In this article, the author said:

The energy of human life is fixed. If you spread your energy among different companies, you can hardly make great progress in one company.

I think it makes sense.

People who jump around can't get into work and put 100% energy into it.

He always wants to quit his job and run away when he encounters problems. Such a person is not qualified for a challenging job.

In fact, every field has its powerful aspects and powerful people.

You should observe, learn, practice, get along with the best people, and ask for their opinions.

Suck it like a sponge.

Ask like a child.

Don't be afraid to ask questions. "Don't eat alone" said:

There is a rule that everyone must remember:

The more successful a person is, the more he wants to share his knowledge, wisdom and experience with those who can give full play to his talents.

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Concentrate your strength on one point.

The Pope asked Michelangelo, "Please tell me the secret of your glory. How did you create the classic statue of David? "

Michelangelo replied, "It's very simple. I removed all the marble that was not David, and David was born. "

Everything in the world is like this.

What we want is a stone, not all stones.

Then, if you find it, use the carving knife of time, and one day you will see David you have been longing for for for a long time.

People's attention is limited.

Introduction to flow: perfect experience psychology;

When a person has lived for 70 years, if he is awake for 16 hours every day, the total amount of information processed in his life is 185G.

Yes, 185G.

This is the sum of the information we can handle in our life.

The capacity of the hard disk may be larger than it.

It's pathetic. We must maximize its efficiency.

There is only one principle to maximize efficiency: let time and attention be spent on the most important things.

So, pick out the things that are most important to you and continue to devote yourself to them. Be deeply involved anyway.

The law of the jungle says: intensity will overcome width every time.

So, save our strength and energy and focus on the strongest point.

Finding rich mineral deposits and digging deep will yield more than digging around like dragonflies.

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In the face of failure, we must have the resilience to start over.

I believe you have heard this story.

Matsushita Electric once openly recruited a group of managers, adopting a combination of written examination and interview.

It is planned to recruit 15 days, but there are hundreds of applicants.

After a week of examinations and interviews, 15 outstanding students were selected.

When Kōnosuke Matsushita looked at the candidates one by one, he found that a young man who had made a great impression on him in the interview was not selected.

The young man's name is Kanda Saburo.

So, Kōnosuke Matsushita asked someone to review the exam.

It turns out that Kanda Saburo's comprehensive score is the first, only because the computer is out of order and the score and ranking are wrong, which leads to Kanda Saburo's defeat.

Panasonic immediately sent a letter of admission to Kanda Saburo.

The next day, he got a surprising news: Kanda Saburo committed suicide by jumping off a building because he was not admitted.

By the time the belated notice arrived, he had already passed away.

Everyone was stunned for a long time and deeply regretted it.

One executive said, "It's a pity that we lost him like this because we were so talented."

However, Kōnosuke Matsushita said, "No, it's a good thing we didn't admit him. People with such a fragile will are not desirable. "

Failure fills our life.

Who can avoid pain?

Who can win the gold medal from setbacks?

Who can have an invulnerable body, an invulnerable body, invulnerable?

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You didn't. I didn't. They don't know either.

All we have to do is, when we are defeated, take it as the beginning, not the end.

Then dry your tears, bite the bullet and take a step forward at the bottom of your life.

Step by step, day by day, maybe we can have a good time and get a good luck notice.