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The Report on the Development of Mental Health in 2020 shows that 1.8% ~ 3.3% of primary school students, 7.6%~8.6% of junior high school students,10.9% ~/2.5% of senior high school students are severely depressed, 18 ~ 25%. Depression is becoming more and more common in today's society, and depression is an enlarged state of pessimism. So what can we do to get rid of pessimism and become optimistic? What are the benefits of optimism?

Living the most optimistic self is the masterpiece of Martin seligman, the father of positive psychology. It is a must-read for bidding farewell to depression, fundamentally changing pessimistic life and improving happiness.

This book is divided into three parts:

Part one: What is pessimism? What is optimism?

Part two: Why is an optimistic life wonderful?

Part III: How to live an optimistic self?

0 1 What is pessimism? What is optimism?

Optimists see opportunities in disasters, while pessimists see disasters in opportunities.

So are you pessimistic or optimistic?

pessimistic

1, facing the bad things: I think it's all my own fault, which will ruin everything for him and last for a long time.

2. learned helplessness: It is a reaction of giving up, feeling that nothing can change fate.

3. Interpretation style: ① permanent, ② universal and ③ intrinsic.

It is easy to think that bad luck is eternal and good luck is temporary;

(2) think that bad things happen due to common reasons, and good things happen due to specific reasons;

③ Intrinsic: In the face of failure, I will blame myself, that is, the reason is me.

4, ruminating: when you encounter things, you will think repeatedly, and it is easier to get to the bottom of it.

Amber, an excellent boy, is mentioned in the book Whole Brain Education Law. He is a very clever and talented child. He can be said to be proficient in everything, whether it is school or music and sports. Both teachers and friends were surprised and admired by his ability. But this amber is full of doubts about itself. Even if he makes a small mistake, such as leaving his lunch box at school and making a mistake in shooting, he will punish himself, thinking that he is not doing well and that he is really stupid. This idea is full of brains. When he was a baby, his parents divorced, and he internalized the reasons that led his father to leave.

Only such amber will be surprised that nothing is impossible. Few people around him can surpass him. He is the object of worship. What defeated him and made him unhappy? It's his pessimistic interpretation style, thinking repeatedly.

Wang Guozhen once said: Pessimists are defeated by themselves first, and then by life; An optimist conquers himself first, then life.

optimistic

1, in the face of bad things: I feel that it is temporary, and everything is caused by it, not all its own fault.

2, no sense of helplessness: in the face of bad things or failures, I think this is a challenge and I will try my best to overcome it.

3. Interpretation style: ① temporality, ② concreteness and ③ externality.

① Temporary: think that bad luck is accidental and recent, and think that good luck is permanent because of personality characteristics and abilities.

② Concrete: It is believed that the occurrence of bad things is caused by specific reasons, and the occurrence of good things will strengthen their confidence in doing anything.

③ Externality: In the face of failure, we will look for external reasons, that is, others or other circumstances.

4. When you encounter something, you won't think about it repeatedly.

In the TV series Everything is Fine, for Mingyu, the eldest brother Mingzhe and the eldest sister-in-law all think that the family must have wronged her. Of course, Su Mu bears the brunt, but Su Mu doesn't think so. She thinks Mingyu is a baiwenhang, not a bad person, and Ming Cheng also learned most of Su Mu's deductive style. Apparently, he sold the car behind his wife's back to invest, and Julie was angry with him. As a result, Ming Cheng thinks that Mingyu made Julie angry with him. Obviously, Su Mu and Ming Cheng use externalized deductive style when they encounter bad things.

So what's wrong with pessimism?

First, you are prone to depression.

Second, you didn't reach your potential, so your performance should be better.

Third, your body and immune function are poor. The older you get, the worse your body will be.

Fourth, you have no interest in life, and the pessimistic interpretation style makes your life gloomy.

2. Why is an optimistic life so wonderful?

Optimism is the foundation of career success.

This book is about metropolitan insurance companies, and their optimism has made them climb from the second place in the industry to the first place again. What's changed here?

The author first conducted a questionnaire survey on 200 salespeople, and found that the sales performance of optimistic salespeople in the first two years was 37% higher than that of pessimistic salespeople, while the sales performance of the former 10% optimistic salespeople was 88% higher than that of the latter 10% pessimistic salespeople.

1987, the metropolis adopts the attribution style used by the author as the standard for selecting salesmen and recruits optimistic salesmen. After that, the main sales force increased from 8000 to 12000, and the market share increased by 50%.

2 optimistic children get good grades.

Teaching Optimistic Children is also a book by Martin seligman. The book says that in his more than 20 years, more than 65,438+0,000 studies and 500,000 subjects for adults and children have come to the conclusion that the achievements of pessimists in school and work are far below their potential abilities.

In a program, Ye Yixi said to several groups of children: "Go!"

When talking about being a group, she said with a straight face, "I won't rush!" "

When asked why, she said, "I have no confidence."

In the next chat, I went on to say, "Every effort will lead to a failure, so it is better if you don't work hard."

"If you don't work hard, you won't work hard, but it's painful to work hard."

"Every time I run for class cadres, I almost always run for the election. No class cadre is me. "

"Seven or eight students voted for me, indicating that the whole class doesn't like me very much."

"God has to work hard? Every time I try, I fail. Why can't I just try? I am still in my mother's belly! "

Finally, she found that her homework had not been finished. Cheng said, "I can't finish it today!" "

Moreover, it is useless to continue to talk about hard work. It must be the last one, and there is no confidence.

The author writes that children who are generally considered to have a universal reason for good things perform better in all aspects of life, and vice versa.

An optimistic body will never get sick.

Yoko Nakamura, the author of Worth Living in the World, is over 90 years old. She was born in the 1920s, and the train she took as a teenager became the target of bombing. On the way, she stopped running many times because of air strikes, so she had to run to the jungle to escape, and death passed her again and again.

Also because of the war, her studies were disrupted. When she got married, her husband was a desperate alcoholic. On the one hand, she has to take care of starving children, on the other hand, she has to do heavy housework, and more importantly, she has to work.

It can be said how tired he is and how bad his heart is, but Yoko Nakamura didn't complain that he was so unlucky. It is not smooth from studying to getting married and having children. Why is her life so bad? She chose to live every day seriously.

The road of life is described by the heart. So, no matter how bad your situation is, don't be troubled by pessimistic thoughts. -kazuo inamori

She said, "In any case, don't ignore what is in front of you. That's all that matters. Your own work, children, and housework, no matter what, can't make your immediate life messy. "

With an optimistic and positive attitude towards life, she personally wrote "Values in the World", and now she is still working in a psychology post in her 90s.

3. How to live the most optimistic self?

ABCDE mode ".

(Adversity) means bad things.

B (belief), that is, the view and explanation of unfortunate events, will cause some specific consequences.

C (concern) stands for c (consequences, feelings and behaviors after an unpleasant event.

D (against) stands for rebuttal, which is a debate on one's own ideas (b);

E (empowerment) stands for inspiration and is the result of the spirit and behavior brought about by refutation.

The book "Teaching Optimistic Children" gives an example. An unpleasant thing happened when a little girl went to a friend's house for a party, and it was explained according to the ABCDE model.

A: Her friends secretly drank her parents' wine, but the little girl didn't want to drink it. Her friends always accused her of being a coward.

The little girl thinks she is really timid. I should drink like them. Every time I meet something crazy, I always flinch.

C: She always wanted to know why I was so stupid.

D: I just don't drink. This does not mean that I am a coward. Some of my friends don't drink. Besides, I have done many brave things, such as ...

E: I'm starting to feel better. I'm not sad or embarrassed anymore.

If we encounter similar unpleasant things in life, try to explain them according to ABCDE theory.

For example, when you come home from a busy day.

A (bad thing): I found that my husband was actually leading the children to play games, and I didn't do my homework. The house is in a mess, not to mention waiting for me to cook.

B (idea): No wonder some people say that "after marriage, men will become more and more stupid, lazy, ignorant and unwilling to learn anything." They are selfish animals. Can't they cook with their hands? Is it so difficult to help children with their homework? I want them to do my homework and tidy my room at once.

C (Consequence): I have been pulling a long face, yelling at them and telling them that I will starve to death if I do this again. After a day's work, I am very tired because I am angry, which makes me more depressed and helpless.

D (rebuttal): It turns out that every day as long as I get home, the children are doing their homework obediently, and my husband is busy cooking dinner in the kitchen (evidence). Maybe there are any special circumstances today (other possibilities), and my husband has always been more reliable (hint). I think it's time to calm down, which may alleviate the embarrassment (usefulness) of my yelling just now.

How to make rebuttal more convincing to yourself and others? The usefulness can be implied by four points: ① evidence ② other possibilities ③.

E (inspiration): I finally calmed down. I apologize to them first, make a hullabaloo about for what I just said, and then talk about what happened today and why I didn't do my homework and cook.

Using ABCDE refutation method, we can change from sadness to happiness, from anger to calmness, from despair to hope, from pessimism to optimism.

After 25 years of research, the author firmly believes that pessimistic thoughts will bring us more troubles and make us more likely to fall into depression. Life is not easy, and you will encounter some bad things or things that you can't control. Don't let pessimism control you. Think about it from another angle, and you will find that you have a lot of things, not just those pessimistic and desperate thoughts.

Remember that there is still a large part of life that we can control, including how we live, how to get along with others, how to control ourselves, adjust ourselves, stop internal friction, and of course, our attitude towards problems and life.

Let's expand ourselves and the outside world with a positive and optimistic attitude.

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