My husband is the kind of person who everyone except me thinks he is very good to me.

01

The person I love the most gave me the bitterest drink

I was chatting with my best friend yesterday. At the end of the chat, she said she wanted a divorce and that her family That one wasn't very nice to her.

I attended her wedding and also went to her child’s full moon banquet. According to my observation, the person in her family is quite reliable.

So I sent her a WeChat message: "The one in your family is okay, but I haven't met an ideal mother-in-law, so I can only work harder now"

Who knew she said : "My husband is the kind of person who, besides me, everyone thinks he is very good to me."

I was surprised. This sentence reminded me of some men in my life.

They have a good reputation outside, are kind to everyone, are practical in their work, and are loyal and reliable.

They never hit women, never go out to flirt with women, and never betray their families.

But after the woman walked with them for many years, she found that they were like onions, without a heart at all.

When their wives complain to their relatives and friends around them, they will only be considered to be "unconscious of their blessings even though they are in the midst of blessings."

It is their good reputation that makes women have to swallow the bitterness in their hearts in the end.

02

You don’t understand women’s suffering and criticize women

When you are washing clothes, no one can see you;

You When you are preparing dinner, no one can see you; when you are cleaning, no one can see you; when you are helping with homework, no one can see you.

But when you sit down and pick up your phone, he will say: "Why are you playing with your phone again?"

When your child is sick, he will only say: "Why are you playing with your phone again?" "Taking care of children?"

When the children did not do well in the exam, he pointed out: "How did you teach the children?"

He served others obediently outside, but he returned. When he gets home, he points fingers at his woman.

He is pleasant to others outside, but when he comes home, he feels like he is burning with his own woman.

Women are not supermen, there are always times when they are tired and fragile.

When she is working hard but no one can see it, and something happens, they will put a hat on her head.

When you try your best to make your family better, you are often criticized in the end.

Once upon a time, I was worried about everything at home, big and small.

At that time, if I didn’t make up my mind about the matters at home, I would just leave them there.

For example, if I had not made up my mind to take the child out and take him with me, he would definitely be just a left-behind child today.

For example, if I had not decided to build a new house at home and mobilized my family to build it, maybe everyone would still be hesitating about where to settle down?

But I slowly discovered that the people who make decisions at home are often the ones who bear the biggest consequences.

For example, if something happens to your child out of town, who would you look for if your family doesn’t look for you?

For example, after the house was built, I discovered that someone in the family was seriously ill. Although my family did not tell me explicitly, sometimes I even accused myself of not making a decision casually.

No matter whether your decision at work is good or bad, at most you will not get the respect of your boss and make less money.

But no matter how big or small the decision in the family is, family members talk about feelings, but what is hurt is the sincerity.

Because the person who can really make you sad is often the person you love the most.

03

When we see a strong woman, we always sympathize with the "honest" man next to her, but in fact her strength was "cultivated" by that honest man. of.

If you can rely on men to make your life prosperous, which woman wouldn’t want to live an easier life on her own?

Li Shuihua, the heroine of "Mountains and Seas", is such a woman.

She was smart and had excellent grades since she was a child, but her family "sold" her to An Yongfu for a small profit.

She was reluctant at first and ran away. In the end, because of the poverty of her family, she had to obey the arrangement of fate.

She originally thought that marriage might make her feel better, but in the end, her husband not only failed to make her feel better, but actually held her back.

He became disabled while digging the well and was bedridden all day long. He had a young daughter at the time.

Fortunately, she was able to hold on, support the family alone, and counterattack in life with her fierce energy.

What impressed me most was that she was alone, struggling to pull a cart, dragging her husband, children and all their belongings, and embarked on the road to immigrate to Jintan Village.

She walked against the yellow sand, step by step, for 7 days and 7 nights, covering more than 400 kilometers.

When she arrived, she smiled, but I cried, tears welling up in my eyes.

As a woman, I was impressed by her energy, but I sympathized even more with the suffering she experienced.

If there is a strong backing and a warm haven, which woman will force herself to be strong?

When a woman feels that the other person is too weak to protect herself, she will become very strong.

Because only by becoming stronger can you give yourself a constant sense of security.

Because only if you become stronger, others will not think you are easy to bully.

Because only when you become more domineering will you become more difficult to deal with.

04

Feelings are like a pair of chopsticks. Only when a man takes one and a woman takes one can we move forward.

A pair of chopsticks can only pick up things if they advance and retreat at the same time.

Only when the yin and yang of a pair of chopsticks are harmonious can nature take its course.

A pair of chopsticks work together to live a good life.

Men and women are couples who want to support each other throughout their lives.

Don’t always let a woman feel chilled in an instant.

Don’t always turn a blind eye to a woman’s efforts.

Don’t always pretend to be a good person outside and make women feel sad at home.

Men’s shoulders are naturally wider than women’s, giving her more support.

Men naturally have greater responsibilities than women, so be more considerate to her.

Men are inherently more knowledgeable than women, so coax her more and take a step back to make the world brighter!

Rumeng Fengfei: Why not change the world with the power of gentleness?