What should married women do in the face of life pressure and marital changes?

Introduction: Women are facing the pressure of life and marriage changes. As long as you dare to change yourself, you can be like live high.

Men are mountains, women are water; Men are trees and women are vines.

Since ancient times, men's rights and responsibilities in marriage have been described as a towering mountain and a tall tree.

Describe the gentleness and dependence of women in marriage, just like a rippling lake and vines wrapped around a big tree.

It seems that women have mountains to rely on when they get married; With marriage, there is a big tree entanglement; With marriage, there will be a quiet day.

However, does the sense of security of women in real marriage really depend on mountains for food?

The answer is two unquestionable words: no!

Because the years are never calm and the world is never stable.

A married woman can only live as she likes if she tries her best.

1, as long as you try to change, you can look like live high.

Liu Mintao, a 43-year-old actress, once gave a speech at the annual People's Women's Power Festival. She has a capable white suit, exquisite makeup and neat short hair, without any obstacles. She described her seven-year home life and the psychological process of returning to the entertainment industry with superb acting skills after divorce.

For an actress, seven years is the golden period of accumulating contacts and performing arts.

Because of love, she chose marriage and supported her husband to earn money to support his family all the year round.

In order to be a good wife and mother, she chose to be a full-time housewife, a little woman who supported her husband's work, and quietly waited for her husband to go home and reunite.

She tries her best to take care of everything at home. She said that she likes this quiet life, and she thought that her life would always be so happy.

For seven years, she refused any film contract, and she had almost no communication with the outside world.

Her world has become smaller, so small that except for her husband, it is children and home.

I believe that many housewives who have no financial ability will have an experience when they stay at home for a long time. The days when couples get together less and leave more will make marriage too fragile.

In the later days, the number of times my husband went home gradually decreased, and marriage became a form.

There is no marriage where husband and wife care for each other, and the family that once loved each other has no temperature of love. Such days are really a kind of torture for women.

Life has become boring and suffocating, and life has no sense of value for her as a full-time wife. She didn't live as she liked in her marriage.

She said that every night, lying alone in bed and looking up at the ceiling in an empty and cold room made her feel inexplicable pain and pressure.

She doesn't want to live this hateful life without herself anymore. She wants to find herself again.

She left her suffocating marriage.

Liu Mintao, who has left the show business for seven years, is facing the pressure of a large number of new people in the show business, and she will try to find herself. I tried various roles and won applause for myself again with my superb acting skills.

Seven years, not to mention a middle-aged actress without any age advantage, is an ordinary person, and it will also erase the fighting spirit she once had.

Even a suffocating life will compromise with life and be content with the status quo.

Faced with the pressure of marriage and family, Liu Mintao did not compromise. She laughed at herself and said that she belonged to "middle-aged rebellion".

In fact, there is no middle-aged rebellion, only pressure is like a spring. The greater the pressure, the greater the rebound.

Liu Mintao, an indomitable middle-aged woman, proved herself again.

Whenever you are under pressure, as long as you are conscious and dare to change yourself, you can be what live high likes.

As long as you are not satisfied with the present situation, you can look like you are living a high life.

I attended a colleague's son's wedding reception this weekend, and met a former colleague who had not seen for many years and had already emigrated.

When she was young, she graduated from Huazhong University of Science and Technology and was assigned to work in the unit and my department.

At that time, there were many young people in our department, but because of the stable system, everyone had no pressure and was very satisfied with their present life.

We young people often organize entertainment activities after work.

What impressed me most was that when a group of young people were binge eating and drinking, she was always not so gregarious and was reading a new concept English book.

She and I are both very introverted and gentle, and we never talk much among a group of active young people. I always like words, and occasionally I write some melodramatic words. She said that she enjoyed chatting with me very much.

I remember that the topic she talked to me the most was that she came from the countryside and could have gone to Shenzhen for better development when she graduated. Because of love, she chose to work in the same city with her husband, who comes from a family in Gao Qian and has good economic conditions.

However, her parents-in-law don't like her. Although she graduated from a prestigious school, her husband's family always felt that she was from the countryside and often needed financial help from her family.

She has a feeling of dependence on others. Although she earns a salary, when eating at the family dinner table, her mother-in-law always reminds her intentionally or unintentionally not to let financial help become a bottomless pit.

She even reminded her by innuendo that if her son had listened to them, he would have found a suitable family and joined hands in career and economy.

When she first got married, her husband would say a few words for her. Later, the number of times increased, and her husband gradually stopped speaking for her.

Sometimes I feel wronged, my husband will say that she is small-minded and her mother-in-law is telling the truth. Her parents who farm at home really need her financial help.

Later, the husband who occasionally had family conflicts began to have a cold war with her. Looking at her husband's family, she felt too lonely in that family.

She got into a fight and asked her husband to go out with her and live alone. Her husband flatly refused and made it clear that he would not live alone with her, but only with his parents.

My husband even said that he was not satisfied. There was no need to do any housework at home, and there was a special nanny aunt.

She finds marriage suffocating and life stressful. The love that once made her desperate has now become like chicken ribs.

She doesn't want to work in such a system that can see the end at a glance. She is afraid that such a rhythmic day will make her lose the courage and ability to fight.

Later, due to job transfer, I gradually lost contact with her. I just heard from my colleague that she is divorced.

Returning to single, I am busy studying and studying every day. I have been admitted to a famous foreign school and am ready to resign and go abroad.

At that time, I was married and had just given birth. I am troubled by the trivia of marriage and family life, and my work is not smooth. I have no mind or energy to pay attention to her life.

The last time I saw her, she invited me to dinner with my colleagues before she resigned and prepared to study abroad.

I don't remember what I told her that day, and I don't remember her words of comfort and encouragement when we met in a hurry for more than an hour that day, but I know that she was working hard for her dream.

What happened at the wedding reception this weekend only exposed the difficulty of her going abroad.

Her family can't afford to live abroad. She works while studying to earn living expenses.

She said that she is one of the hardest-working students in China in that school, and the loneliness of being alone in a foreign country at night is eroding her lonely heart all the time.

She studies and works hard and doesn't give herself a chance to breathe and feel sorry for herself.

At that time, her life, when she opened her eyes, was to study and work to make money, and when she closed her eyes, she was to sleep.

Kōnosuke Matsushita said: There is nothing I can do about it.

So she survived the most stressful years.

Life is like this, where you pay, you will get something back.

She completed the knowledge accumulation in Singapore and began to have a stable job, becoming the core technical personnel of the company's research and development.

Later, the days began to go smoothly. She got married and had children in Singapore, and her husband, like her, was from the countryside. They all worked hard by themselves and finally lived the life they wanted.

Life will never fail everyone who works hard, and now she and her husband are very happy.

My husband loves her very much and gives both parents enough financial help every year to make them happy in their later years.

This time, we were together at the wedding reception of our former colleague's son. At the wedding banquet of just over two hours, we talked about the past for so many years.

She said she was glad to see that after so many years of precipitation, I had an upward force of combining rigidity with softness.

I said that I was glad that she was intellectually wise today, which reminded me of the little girl who wore glasses many years ago and was thin but kept forging ahead.

In fact, we all know that the so-called years are quiet and the world is stable, but we bite our teeth and bear all the pressures given by life. Under the clear water and blue sky, breathe fresh air and live what you like.

What I am most afraid of is to compromise with life while complaining about the pressure of life.

I remember my daughter met Xiaoyu's mother when she was in primary school because she often participated in offline activities organized by her parents.

When I first met Xiaoyu's mother, I thought she looked ordinary and dressed simply, but I thought: a mother who can attach importance to education must also be a very hard-working mother.

It happens that our two families live very close. Every weekend, I will drive my two children to the suburbs to play together, so that the two children can have playmates and our two parents can have tea and chat together.

Gradually, we got to know each other. She always said that she envied me: she was six years older than her, but she was full of energy every day.

She envies me that I can dress up young and beautiful every day, drive my own car, take my children to travel every holiday, and often see my husband pick us up at the school gate.

I said she, you can do all these things!

She told me that her marriage was suffocating, and her husband disliked her low income, bad housekeeping and strong vanity. She likes to learn from other parents and take her children to attend training classes everywhere, which makes her husband under great pressure.

Mother-in-law also hates her, saying that she gives her son too much financial pressure.

She is very dissatisfied with the financial work of this small company now. The boss is too stingy, the salary is very low, and the relationship between colleagues in the office is very tense.

She said that all dreams and energy are spent on children, and the mood fluctuates with the children's learning situation every day.

She also wants to be beautiful and attractive, but the economic situation doesn't allow it.

She shuttles between work and home every day, feeling extremely depressed and suffocating.

I said, you can take CPA exam while working, and then jump ship when the time is ripe! You can increase your economic income by improving your ability.

With the confidence to increase your income, you will have the ability to dominate your life and the confidence to change jobs. When you have the ability to control your life and be the best you can be, the quality of life will naturally improve.

She said that she was very busy every day and had no time to read books. Besides, her age is no longer the age to study.

She said that she couldn't communicate with her husband, and her education and age couldn't change jobs.

She was only in her early thirties, which left me speechless. ...

You are not satisfied with your present job and income and don't work hard. You are not satisfied with your present marriage and family life. You didn't fight for it.

You don't want to be looked down upon. You don't want to face the pressure of life. What can you do except work hard?

While complaining about the pressure of life, compromise to life, then you can only maintain the status quo, then you can only compromise.

You know, every annoying moment has a self that has never tried to change, so you can only live in the way you hate.

The writer Huang Tongtong once said: Every adult is a survivor.

In the face of life pressure and marital changes, a woman should be a resilient female warrior all her life.

There is a saying in ancient poetry: "But since the water is still flowing, although we use swords to cut it", which fully and vividly illustrates the resilience and strength of women.

As long as you persist and persist, life will really become amazing.

Every effort you make, life will give back to you at some point.

There is really no road in life for nothing. Women can only live high if they try their best!