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Beijing daughter-in-law looked down on rural in-laws, and the marriage ended 10. M: It's a pity that I only looked at the conditions, not the character and chara

Beijing daughter-in-law looked down on rural in-laws, and the marriage ended 10. M: It's a pity that I only looked at the conditions, not the character and character.

Yang Yang (pseudonym) 182, handsome and handsome. He is a doctor from Zhejiang University, and now he teaches in a university in Beijing. When I was in college, I chased his junior, but only two people made him value it:

Zhou (pseudonym), who lives in Beijing, has a father who is a business owner and a mother who is an executive of a central enterprise. Her family conditions are beyond the reach of ordinary people. She is very beautiful. Although supercilious, she is infatuated with Yang Yang, willing to commit herself to chasing her, and often obedient.

Zhang Keke (pseudonym) is a high school alumnus of Yang Yang. His parents' jobs are the same as Yang Yang's. My father is a rural middle school teacher and my mother is a rural primary school teacher. His family conditions are very ordinary. She is not a beauty queen, but the attention of boys is by no means higher than that of the beauty queen. She is gentle and considerate, and anyone will feel comfortable with her. Yang Yang is the goddess in her eyes. No matter how much Zhou despised her, she never gave up her bitter pursuit of Yangyang.

In the face of two girls' hearts and passionate pursuit, it is difficult for Yang Yang to choose. So he asked his parents for help. His father thinks that Zhang Keke and Yang Yang are a good match, and they are nice and considerate, so they are more suitable for Yang Yang. His mother thinks that Zhou's family condition is very good, which is very helpful for the future development of Yang Yang and more suitable for Yang Yang. The differences between parents made it more difficult for Yang Yang to decide. So during his study, he never made a choice between two girls.

After Zhou graduated from undergraduate course, he returned to Beijing and entered his father's enterprise. Zhang Keke returned to the local provincial capital and was admitted to the national civil service. Both of them have very good jobs, and their pursuit of Yang Yang has never been relaxed.

Perhaps by chance, Yang Yang applied to teach at a university in Beijing after finishing his PhD. Zhou took the lead in attacking, and his pursuit of Yang Yang was even more enthusiastic. When Yang Yang arrived in Beijing, he found that with his own efforts and the help of his parents, there was still a long way to go to buy a house in Beijing. Needless to say, if he chooses Zhang Keke, he will have to endure the pain in a different place. After careful consideration, he chose Zhou He and refused. His parents are also very supportive of his choice.

The wedding of Yang Yang and Zhou was held in Beijing on New Year's Day. The ostentation and extravagance opened Yang Yang's parents' eyes, and for the first time, they felt the huge gap between the countryside and the motherland's capital. They are even more proud and happy that Yang married a daughter-in-law like Zhou. Because of their busy work, Yang Yang's parents arrived in Beijing on the first day, attended their wedding the next day, left the hotel early the next morning and hurried home.

After Zhou and Yang Yang got married, they never went back to their hometown in Yang Yang with Yang Yang. Yang Yang has also become to go home once every three to five years, staying for two or three days at most. Yang Yang's parents miss their son and daughter-in-law, so they give Yang Yang the idea of going out to Beijing every winter and summer vacation, but Yang Yang always finds various reasons to refuse and refuse.

Zhou gave birth to a son, and Yangyang's parents were very happy. Despite Yang Yang's opposition, they brought many local products to Beijing to visit their daughters-in-law and grandchildren. Yang Yang arranged for them to stay in a hotel when they could live at home. When her mother-in-law wanted to hold her grandson, Zhou disagreed, saying that the child was too young for outsiders to hold. Yang Yang's parents saw Zhou and her parents ignored them and left Beijing only three days later.

Yang Yang's parents think there is something wrong with his son's daughter-in-law. Yang Yang said that he and Zhou have a good relationship and love each other. However, Zhou doesn't want to go to the countryside. He doesn't like the living habits of rural people. He has always felt that people who work and live in rural areas are very rustic and ignorant. Helpless, for the sake of their son's happiness, Yang Yang's parents have to admit it.

The year before last, Yang Yang's son was six years old, but he had never seen it with his own eyes. Although Yang Yang's parents often video with their grandchildren, they always feel that they are very different. Spending more time with grandchildren has become the greatest wish of Yang Yang's parents.

Yangyang finally got through Zhou's ideological work and agreed to take advantage of his summer vacation to lead his son back to his parents' home for a week. Yang Yang was grateful to Zhou and got on the plane with her son excitedly.

Just got off the plane, Yang Yang's mother-in-law called and told Yang Yang to take her son back to Beijing immediately. Yang Yang didn't know what this meant, but she was stunned by her mother-in-law's rage. He hung up the phone, planning to come to a foreign military order and continue to take the children back to their parents' home. Suddenly, a limousine stopped in front of him, and two fashionable-looking people got off. After confirming Yang Yang's identity, they pulled Yang Yang and his son into the car and drove back to Beijing ... Yangyang knew that this was his father-in-law's bullying.

Afterwards, Yang Yang's parents felt that their son was too timid to hold his head in front of his parents-in-law and could not make a decision in front of his wife. Zhou He's parents simply look down on their rural teachers' families. Their family married a daughter-in-law, almost 10 years, and only met twice; I have been a grandson for six years, but I haven't spent a day together; I've been married to my children's in-laws for almost 10 years, but I haven't been in touch ... It's really an old saying in the countryside: marry a daughter-in-law! The more Yangyang's father thought about it, the angrier he became. He often complains that Yang Yang's mother is snobbish. Yang Yang's mother sighs every day and regrets her original suggestion.

In less than half a year, Yang Yang's mother was admitted to the hospital because of grief. After examination, it was diagnosed as advanced breast cancer. Yangyang got Zhou's consent and brought her mother to Beijing for treatment. Spend weeks of money, and have no complaints. But I just don't agree with my mother-in-law to live in their house, and I don't let my son get close to her, let alone do my daughter-in-law's filial piety. Her view is that she loves Yang Yang and has no obligation to love Yang Yang's parents.

Not long ago, Yang Yang's mother died. She left with regret and never saw her grandson again before she died. When her ashes were buried, Yang Yang's wife and son still didn't appear. Yangyang's father was in tears and didn't say a word. Yangyang felt guilty and disappointed in Zhou.

Yang Yang returned to Beijing and met Zhang Keke and his party at the airport. It turned out that after Zhang Keke was rejected by Yang Yang, she found a local civil servant as her husband in the local provincial capital. Married life is very happy, my daughter is only 5 years old, and she is usually looked after by her mother-in-law and grandfather. She never imagined that after leading her father-in-law, mother-in-law, husband and daughter to Beijing for a week, when she was ready to return, she met the male god who had been struggling to pursue. Zhang Keke was generous. He briefly introduced Yang Yang's family and invited them to stay. Yang Yang looked at the back of the Zhang Keke family helping each other, and his heart was full of envy and loss. ...

Later, in less than three months, Yang Yang left home cleanly at the expense of giving up custody of his son, ending his marriage with Zhou Changda 10.

Conclusion:

As the saying goes, if you open the wrong door, you miss your life. Therefore, we must be careful in choosing a spouse.

When choosing a spouse, it mainly depends on personality and character, followed by the other party and family conditions. Conditions can be changed, but character and character are hard to change. A leopard cannot change his spots!

When choosing a daughter-in-law, it is best to choose a sensible girl. In the future, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be better and the son will feel better.

Even if the conditions are similar and the family is harmonious, they are very happy. Even if the family is rich, it is very painful to be noisy and awkward at home.

You can't choose, you can't live with good conditions, and you can't live with poor conditions. Although sensible but not discerning, I still need to find products with good personal taste.

Finding a daughter-in-law is not a supermarket choice, nor is it a shopping choice. Marrying a daughter-in-law is a lifetime thing, so character must be supreme.

In this case, I personally suggest that you must choose a girl with poor family conditions but sensible people as your wife, and never choose a girl with superior family conditions but proud people as your wife.

The reason is actually very simple and practical.

A person's family situation is not eternal, but can be changed at any time. Just because this year is not good does not mean that next year is not good. If next year is not good, it doesn't mean it will never be good. As long as the daughter-in-law is sensible and does not make trouble, as long as the family is hardworking, hardworking and simple, the family conditions will always get better.

However, once girls develop arrogant habits and temperament, it is often difficult to change them in the future, and even become a problem in dealing with people.

As the saying goes, a leopard cannot change his spots. Living with a proud daughter-in-law for a long time, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to maintain, even very bad. In the long run, it is likely to lead to family unhappiness.

When looking for a daughter-in-law, we must remember a principle, that is, "the door is right." Although this principle was handed down from feudal society, it still applies today. It is not the best choice to choose poor conditions or good conditions.

I have a classmate who has a good family condition, but it is difficult to find a wife. People who like him, he despises others. He likes others and others don't like him. Finally, at the age of 35, under the pressure of my parents, I married a daughter-in-law with poor conditions. At that time, I wanted to find a daughter-in-law from a poor family to do a good job. And the result? My wife and mother-in-law asked for a bride price of 220 thousand, and there was no dowry at all Fortunately, his daughter-in-law is really a good worker and keeps the house in good order. But I just can't stand my mother-in-law family. It doesn't matter if I bring something from his house. The point is that I can't stand borrowing money. Today, my mother-in-law bought a house, and tomorrow my brother-in-law got married, which cost another 300 thousand. I don't know how many times the couple quarreled over these things, but finally they divorced without seven years' itch.

Later, a friend introduced him to a second-married woman with good family conditions. As a result, the woman asked him to buy a house in the provincial capital in full, and said that it would be a shame to find a provincial capital without a house according to her conditions, and she also asked that she must buy a car with a starting price of 500,000. My classmates' parents all heard it, so forget it! Let's find a family with average conditions! After all, my family really doesn't have that ability. What happens after marriage?

Nowadays, finding the right person for marriage means not only the same family conditions, but also the other person's education, job, income, appearance and so on. Otherwise, it can't be said that marriage will definitely break up, but at least it will go through a long running-in period of marriage life. There is also that everything is constantly changing, and both husband and wife should make progress after marriage. Otherwise, if one party makes progress and the other party doesn't, the marriage will end sooner or later.

Question: When looking for a daughter-in-law, do you choose a less sensible condition or a better one?

A person's arrogance has little to do with his superior conditions. If two girls are arrogant, one is superior and the other is almost, people will say that the girl with superior conditions is arrogant because she has superior conditions and will think that this girl is melodramatic.

For girls with poor qualifications and very proud, they will say that they have backbone. Frankly speaking, in fact, arrogance is a person's nature or character, not entirely pride caused by superiority.

As for choosing a daughter-in-law, you should know that a daughter-in-law is first of all a son's wife and a son's lifelong companion, depending on what his son likes. In other words, your son likes what your mother-in-law likes. You can't ask what kind of person is suitable to be a daughter-in-law, and what kind of person should be liked by your son and let him accompany you for a lifetime.

Daughter-in-law adapts to your son first, your son likes it, and girls like your son. There is no problem at all. If you are just used to being your daughter-in-law, where did you put your son?

No matter the condition is bad or good, the appearance is ugly or beautiful, personality, quality and education are very important.

Since we are proud of our superior conditions, I believe that many people's choices are absolutely unnecessary. A girl who is not qualified and sensible enough believes that rational people will choose. In today's society, as long as you are willing to work hard and make progress, why worry about not having a car, a house or a balance? As long as you spell it yourself, you can use it with peace of mind. Eating soft food may not have a good end, and you often feel inferior in front of your wife. It is better to marry a sensible daughter-in-law.

My son graduated from Yunnan University, and now a well-known game company in Shenzhen is engaged in game research and development, and he is the project director of the research and development project himself. Due to the needs of R&D business, I want to recruit several artists and copywriters. In the recruitment process, through mutual understanding, two primary school girls have a good impression on him.

One is from the Central Academy of Fine Arts, which is elegant. My home is in Beijing, and my parents are both civil servants. According to the son, the initial contact may not be as good as the ability to take care of the family, but it is generous and decent. A little more contact, feeling a little princess disease.

The other is from Chengdu Youshi University, not as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade, but medium. My family is from Urumqi, Xinjiang, my father is a middle school worker, and my mother is a large insurance company HR. This girl has a little more contact and feels delicate and gentle. For example, her son jokingly asked her that we are all only children. If you get married in the future, where will you go for the New Year? The little girl will say that he will live wherever he goes. I always care for my son. And said to his son, you know that your mother has paid a lot for your study and life, and you should find a sensible daughter-in-law to be filial to her. What moved me most was that I asked my son to spend more time with his parents during the Spring Festival holiday. He was busy at work and seldom went home.

My son is a little confused. Let me give him some advice. He said that it is not because of looks and family economic conditions, but because those with high academic qualifications have advantages for the next generation, and those with gentle personality are conducive to family harmony. I said respect his choice. Finally, he said, this girl in Xinjiang is now dropping out of school for treatment at home because of depression, fearing to hurt her unintentionally. Speaking of which, I'm not struggling, I'm worried about my son. [Cover your face]

In fact, many in-laws simply look down on such a woman. No matter how sensible they are, they will be bullied, disliked and cherished by their husbands because of poor conditions.

A woman with superior conditions may be lazy or even do nothing, but some in-laws please such a woman instead, thinking that the woman is rich and dare not bully her daughter-in-law, and even give her everything as a bride price room, thinking that marrying a rich daughter-in-law is very dignified.

One is poor and sensible, and the other is rich and proud. Choose which one according to your family situation. If your family conditions are good, choose a sensible woman. If your family is poor, choose the rich one. Marriage is complementary, and the poor can't find the poor, otherwise they will be poorer.

Moreover, the poorer the man's family, the more he will dislike women who have no money. If the woman doesn't dislike the man, the man will dislike the woman, and he won't like it if he gets married. So if your family has no money, don't harm a woman who has no money and is sensible.

Find a daughter-in-law who is not sensible, as long as she is good in character and virtuous, and has no money to earn with her son and daughter-in-law. If you choose the one with superior conditions and a little arrogance, it will be easy to get married because of low wages, and all kinds of willfulness will eventually lead to family conflicts.

In fact, there has always been a saying that finding a wife should be based on your own conditions. There is no need to climb girls with superior conditions because of their average conditions. It is not easy for such a girl to live together for a lifetime even if she marries in the door.

However, it is up to the son to decide what kind of daughter-in-law to find. Because the son and daughter-in-law live together, if the son doesn't like it, the relationship between husband and wife will not be harmonious and family life will not be happy. So the old man's point of view can only be used for his son's reference.